Wearing a veil (like any other clothing) is neither good nor evil but depends on where it is worn and with what intention.
I really think that we are claiming the same thing but we’re coming at it from a different way.
What I am saying, and I think you agree, is that if wearing something is good (and since wearing a veil was not only done as a good, but as an actual ‘obedience’ for centuries, and has not been ‘corrected’ by canon law revision of 1983–IOW, they do not say, “no longer wear a veil” but instead “the choice is yours”), then it is good despite the ‘appearance’ to others.
Thus, Ms. X wears a veil because she honors the Lord.
Ms. Y wears it to look ‘extra pious’.
Ms. Y is wrong, NOT for wearing the veil (which is good), but for her wrong intention. The wrong intention has really nothing to do with whether wearing the veil is good or not. See what I mean?
Ms. A wears a veil and gets pointed out.
Ms. B wears one and nobody notices.
Therefore, Ms. A should stop wearing the veil, but Ms. B should not.
Again, see the logical disconnect? One does not stop doing a good because somebody objects. What is ‘right’ for Ms. B is right, not because “nobody notices” but because it is a right action. The action of wearing the veil is right regardless of whether the onlookers notice or not. The INTENTION (as opposed to the action itself) of the person DOING the action does not impact on the action; thus, Ms. Y’s internal sin of wanting to ‘look pious’ does not invalidate the good of wearing a veil; what it does it invalidate any grace which she may have merited through the pious action.
Remember what Jesus said? Do not fast ‘as the hypocrites do’, they do not wash their faces and look glum so everybody knows they are fasting’. Note that Jesus did not say, “Do not fast because people might guess you’re fasting, or might chid you, or judge you”. The action of fasting is good. Jesus goes on to say, “I assure you, they have had their reward”. IOW, rather than receiving the merit of that good action which they would have gotten from doing this for GOD instead of for themselves, to look ‘good’ for others’, the ‘superior feeling’ or the praise of others was their reward.
Ms. Y will get her ‘ego boo’ from her pious action–and that’s it. She didn’t do it for God–it will not be accounted to her as the righteous act it was.