Wedding service or nuptial mass

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my bro is getting married next year. his fiancee is salvation army, he’s catholic. she’s non-practicing. a lot of guests at the wedding are non-catholic. should he opt for a mass or service?
 
He should discuss it with his priest. Typically in a mixed marriage there would be no nuptial Mass.
 
Is it allowed though, because I would like to have one if I get married and I’m in a mixed relationship also.
 
It’s something you will have to discuss with your priest when the time comes.

While it is not prohibited by any canon law, individual priests are the authority in their parish and some do not allow nuptial Masses at all when it is a mixed marriage. Others will allow it.
 
We just did a service.

I’m Catholic. Husband is Lutheran. Only my family is Catholic. None of my sorority sisters, his family, his parents, or his friends [except 1] are Catholic.

It would have been really odd to them.

We did do the presentation of the flowers to the Blessed Mother. I really wanted that.
 
In this case it’s more than a mixed-marriage, it’s a marriage between a Catholic and a non- baptized. The Church would certainly not encourage a Nuptial Mass.
 
my dad said salvationists aren’t baptized, but the girl insisted she was and said all her family is baptized.
 
Baptism is not part of the Salvation Army religion. Nowhere is it mentioned in their Articles of Faith.

They are ‘dedicated’ as infants but not baptized.

Perhaps they joined the Salvation Army after they had been baptized in another Church?
 
Phemie said:
In this case it’s more than a mixed-marriage, it’s a marriage between a Catholic and a non- baptized. The Church would certainly not encourage a Nuptial Mass.
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My impression has always been that a Nuptial Mass is only for two Catholics getting married. If the non-Catholic spouse couldn’t receive Eucharist it would seem like a contradiction of the vows they just professed. Hence it is not encouraged for a marriage between a Catholic and a non-Catholic Christian, even.

I think that you are correct that the priest has the last word, though.
 
ChristinaM said:
My impression has always been that a Nuptial Mass is only for two Catholics getting married. If the non-Catholic spouse couldn’t receive Eucharist it would seem like a contradiction of the vows they just professed. Hence it is not encouraged for a marriage between a Catholic and a non-Catholic Christian, even.

I think that you are correct that the priest has the last word, though.
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Whenever I’ve been asked, I always say that the couple should emphasize the things they have in common in their faith rather than what divides them. DH and I didn’t have a Mass but I recall nothing about the rest except that his ring didn’t fit.

I know that a Mass can be allowed if the Catholic party in a mixed-marriage to a baptized person has his/her heart set on it but for some reason I think the bishop has to approve it.
 
ChristinaM said:
My impression has always been that a Nuptial Mass is only for two Catholics getting married. If the non-Catholic spouse couldn’t receive Eucharist it would seem like a contradiction of the vows they just professed. Hence it is not encouraged for a marriage between a Catholic and a non-Catholic Christian, even.

I think that you are correct that the priest has the last word, though.
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When Nathan and I got married the priest tried to talk us into a Mass even though Nathan isn’t Catholic. I think it may vary Diocese to Diocese. We weren’t married in Atlanta, and the Priest here said he didn’t recommend a full Mass. However, in the parish where we were married back in Pennsylvania [where I grew up], the Priest wanted us to have a Mass…
 
My DH was a convert and thankfully we were both Catholic when we got married, but his entire family wasn’t and mine was… Father gave us the choice and seemed rather pleased when I opted for mass. When communion time came, Father explained our beliefs on communion and asked that we respect them. It was pretty cool.

On the other hand, my gf married a Catholic guy but she was raised Methodist. She goes to mass more often than her dh did/does. They had a service and to be honest, it felt like it was lacking. It was pretty and nice, but it just didn’t feel like a wedding to me without the mass…
 
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