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I know 3 couples getting married next year. Most of the individuals were at least baptized Catholic. I thought it would be a good idea to send a gift ahead of the wedding. I am considering a book a wondered if anyone has read it or would give other recommendations.

It is by Dr. Ted Sri Men, Women and the Mystery of Love

womenofgrace.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=309

This is based on John Paul Love and Responsibility. I know the author is often on EWTN.

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Hi - I’ve been looking for suitable books for engagement/wedding gifts too - although relatively few of my engaged friends are Catholic.

The book you linked to looks really interesting, although I haven’t come across it (I’ll put it on my wishlist, along with Good News about Sex and Marriage by Christopher West which I seen recommended by many).

For Catholics, personally I would recommend the book my husband and I read during our engagement, which was recommended to us by our priest: A Daring Promise by Richard R. Gaillardetz. The author is a Catholic scholar, if I remember rightly, who is also a husband and father - he writes very clearly about Church teaching and how it can be actually lived in a marriage.

I’ll be interested to see others’ recommendations too 🙂
 
While I think both suggestions are good gifts, they are so only if the couple is likely to read them. Just being Catholic doesn’t mean that they will appreciate what you are giving them. Take it from a mom who gave her daughter a book of readings and blessings called “Marriage”. It sits on a shelf, never opened and never likely to be looked at, even if said daughter is a voracious reader.

As for non-readers, they rarely regard a book as a nice gift, regardless of the topic.
 
Speaking as a bride who is getting married in less than two months, who has received a fair share of stuff that was off registry. It’s a 90% shot that book will never get touched EVER, until it’s garage saled. Get something off the registry, or send a check. It’s either something the couple decided together that they wanted (registry) or it’s something they need (money).

While I understand the idea, and think it’s great that you want to do the book thing, chances are the couple (if they are anything like me, my fiance and my friends) is VERY busy with a combination of, or all of the following : house hunting, work, school, planning the wedding, navigating new family waters, going to friends weddings, being in other friends weddings, and occasionally sleeping.

Also, unless you know the couple VERY well and you have been to their homes, don’t go off registry, don’t buy them art. I have 2 pottery vases that are some of the fugliest things I have ever seen in my life and a painting that can only be loved by the artist and his or her mother. While I am grateful that the people who purchased the items took time out of their busy lives to purchase something for me, and I am grateful they came to the shower, I feel bad that they wasted their hard earned money on stuff I wouldn’t give to someone I disliked intensely. I am currently comtemplating ways to destroy the vases (or at least find alternative uses for, ashtrays? loose change holders? weapons in case we ever get broken into?) , and trying to decide if the oil paint will hinder or enhance a bonfire, of course I could always submit it to the Museum of Bad Art…
 
marietta said:
The best gift is the one that disappears.

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Ok, I hope I am not making a fool of myself right now, and it might be a sign I need to get to bed now, but I can’t figure this one out. What is the gift that disappears?
 
lifeisbeautiful:

Food, personalized soaps, a cord of wood for the fireplace - anything like that that won’t collect cobwebs in the basement after two years. They are appreciated as they are used, and they will need less storage space as time goes on.

I’ll bet you can think of some more!

marietta
 
marietta said:
lifeisbeautiful:

Food, personalized soaps, a cord of wood for the fireplace - anything like that that won’t collect cobwebs in the basement after two years. They are appreciated as they are used, and they will need less storage space as time goes on.

I’ll bet you can think of some more!

marietta
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Ahhh… lol, ok gotcha! 👍
 
Unless I missed it, I’m surprised this one has not been suggested yet:

[Three To Get Married](22230 Woodward Ave) by Bishop Fulton Sheen

Outstanding book!!👍

~Liza
 
My fiance and I are getting married soon and I am happy to talk about happier topics such as gifts instead of in-laws. We found weddingchannel.com will give you a free website to set up registries. You can also set up multiple registries so you can perfect stuff. Also one of the registries you can get is Amazon.com for the stuff that most married couples don’t ever think to put on their registry. For instance my fiance is a professional athlete and an agroscientist so we needed gardening tools for the meditation garden in the backyard. We have about four different crosses on there. The only thing we couldn’t find (and yes - that big expensive gift that we don’t actually expect anyone to buy us the 52" HDTV Plasma TV) was the statues of our patron saints for the meditation garden. Believe it or not Joan of Arc and Saint Jude were hard to find without paying thousands of dollars. We finally got those on ebay for under $250 with shipping.

The cool thing about this site though is you can link all of your registries to the charity of your choice so when any of your guests buy off your registry a donation goes to that charity in your name. For us it was the March of Dimes because my late grandparents (it is my late grandmother’s engagement ring I am wearing- it fit perfectly - they were married 66 years when they passed away) were the secretary and treasurer of their local chapter for a while. It is www.weddingchannel.com. It also has other great utilities on there like checklists and budget planners, etc.

I also found this other cool website during father’s day because I wanted to get my fiance something special. If you to google and type in charities and gifts you should find it - but it allows you to give someone a charitable gift. i.e. - Clear 5m of a minefield in Africa for sports, vaccinate 50 children, etc. They have everything you can think of. I got him a donation to this one charity that teaches young boys non-violence towards women by giving them mentors. He almost cried. They send the recipient a greeting card which you design or an email card or both.

Hope that helps. Take care and best of luck. 97 days and counting. :cool: 👍
 
I vote for Catholic Household Blessings & Prayers. I recently bought it for my family, and after browsing through it I thought, “This would have been a perfect wedding gift.” It is a prayer book so it is a resource that can be used for all of the everyday occasions a couple experiences during life, and for all the extraordinary ones as well, it has blessings before leaving for work, and school, as well as blessing for pregnancy, birth, weddings, engagements, death, illness-pretty much anything. The book teaches you to pray and give lots of traditional blessing for holidays as well. I am really enjoying my copy. I think that even if a couple isn’t practicing their faith, this book would be a little gem that might get opened as needed and help the couple grow in faith.(I can’t get an image to link but it’s available on Amazon)amazon.com/Catholic-Household-Blessings-Prayers-Committee/dp/1574556452
 
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