Wedding ceremony questions?

[Viki59]

I’m not Hispanic, but my husband is, and we had the lasso and the coins. Our lasso is a silver and white rope with white flowers on one end, which my stepdaughter made us (as the ones in stores were outrageously expensive.)
The coins were a gift from a relative, in a little silver filagreed box that fits in your palm; the coins are smaller than dimes. We keep the lasso draped on our wedding photo in the living room and the coin box on the mantel. I think the customs are charming, I had no strong feelings one way or the other, I just went along with them to keep the Hispanic side of the family happy (mostly my husband).
Don’t let your mother hijack your wedding. As other posters have said, talk to the priest, work it out with him and stay happy. Your mother will have to choose to go along with your decision or make a scene; just be loving and expect the best. If you let her tell you how to handle the wedding, it may not stop there . . .how to raise the children, handle the finances, etc etc.
God bless you and I know you will have a lovely wedding.

 

[puzzleannie]

bear in mind that it is possible mothers, MILs, grandmas, dads etc. raise such relatively and make them a point of conflict to avoid talking about their real issues which could be anything from the fact that one is marrying a non-Catholic, to the fact that you are getting married at all and beloved elder is losing control over you. It may not be that easy to uncover the real issues.

A flood of memories about massive objections and barriers raised by in-laws to our marriage has come back to haunt me. None of these WW3 issues they raised dealt with their real issue, which was they thought we were too young and I was the wrong social class.