What are alternative ways to express sexuality without sinning?

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Thank you Alice. I read and I appreciate your thorough responses.
 
There is nothing wrong with thinking pretty rather that s**y ,that is being feminine.
My work used to be in the farming industry ,doing all sorts of work that was a bit rough and tough but I would wear my dangly earrings ,nice cut clothing and nice hairdo’s .
 
What are healthy alternatives to deal with sexual frustration?
 
I would say prayer and physical activity,sport,gardening.Keeping your mind free from that side of things by just not letting your mind go there.
I’ve been in a LDR with my husband for the last four years,that’s a lot of switching off and on of thoughts so the only way to survive is by keeping close to Jesus and staying pure .You can do it 🙂
 
OK, now we understand what you mean.

For the secular view look up “hysteria”, especially in Victorian times.
It was once considered a medical condition in women 😂 - presumably because it was assumed that goddesses didn’t have the same sexual needs as men.

The Catholic Church appears to provide no helpful answers outside of marriage.
I am confident God understands the weaknesses of both single men and women in this area - as do Confessors.

Avoiding certain trigger foods can help.
Buddhist nuns specifically avoid onions and garlic.
Too much meat is of course a traditional no no.
Never had problems with those foods myself.
Cheese is another story for some.
 
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I have short hair. Most days I wear pants. I want to grow out my curly afro. Is wearing makeup too much? With my haircut, I’m avoiding being mistaken as a man.
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I don’t understand.
What has looking like a woman rather than a man got to do with “expressing sexuality without sinning” or “healthy alternatives to deal with sexual frustration.”

You seem to be speaking in code.

Do you mean you are dealing with sexual orientation, gender dysphoria or cross dressing issues?
We are presuming you are a biological female…
 
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I want to feel more feminine. A few people remarked my posts lack clarity. The wait until marriage can feel suffocating. I wish there were healthy sexual outlets. I know sexual thoughts and actions are sinning. How do you deal with your natural sex drive? I’m not transgendered. I do experience same sex attraction often. I consider myself a heterosexual or bisexual female.
 
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I want to feel more feminine.
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Many Catholics find it helpful to regularly reflect or even contemplate on the possible reasons for their more driven feelings/actions or self-conscious needs. Often there is a discoverable cause.

Why do you feel this abiding need to be more feminine as opposed to just being yourself (rather than over-emphasising just one aspect of self such as feminine, masculine, strong , weak, needy, capable, smart, tough, lovable etc etc). Society tells us such needs should be endlessly satisfied and not questioned. Wise persons surely would want to avoid such self-driven treadmills which ultimately lead nowhere satisfying and cause more emptiness than fullness or peace.
I wish there were healthy sexual outlets.
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Life is full of frustrations. Married relationships are no different due to sickness, LDRs, stress, family planning, arguments etc. When one’s life has a greater purpose these frustrations lose their prominence.

As I say God surely understands our venial weaknesses, especially when we are young, that is what Confession is for.
 
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No! Sweetheart,
My Rheumatoligist is black. Her hair is almost shaved. She wears big earrings and make up.
That’s the Balance that works. No hair. Big earrings Makeup. Jesus in your heart. Angels around you.
In Christ’s Love
Tweedlealice
 
The Lord be w you, Sweetheart!
Jeremiah 29/11- I HAVE A PLAN FOR YOU…
In Christ’s love
Tweedlealice
 
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