What are your thoughts on women dressing modestly?

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There’s a woman/author/speaker named Wendy Shalit (spelling) who said “modesty is an erotic virtue”.

And I think she nailed it.

A woman who knows how to dress modestly has and creates an attraction far beyond a woman who shows it all.

It’s not just the clothes she wears, it’s not just how she wears them, it’s her mannerisms, carriage, serenity, smile, ability to converse, her reactions, her attentiveness. The whole thing. An art truly.

Modesty protects that which is most valuable and vulnerable…but a woman who is artful about it can generate a good attraction, a tone setting attraction, that points to a good far beyond her own “goods”. It raises the tone of the whole space around her. Powerful.

That is the sort of modesty we need to recover.
 
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I do dress modestly when I go to church, but not frumpy.
I dress like I would when I used to work in a business office, long or below knee length skirts,nice blouses, nice slacks, blazers, ect. No tight pants or revealing blouses. I’m well into middle age, so maybe no one would be distracted by me anyway but I like to dress nice and modestly for church.
Actually it’s the only time during the week that I can dress up a little bit, as my job is a retail position with a uniform.
My son, who is in his 20’s and still single, has told me that he wishes young women would dress a bit more modestly at his church, as he wants to concentrate on the service and sermon, and the way some dress is a huge temptation for him, as he is trying to live a chaste life right now.
 
Just a generation ago, NO ONE appeared in pajamas in public. Unless they were kidnapped in their pajamas and had just escaped from their captors. Arguing ‘necessity’ for the multitude of public pajama wearers is crazy. People do have a choice, and the choice is clearly pajamas in public. And IMO, jeans from the laundry pile are more appropriate clothing for public. Most people aren’t out fighting fires or drilling for oil with their everyday clothing, and “dirty laundry” doesn’t mean filthy and worse than pajamas.
 
My fleece pj bottoms are way warmer than another pants I own. And they are easier to get on one-handed.
 
Oh good grief.
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A woman who knows how to dress modestly has and creates an attraction far beyond a woman who shows it all.
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I’m not interested in attracting that kind of attention, setting that kind of tone, whether it’s job related or I’m running errands.
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Modesty protects that which is most valuable and vulnerable…but a woman who is artful about it can generate a good attraction, a tone setting attraction,
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That sounds like it could project a message that I don’t want to send.
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it’s her mannerisms, carriage, serenity, smile, ability to converse, her reactions, her attentiveness
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Amazingly I can do this wearing no matter what I’m wearing.
 
LOL what is your point? Because I’m agreeing with others that have mentioned circumstances that judging what others are wearing is uncharitable.
 
Perhaps with a towel twisted up on top of head ,kind of Royal 🙂 And some lippy.Along with bunny rabbit slippers.
 
Why? Because I don’t want to appear vulnerable or dainty around people who are prone to violence, especially towards women? Because I want to be left alone when I’m busy? Because I manage to be interact just fine when I feel comfortable and safe? I do not owe that to anyone who demands it.
 
I didn’t say a word about appearing dainty; that’s your own distortion added
 
Who said anything about appearing vulnerable; why does someone always need to distort a point and create a gross caricature out of it?
 
I just had a flashback to when I was a child and there would be women in the supermarket in rollers covered with hair nets.
 
Well that’s what I would call quirky 🙂 I appreciate the characters that I remember .
 
So apparently just having a standard is judging. My standard is to wear clothes in public. Not sleepwear. Because from what I am hearing, everyone has some ‘necessity’ to wear pajamas in public and that ‘need’ is being roundly defended. All I ever said was I don’t want to see it. And I do not agree that so many people ‘need’ to wear pajamas in public. In fact, virtually no one ‘needs’ to wear pajamas in public. Most clothing has spandex in it (therefore it’s comfortable) and most people on this thread own more than enough clothing to wear actual clothes in public. Funny how the person who actually wants to adhere to a standard is so often painted as “judging” people. I simply will not agree that pajamas in public is okay and a “necessity” that must always be excused. You are saying they are comfortable and easy to put on, therefore demonstrating my point. It is just your preference, and it is not a necessity as so often claimed. LoL
 
Do you assume I do not pray for them? No you do not, because that would be judging. 😉
 
Yes, it is. I dated that girl. She was poised, she carried herself a certain way, was approachable and, in public, could attract people to herself in certain situations. She was intelligent, had a good sense of humor and was feminine. Having been raised to be a gentleman, I almost always knew the right things to say and do. We were complementary. And her choice of clothing was very, very good.
 
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