Wedding question

[aemcpa]

Yes I will keep asking, thank you

 

[Boulder257]

Whoa please put the pitch forks down…Thank you all for your replies, I’m sorry if I’m sounding judgmental, believe me I have not lived a saintly life and lived with someone before I came home again, I really do wish them the best. I am just ignorant of what I’m supposed to do in this situation. I fully know the family and situation and know they have lived together for some time. I will then attend the wedding. I just honestly wasn’t sure if I was allowed. Thank you all for clearing this up for me. We live in modern times and honestly I don’t know what the rules are for this. As far as wanting a traditional perspective on it, believe it or not there are Catholics who think its ok to live together and use birth control that’s why I wanted a traditionalist angle on this. Thank you all for your help

I’m sorry if my post came off as judgmental or anything like that. That was not my intention. I was only trying to make a simple point. Again, sorry if it came out wrong!

 

[maryjk]

I’ve never been married in the Catholic church but from what I know there is a long learning process that couples go through which is why I’m confused the priest didn’t make them correct their living situation, at the very minimum they are living under the same roof

You have said that they own their home. Do they still have a mortgage? Can they afford to have one of them move out and set up housekeeping in another place? She has a son from another relationship. Is her soon to be husband acting as Dad for this child? Would it hurt the child to have “Dad” move out? Whose name is on the mortgage/deed? That might determine who should move out. Maybe since it isn’t reasonable for either of them to move out, they are sleeping in separate beds.

These might be questions that have been asked and answered by the couple to the priest. He has agreed to marry the couple. They have met his requirements. If after knowing that, you question whether or not to attend the wedding, maybe it is best for you to stay home.

I also lived with my husband before we were married. We were then married by a judge. Then we were married by a priest. We both stayed in the same house the entire time. He never moved out, I never moved out. If someone had come to me, after I had invited them to my church wedding and started telling me what I was doing was wrong, I would have politely told them to take care of the plank in their own eye. Because I was in fact regularizing my situation.

 

[Thomas_Casey]

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