What am i supposed to do

[EasterJoy]

Technically, you are supposed to attend the parish that is closest to your residence. Whether you like it or not, that is the parish that is responsible for you as a Catholic and the one that you should approach for your sacraments like Baptism for your daughter and Confirmation for you. Which is the one that is closest? Mass isn’t necessarily about “liking” the format, it’s about growing closer to God through the Eucharist. Don’t let your conditions keep you away from Mass.

To clarify: Parishes have specific geographic boundaries, which may or may not put someone in the parish of the church closest to them as the crow flies.

Some bishops specify to the pastors in their diocese that for funerals or for the purpose of celebrating certain sacraments (for instance) people who regularly attend Mass at a parish (and sometimes their children, as well) are to be treated as having legal “domicile” in that parish according to canon law even if they live outside the physical boundaries of that parish. IOW, a Catholic who is prepared and properly disposed has the right to the sacraments such as confirmation and marriage, but only in their own parish, but a bishop might give the direction that those who regularly attend Mass at a parish of his diocese are normally to be treated as if they have that same right in the parish they regularly attend. Both the boundaries of a parish and the bishop’s policy concerning the parish that must be approached for adult confirmation are things that can be found out by calling the diocesan office.

 

[TheRealJuliane]

To be clear, I don’t have any problems with mass itself or the format.

Thanks for the help to everyone else. I really appreciate it.

Yes, that was clear from your original post. You said you just don’t like any of the parish churches that you have attended. But you should at least find out through the diocese which one you are supposed to attend, especially for sacraments. And give that one another chance, even if it feels kinda strange and uncomfortable at first.