What can parents do

[johnthebaptist1]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,and he,ll keep talking,and my wife well ask him to stop talking,so she can here the program,and my son that gives us the adduitde,well reply,“I don,t have to stop talking”,he’ll try any think just to get us going.We been seeing people to help us,and there going to try to get him into a program
that well help him, pray that program well help him ,before my wife goes crazy and I loose
my cool agains him.We both pray the Rosary, go to Mass,and are leaving it in GOD,S hand,s to help this family out. For the people we see,Said, don,t let this stress you out,
you,s are up in age and could end up with a stork,or heart attack.

Wish us the best

 

[Barbkw]

My Dad stood up and laid down the law and inflicted corporal punishment as a reminder to us for the next time a disobedient thought popped into our pea sized brains.

 

[Scoobyshme]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,and he,ll keep talking,and my wife well ask him to stop talking,so she can here the program,and my son that gives us the adduitde,well reply,“I don,t have to stop talking”,he’ll try any think just to get us going.We been seeing people to help us,and there going to try to get him into a program
that well help him, pray that program well help him ,before my wife goes crazy and I loose
my cool agains him.We both pray the Rosary, go to Mass,and are leaving it in GOD,S hand,s to help this family out. For the people we see,Said, don,t let this stress you out,
you,s are up in age and could end up with a stork,or heart attack.

Wish us the best

Sounds like my oldest son when he was in his early teens. He kept disrespecting his mom and thought he was “in control” of everything.

One day, after he left for school, she bagged up everything he had in his room except for his bedding and two sets of clothes, which she later told him that she was required to provide him by law, in addition to three square meals/day. He came home, went into his room, and came running out, “Where’s my STUFF?!” My wife calmly told him, “When you’re ready to change your attitude, come talk to me.” He stubbornly refused to talk for about a month (he was VERY stubborn). Then, one day, he came and said, “Okay. What do I have to do to get my stuff back.” At that point, she told him what the rules were, and if he broke them, he’d lose all his “stuff” again, this time for longer.

That helped a lot. Plus, we put him in Taekwondo, which helped give him more discipline and learn to act with respect. When he graduated from high school, he enlisted in the Marines and served 8 years. He’s married now, with one baby girl, and has a find job.

 

[At_Trent]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,and he,ll keep talking,and my wife well ask him to stop talking,so she can here the program,and my son that gives us the adduitde,well reply,“I don,t have to stop talking”,he’ll try any think just to get us going.We been seeing people to help us,and there going to try to get him into a program
that well help him, pray that program well help him ,before my wife goes crazy and I loose
my cool agains him.We both pray the Rosary, go to Mass,and are leaving it in GOD,S hand,s to help this family out. For the people we see,Said, don,t let this stress you out,
you,s are up in age and could end up with a stork,or heart attack.

Wish us the best

You are in my prayers.


My only advice is, to continue tolerating it is to encourage it by enabling it. It will only get worse. In my experience, tough love has a fairly high success rate.

 

[Julian0404]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,and he,ll keep talking,and my wife well ask him to stop talking,so she can here the program,and my son that gives us the adduitde,well reply,“I don,t have to stop talking”,he’ll try any think just to get us going.We been seeing people to help us,and there going to try to get him into a program
that well help him, pray that program well help him ,before my wife goes crazy and I loose
my cool agains him.We both pray the Rosary, go to Mass,and are leaving it in GOD,S hand,s to help this family out. For the people we see,Said, don,t let this stress you out,
you,s are up in age and could end up with a stork,or heart attack.

Wish us the best

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[cath2010]

Hi everyone, just looking for parayers for peace and understanding of my adult only daughter who since she was a teenager has shown no respect towards me, her father left when she was eight and though I did my best for her she blames me for anything that goes wrong with her life. I wish I knew what to do, I pray for things to be good between us but I cant see it happening, I get very down as I feel I have failed as a mother if my daughter acts this way towards her own mother. I have always done my best for her and her education and she acts like she hates me.

 

[PatriceA]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,and he,ll keep talking,and my wife well ask him to stop talking,so she can here the program,and my son that gives us the adduitde,well reply,“I don,t have to stop talking”,he’ll try any think just to get us going.We been seeing people to help us,and there going to try to get him into a program
that well help him, pray that program well help him ,before my wife goes crazy and I loose
my cool agains him.We both pray the Rosary, go to Mass,and are leaving it in GOD,S hand,s to help this family out. For the people we see,Said, don,t let this stress you out,
you,s are up in age and could end up with a stork,or heart attack.

Wish us the best

If you are seeing people in a professional capacity, you are doing what you should be doing for you and your family. Continue to follow their advice and pray. We all can also pray for your family. You are doing the best you can do as a parent.

 

[archangel04]

Pray and a good belt whooping like my mom would do will set him straight. Parents now a day need to have cojones against their chirldren. YOU are in charge, not them!

 

[Bob_Aliano]

Pray and a good belt whooping like my mom would do will set him straight. Parents now a day need to have cojones against their chirldren. YOU are in charge, not them!

Under our current Nanny State society all the brat has to do is show a few belt welts at the local hospital or police station and mommy and daddy get new accommodations courtesy of the penal system.

 

[LoyalViews]

I don’t know what happened to good 'ol discipline either.
But, as for the OP, all the advice that has been offered by the posters here, I second. I am praying for you, your son, and you wife. May God Bless you abundantly!

 

[Maui71]

I would recommend you check this website out.

drray.com/

Dr. Ray Guarendi is a father of 10, clinical psychologist, author, public speaker and radio host. His radio show― “The Doctor Is In” ― can be heard weekdays. Please see our radio affiliate listings (Ave Maria Radio & EWTN Radio) for a station in your area. You can also listen live online or on Sirius satellite radio, channel 160.

I have his books Good Discipline , Great Teens ; Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime ; You’re a Better Parent Than You Think!

They are fantastic!! He is a funny, serious and practicle. I must advise though that if you and your wife are not on the same page with regards to Dr. Ray or any other form of discipline nothing will work.

 

[JanetF]

I don’t think there’s a need to get physical, it may just lead to more issues. I would suggest taking away some of his privileges when he behaves in a way you do not approve. Sooner or later his behavior will alter.

 

[puzzleannie]

I,am a father that is trying too show love too his family,but the problem is,that One
of my son,s has a adduitde toward us,and when he does,I get upset at him.IT seem
that no matter what you say,he is always right,he won,t listen to us,he call,s his mother name,s like *****,F.U.,there are times my wife is watching T.V.,

how old is this boy?
what did you, his father do, the first time he disrespected his mother, defied her, called her names, talked back to her. Whether he was 2, 12 or 22, if you did not come down hard on him the first time, that is your failure. Remedy it now. Do not tolerate any disrespect on the part of your children toward your wife, their mother. You are the father of the family. Be one. Take the bible as your guide. A loving father chastises his children when it is necessary and disciplines them so they learn self discipline.

I can tell you each of my brothers tried that one time, and one time only. they lived to tell about it, but barely.