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PhilAtelist
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My wife became severly ill while carrying our third child 15 years ago. After the birth she was advised that if she became pregnant again she could be bedridden for the remainder of her life and sterilisation must be considered. We did not obtain a second opinion from a pro-life doctor, and she was very frightened. She is a big lady and at the time sterilisation for her would have been a major operation. She asked me to have a vasectomy instead.
I was aware at the time that such an operation was a mortal sin - I didn’t then know why. In spite of my conscience saying otherwise I gave into her fears and went ahead.
I know now that each and every time we make love it is not a fulfillment of the sacrament of marraige but an occaision of mortal sin.
I know that the church proposes that to avoid sin we should live together as brother and sister, but I know that I do not have a vocation to chastity.
My wife is still of childbearing age and ironically she still suffers disability as a result of the pregnancy but her libido does not suffer as a result. The endorphines released ease the pain.
Also, I now suffer from erectile disfunction and need chemical assistance most of the time. This doesn’t stop me wanting to be intimate with my wife - and moral assent is the same as the actual action. Matt 5:27ff.
I’m pretty sure that I should not be going to communion while in a state of mortal sin.
I’m also certain that if I go to confession then absolution should be with-held because while I suffer a great deal of sorrow both for the original vasectomy and continuing state of sin I cannot truthfully say that I will not fall into that sin again.
I know that the only thing that can seperate me from God is my continuing refusal to accept his grace. I think that the Vasectomy together with the ongoing lack of chastity stops that grace from effecting absolution.
My conclusion is that I cannot be saved, that I am on the road to perdition (Matt 7:13) and that I can’t avoid it!
I was aware at the time that such an operation was a mortal sin - I didn’t then know why. In spite of my conscience saying otherwise I gave into her fears and went ahead.
I know now that each and every time we make love it is not a fulfillment of the sacrament of marraige but an occaision of mortal sin.
I know that the church proposes that to avoid sin we should live together as brother and sister, but I know that I do not have a vocation to chastity.
My wife is still of childbearing age and ironically she still suffers disability as a result of the pregnancy but her libido does not suffer as a result. The endorphines released ease the pain.
Also, I now suffer from erectile disfunction and need chemical assistance most of the time. This doesn’t stop me wanting to be intimate with my wife - and moral assent is the same as the actual action. Matt 5:27ff.
I’m pretty sure that I should not be going to communion while in a state of mortal sin.
I’m also certain that if I go to confession then absolution should be with-held because while I suffer a great deal of sorrow both for the original vasectomy and continuing state of sin I cannot truthfully say that I will not fall into that sin again.
I know that the only thing that can seperate me from God is my continuing refusal to accept his grace. I think that the Vasectomy together with the ongoing lack of chastity stops that grace from effecting absolution.
My conclusion is that I cannot be saved, that I am on the road to perdition (Matt 7:13) and that I can’t avoid it!