What are some good secular arguments to refrain from pre-marital sex and/or condom use?

[redcatholic]

I think the op means Without using religious sources or teaching specific to a faith.

 

[HerCrazierHalf]

Back on my sinful non catholic days I can’t tell you how many times a condom broke.

Did you use it wrong?
Not being mean. There’s a few key points that contribute to that 86% actual effectiveness vs 98% ideal.

 

[redcatholic]

Nope. Not to get too detailed. if I used 40 condoms a month for different acts 2 might break. It’s more common than you think and the use of condoms is rather simple.

 

[HerCrazierHalf]

Ok. I’ll leave it be. I suppose I was lucky enough to avoid that failure mode earlier in life.

 

[VanitasVanitatum]

Remember this thread is about secular arguments. The idea that things have an inherent nature and/or purpose is a religious argument. I think sex is an evolved function which contributes in a number of ways to the success of human groups.

Waiting until marriage is the best thing, at least for women. There is a host of problems and potential for things to go wrong for them unless they are careful.

 

[VanitasVanitatum]

I find it more an absence of religion but to each their own.

I think so too, but some more philosophical ideas they espouse have no more weight than religious ones.

 

[Freddy]

Ok. I’ll leave it be. I suppose I was lucky enough to avoid that failure mode earlier in life.

I guess I was unlucky enough not to reach that useage rate…

 

[redcatholic]

My twenties were wild… lol.

 

[EugeneCharles]

What are some good secular arguments to refrain from pre-marital sex​

• When you abstain from pre-marital sex, there’s a low risk of worrying too much for the future.
• You can know your partner better aside from his/her sexual qualities.
• Factors of dissatisfaction within a relationship can be reduced.
• Sex is a part of two people’s journey but abstaining from pre-marital sex makes a more reasonable purpose why you want to marry the person.
• It stops you from being bothered by the fear of contracting sexual diseases and having early pregnancy.
• You have much dignity and respect reserved for yourself.

 

[EugeneCharles]

What are some good secular arguments to refrain from condom use?​

• Avoiding pollution and plastic waste.
• Some people who have sex and used condom says that condoms are not comfortable.
• It triggers allergies because of latex material. As a result, it causes rashes, runny nose, and hives.
• Severe tightening causes loss of blood pressure and prevents airflow.

 

[HerCrazierHalf]

My twenties were wild… lol.

Mine we’re depressingly tame.

 

[redcatholic]

Eh. I wouldn’t say depressingly. What’s depressing was.the damage to my soul and others that I experienced. I wish I couldn’t speak with the authority of experience on many sexual matters…

 

[Elf01]

Sex is a part of two people’s journey but abstaining from pre-marital sex makes a more reasonable purpose why you want to marry the person.

If being able to have sex is the only reason someone wants to marry that person should not be getting married.

 

[BornInMarch]

One argument you could make against casual sex (i.e. “hook-ups”) is that they make the act less special. That can make it harder to experience intimacy when a person tries to have a serious relationship later on.

 

[EugeneCharles]

EugeneCharles:

Sex is a part of two people’s journey but abstaining from pre-marital sex makes a more reasonable purpose why you want to marry the person.

If being able to have sex is the only reason someone wants to marry that person should not be getting married

Thanks for clarifying it out to me @Elf01