What am I?

[Bob_Bobson]

From catholic point of view, I am a horrible sinner, who both has premarital sex and uses contraception, instead of marrying and having a lot of children, but that’s not the point.
I believed in God as long as I remember myself. I was baptized in the early age as orthodox christian, and, of course, I have read the Bible when I’ve grown older. Version for children, of course, which was forgetting to mention such details as slavery or stoning. For long eighteen years I have believed that all you must do to go to Heaven is to be a good person, such as following simple rules as “don’t hate other people for petty reasons”, “don’t kill” and “don’t sleep around”.
Then I grown a little bit older and started… noticing things. Like corruption in Russian Orthodox Church, that I now see the moment I step into the church or turn on the news. So I decided I no longer want to be affiliated with obviously godless organization and change confession to something more closer to god. Turns out, it’s not so simple.
Catholicism wants me to believe I am condemned to hell, because I can’t marry my girlfriend yet and kill children every time I have sex. Protestants want my friends to burn to hell, because they don’t plan on embracing Jesus. Yeah, salvation by grace is pretty cruel.
I don’t condemn homosexuals, because Lord loves everyone equally, so why should I be different. I don’t plan on having children, because my girlfriend will die from childbirth due to her condition. I can’t marry her too, because my mother thinks I am too young for that, and I can’t help but agree with her. I’m just trying to be a nice person, help those in need, love people around me and be just.

Yes, religion is not a pair of shoes, but I wonder, if there is any confession that I or my friends are not going to Hell according to.

 

[1ke]

From catholic point of view, I am a horrible sinner

From God’s point of view, we are all horrible sinners. The good news is that God loves us and gave his Son to reconcile us to Him. So, there is hope for every one of us and we are adopted sons and daughters by our baptism-- able to call God “Father” and be in a loving relationship with Him.

Catholicism wants me to believe I am condemned to hell

Does Catholicism really want you to believe that? No, I don’t think so.

because I can’t marry my girlfriend yet

What God tells us is that there is a time and place for the sexual expression of our male and femaleness, and that is within marriage. If we are not yet ready to marry, we are called to chaste behavior by God. If we love God, we want to do what is right and holy in his sight.

and kill children every time I have sex

The Church does not teach that. The Church, again, teaches God’s truth about our sexuality and how it is to be used and not used within marriage. So, if we are going against God’s law, of course the Church wants to help us do what is right.

Protestants want my friends to burn to hell

Is that what Protestants want? Again, I would say no I don’t think so. What Catholics, Protestants, and the Orthodox want is for people to come to know Jesus and the salvation offered through him.

I don’t condemn homosexuals

The Catholic Church doesn’t condemn homosexuals either.

I don’t plan on having children, because my girlfriend will die from childbirth due to her condition. I can’t marry her too, because my mother thinks I am too young for that, and I can’t help but agree with her. I’m just trying to be a nice person, help those in need, love people around me and be just.

Sounds like you should talk to a priest because you are pretty confused.

Yes, religion is not a pair of shoes, but I wonder, if there is any confession that I or my friends are not going to Hell according to.

You are pretty confused because the Catholic Church does not teach that this or that person is “going to Hell”. Sorry, you have some huge misinformation.

What the Church does do is teach us God’s Law. If we want to please God we will live by His law and build a life of holiness. What it seems you want is to find a religion that ignores God’s truth and just tells you it is OK to do whatever you want to do so that you can feel better about having sex with your girlfriend.

 

[Upturned]

“If you could see it from here.” I think that’s how GOD looks at it, but from here is doesn’t seem like you don’t have a complete understanding of either the Church’s position on many things, nor the impact your current life will have on your later human life and spiritual life sometime later.

Liken it to Jerry Seinfeld’s routine about “Day Guy” and “Night Guy.” Night Guy doesn’t care what Day Guy will later have to go through because he was out all night so he party’s on. Day Guy wakes up the next day wishing he could beat Night Guy to death.

 

[jediknight]

Bob I would suggest taking a look in your own area to seek counsel from a Catholic Priest who can advise you better on your particular situation or rather your life as a whole, it is easy to seek advice online with out having to look someone in the eyes and one is more relaxed to say anything with out much fear of being shamed or embarrassed, but the Priest is the persona of Christ and Christ works through His Priests’ . That is where you are going to get the real help you need.

 

[FrStevenJones]

From catholic point of view, I am a horrible sinner, who both has premarital sex and uses contraception, instead of marrying and having a lot of children, but that’s not the point.
I believed in God as long as I remember myself. I was baptized in the early age as orthodox christian, and, of course, I have read the Bible when I’ve grown older. Version for children, of course, which was forgetting to mention such details as slavery or stoning. For long eighteen years I have believed that all you must do to go to Heaven is to be a good person, such as following simple rules as “don’t hate other people for petty reasons”, “don’t kill” and “don’t sleep around”.
Then I grown a little bit older and started… noticing things. Like corruption in Russian Orthodox Church, that I now see the moment I step into the church or turn on the news. So I decided I no longer want to be affiliated with obviously godless organization and change confession to something more closer to god. Turns out, it’s not so simple.
Catholicism wants me to believe I am condemned to hell, because I can’t marry my girlfriend yet and kill children every time I have sex. Protestants want my friends to burn to hell, because they don’t plan on embracing Jesus. Yeah, salvation by grace is pretty cruel.
I don’t condemn homosexuals, because Lord loves everyone equally, so why should I be different. I don’t plan on having children, because my girlfriend will die from childbirth due to her condition. I can’t marry her too, because my mother thinks I am too young for that, and I can’t help but agree with her. I’m just trying to be a nice person, help those in need, love people around me and be just.

Yes, religion is not a pair of shoes, but I wonder, if there is any confession that I or my friends are not going to Hell according to.

You desire to be just? Good! Justice means to give another what is due to them. God has given you every moment of your life. You owe obedience to Him, worship, and to offer your life to Him at The Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. You owe Him repentance from your sexual sins and a firm purpose to sin no more. He is owed obedience in the reception of the sacraments, by confessing your sins to His priest. Be a disciple of His Son, love God with your whole being, obey His laws, and love your neighbor as yourself.

Then you will be just.

 

[DavidFilmer]

Catholicism wants me to believe I am condemned to hell, because I can’t marry my girlfriend yet and kill children every time I have sex.

OK, others have made good comments regarding your many points, but I want to focus on this one in particular.

Why “can’t” you marry your girlfriend? Could you marry her, even if it meant that you lived in your parents’ (or her parents’) home? You and her both are now living in your parents’ homes. Could you marry, and still live “at home” (in either residence, as you have been doing all along)? Do you suppose that either parents would object to such an arrangement more than the one you are now experiencing? It might be humiliating to you, as a man, to take a wife and yet live under another’s man roof (even if it were your or her father’s roof), but I assure you that that either father would prefer such an arrangement.

You do not seem to be bothered that you might “kill children every time I have sex.”

But you do realize, don’t you, that the “children” that you seem so willing to “kill” for your own sexual gratification are YOUR own children? These are your own sons and daughters. You are not a father. I am the father of two sons and one daughter.

What are you??? You are a self-centered and shameful bit of humanity that is in serious need of repair. You would sacrifice your own offspring on the altar of your sexual satisfaction. You refuse to marry the mother of your own aborted children because it is somehow inconvenient.

Yeah, that is not the “feel good” response that you expected. But it is the response that you deserve.