What are your thoughts on women dressing modestly?

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I lived through a period of time when people cared about their appearance more. This in a working class neighborhood. Caring. We need it.

Thankfully, I know a few places where I can see all that today. People who smile. Say hello. Invite you over to talk. Now I live in a place where the opposite occurs. Oh well.
 
edwest211 said:
Thankfully, I know a few places where I can see all that today. People who smile. Say hello. Invite you over to talk
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That has nothing to do with how people dress. I can say “hello” to people in sweats and flip-flops.
 
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Sometimes that might be the truth. I was doing that a bit last week. Caught the flu, but since I live alone, well, if I want to wear clean clothes I’m going to the laundromat, sick or not. Thankfully I’d already done grocery shopping. “Warm and comfortable” beats out fashionable any day.

I actually own a lot of men’s clothing for casual wear for that reason. It’s just much easier to get warm, sturdy clothing for low prices than it is to get the same for women. I ordered a half-dozen flannel shirts a bit before Christmas, $10 each on sale, thick, and long enough to cover my backside. No way I’d have gotten that in women’s clothing.
 
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On the other hand, I was in the supermarket last summer and a young lady showed up in house slippers, sweat pants and a mismatched top. Her hair indicated she had fallen asleep on the couch, then woke up and realized she had to get a few things, and ‘oh well.’ Unusual.
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She may have had a sick child at home who kept her up all night, or been cramming for a big exam, or pulled an all-nighter at her work-from-home job to solve a client’s problem in time (<----my situation often), or just driven 12 hours (<—my situation often), or simply not given two hoots what some old judgmental man thought about her at a grocery store. It’s the grocery store, not work, not church. If she was decently covered and wasn’t in a see-through nightie then what business is it of yours what her hair looks like? People like you make me want to go out all day in mismatched slippers and pajamas just because.
 
Ouch.

Little bit grump today, Bear? I was agreeing with most all the points you were making, too…
 
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JamalChristophr said:
Ouch.

Little bit grump today, Bear? I was agreeing with most all the points you were making, too…
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Nah, it was warranted. People’s lives are hard enough without being judged for wearing PJs while buying food.
 
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I actually don’t want to see people in their pajamas out in public.
 
I had a sinus headache/migraine and spent the day in bed all day yesterday. Today Iam going out to get medicine for the headache that is better but not gone. I pulled on a sweatshirt and jeans that had already been worn. I do usually try to look appropriate for the occasion and neat and clean when I go out. Today I just want to go and get this over with. I didn’t even take a shower.
 
Eh, there’s really not much difference between pajama pants and sweatpants anyway, other than prints. There’s lots of outfits I think look pretty bad, but that’s the price of being in public.
 
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I had a sinus headache/migraine and spent the day in bed all day yesterday. Today Iam going out to get medicine for the headache that is better but not gone. I pulled on a sweatshirt and jeans that had already been worn. I do usually try to look appropriate for the occasion and neat and clean when I go out. Today I just want to go and get this over with. I didn’t even take a shower.
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Ah! The nerve! 😉 Hope you feel better soon ❤️
 
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Really? We have sunk so low that it is “too hard” to put on day wear? Is it harder to put on a pair of pants than a pair of pajama pants? I seriously can’t believe people are defending pajamas in public. I hereby excuse myself from this discussion.
 
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Really? We have sunk so low that it is “too hard” to put on day wear? Is it harder to put on a pair of pants than a pair of pajama pants? I seriously can’t believe people are defending pajamas in public. I hereby excuse myself from this discussion.
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In a while crocodile.
 
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Sunk so low that it’s too hard to wear proper clothes? Dear, we’ve sunk so low that abortion is mainstream, not because Janet wore sweatpants whilst buying diapers!

Being so offended at something so morally neutral (and at something Jesus won’t even be upset at) is…amusing.
 
Hmmmm… I wear my flip flops in Colorado winter. Does that count? 😃

(I do get some looks.)
 
This is not what the word “modesty” means. Yes, it is what we mean when we churchify language, and I am sure that churchification gets it a tertiary definition in some dictionaries, but the word “modesty” means “not showing off.” You are a modest winner, you are gracious. You are a modest student, you don’t disclose grades. You are a modest philanthropist, you are anonymous. You are a modest person, you don’t brag about how much money you make. You are a modest teenager, you are not constantly blowing up everyone’s feed with selfies.

Don’t show off in general. The implications for dress from this are obvious and do not need to be overstated, as they represent a small part of modesty so understood.

That is modesty. There is also just generally being considerate of others, so, even if you have transcended beyond where you could ever show off, you still do not walk around naked. But that is not modesty, that is just trying to be considerate of others’ senses of propriety and others’ weaknesses, which is also a worthwhile virtue.

For me, that is all there is to modesty.
 
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I said pajamas, not sweatpants. Sweatpants are considered day wear and are not the subject of my comment.

Wearing pajamas sometimes can be morally bad, depending upon circumstances (such as wearing at Mass), or intent (such as when worn to go shopping specifically to infuriate (ha ha) luciavento, because said pajama wearer knew she would be there). Many morally neutral actions can be bad or good depending upon object/intent and circumstances. Take the act of chewing gum, for instance. Same analysis. Neutral/bad/good, depending upon intent and circumstances.
 
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