We want to marry but are we even allowed to?

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My boyfriend and I are 100 % certain that we want to marry as soon as we can and have kids and be united in Christ the rest of our lives. We met 2015 november when I was a muslim and he was a protestant. A month later, I left islam and found truth in protestantism. A year and a half later, we both by accident stumbled across traditional latin mass catholicism, and we were both convinced it was the final path we both wanted to commit to, including all that it entailed. The amount of time we’ve spent with each other: 2 and a half years; which is 2 years we’ve been in contact 24/7 (literally) on Skype or on phone, and total of 4 months we’ve been under the same roof (no option for going on dates because we live in separate countries, so when i’ve visited for short increments, i’ve stayed at his place, with separate beds and no sex being the thumb rule). How much do we know each other by now? We know everything, we are each other’s main persons in our life. We do the marriage stuff in advance to prepare for actual married life. We are on the same page on every single moral/ethic aspect and church teaching. His family loves me and accepts me, I unfortunately no longer have a family, but I guess that’s out of the way. It’s basically – what are you waiting for, just get married. But! My question to you is: What exactly are the requirements to get married, as in, to be allowed to stand on that altar, and what do we have to have “prepared” before the actual marriage? I’m 27, he’s 30. : )
 
EDIT: English is not my native language, so i apologize in advance if i express myself in a funny way. The cohabitation we view as visitation because the intention and duration is not of cohabitation, and the circumstances are so poor that there are simply no better options at the moment, just a heads up so you guys don’t need to worry about that. We are still yet newly converted catholics in that we believe and follow commandments while trying to get a hold of a proper traditional church and learn the faith better, because we have yet to be officially part of the church (no confession etc done except protestant baptism for both of us).
 
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The first thing to do is go to an orthodox priest and ask him for his council and what the next steps are for you. I cannot give you the best advice because Im not sure since you are both still have to go through RCIA.

For a Sacramental marriage to take place you both
1)must be validly baptized
2)must understand that marriage is indissoluable and unitive
3)consummate the marriage

For validity you both must be open and honest about your past, must intend to desire children among other things pertaining to marriage. Go see the priest.

I wish you the best.
 
You have been baptized Catholic. I would say you are “good to go.” However, confer with your parish priest.
 
The first step you two should take is to enter the Catholic Church. You will both will probably have to go through RCIA which is basically a few classes about what the Church is. That can take anywhere from a year to less than that. You’re marriage will come either after that or with it.

But, like everyone has said, find a priest and talk to him. He should be able to give you more specifics about timelines and all that.

Good luck!!!
 
We’ve both been baptized in protestant churches, I was baptized last year (a week before i found catholicism with him weird enough) and he was baptized as a little child. Does it count as catholic baptism or does the priest have to do something different to make it catholic?
 
Ask long as the baptism was valid, it counts as baptism.
 
Thank you all for your comments and advice, I will look into everything you say!
 
If your two were baptized in the Name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit with water you are good.
 
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We’ve both been baptized in protestant churches, I was baptized last year (a week before i found catholicism with him weird enough) and he was baptized as a little child. Does it count as catholic baptism or does the priest have to do something different to make it catholic?
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It more than likely counts as a true baptism. Was the Baptism done in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy spirit. This is important. What denommination was the protestant church? most mainline Protestant churches have a valid baptism.

It is also possible to be married in the Protestant church also. This would be allowed. YOu can thean enter the church as a married couple. For me though I would wait until I was Catholic so I could enjoy the graces of having a wedding Mass!

Cheers and God Bless!
 
Thanks! Well mine was baptist church, his was evangelical. I am absolutely craving a wedding mass, is that what it takes? Then that is what i will do. : )
 
No, you should enter the Catholic Church first before you marry. That would make the whole thing much easier.

Besides, Catholics have awesome weddings. Especially Latin Mass weddings. 😀
 
We are going strict latin mass, as traditional as can be. And there’s nothing but love for it. : )
 
Yes to have the wedding Mass and receive the Eucharist one must be Catholic
 
The RCIA programs i have seen are about 25 classes long but this may vary. Check with your local parish to learn how long it will take in your case.
 
Cool. I go to a Latin Mass parish. If you have any questions about the Latin Mass just ask. Or PM me if you don’t want to derail the thread. And I just went to a wedding on Saturday at the Latin Mass parish. It was beautiful.
 
Also, cohabitation could be a problem and lead to temptation. In my opinion I would work something out where you dont live together until after the marriage.
 
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