Wedding vows for older couple

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I was listening to Jason Evert on the CA Live rebroadcast this morning. He mentioned that in Catholic weddings the bride and groom declare that they come freely and without reservation, and that they will accept children lovingly from God.

Okay, here’s my question: Are older couples also asked during the ceremony if they will accept children? Or is that part deleted? I can only imagine the snickers and chuckles from the pews when it’s obvious that the bride is well past menopause.
Yes, maybe an older couple will end up having to care for a grandchild or other relative, but that’s pretty rare. I was just wondering about it.
 
We are an older couple married in the Catholic Church. No one laughed or snickered that I am aware of, but I can’t remember if Father mentioned us being open to new life in the ceremony. However in our pre-nuptual class, father did bring this up, and of course we said “if we could we would, but since we can’t, we won’t”. Father said that even though we were no longer child bearing age, it is something he mentions, mainly because it is one of the questions on the list of questions to be checked off by the priest. Anyone who laughs or snickers or even thinks about it is simply ignorant. The priest that married us said that he actually prefers to witness the marriage of older people because they are far more aware of what marriage means, far more likely to take the vows seriously. I was married young and “older”, and I can say that the this marriage is far more comfortable and loving than the first. I DO wish the first could have lasted forever, as I had intended.

Love and peace, Mom of 5
 
When we had to get married “from scratch” after 30 years because my DH had not sought the appropriate dispensation to marry outside the Church, the priest checked off that box on the questionnaire without even asking my husband about it.

Nothing was mentioned at the ceremony.
 
WhatMeWorry said:
I was listening to Jason Evert on the CA Live rebroadcast this morning. He mentioned that in Catholic weddings the bride and groom declare that they come freely and without reservation, and that they will accept children lovingly from God.

Okay, here’s my question: Are older couples also asked during the ceremony if they will accept children? Or is that part deleted? I can only imagine the snickers and chuckles from the pews when it’s obvious that the bride is well past menopause.
Yes, maybe an older couple will end up having to care for a grandchild or other relative, but that’s pretty rare. I was just wondering about it.
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Why would we change our understanding of Marriage? Does it not say in the Scriptures that Nothing is impossible with God? Obviously those who snicker and chuckle do not believe that God can do anything.
 
No. 24 of the Rite of Marriage reads that
“The following question may be omitted if, for example, the couple is advanced in years.
“Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?”
 
cameron_lansing said:
No. 24 of the Rite of Marriage reads that
“The following question may be omitted if, for example, the couple is advanced in years.
“Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?”
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I figured that there was probably an option. But still feel personally that leaving it unchanged states our belief that God and not we, is in charge of nature.
 
I cannot address the question directly. I know that in my long career as an organist I was privileged to play for two weddings of elderly couples. By a thousand light years, the most beautiful weddings I have ever witnessed.
 
Br.Rich_SFO said:
Why would we change our understanding of Marriage? Does it not say in the Scriptures that Nothing is impossible with God? Obviously those who snicker and chuckle do not believe that God can do anything.
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didn’t Sarai have her name changed to Sarah because she laughed at the angel who predicted the birth of her child in her advanced age?
 
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