What comments have you gotten when your second child is born?

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

After our second, an uncle said to my husband, “so you’re getting snipped now, right?”
I was beyond furious when I found out. I didn’t appreciate him trying to put ideas in DHs head. (At the time we weren’t yet in sync in our faith walk).
As it turned out, DH did not get snipped, we had a third kiddo, stopped using NFP (ie no family planning strategies at all) and never had another baby.

You just never know.

 

[Greenfields]

Recently my son was happily looking at YouTube cartoons with his little daughter and he was astounded to see an ad for getting the snip.

 

[Inisfallen]

For me, the answer is always “who knows?” That pretty much always ends the conversation, without any awkwardness.

Odds are that we’re done, given our ages (more specifically, my wife’s age), but you never know. We’d absolutely love a third child.

 

[lokisuperfan]

I’m not a mom, but everyone used to say this to my mom when my little sister was born:

“You should have stopped at one.”

 

[Daisy]

Usually I only manage a frazzled and unenthusiastic “Haha yeah”

I know, I used to do that.
Then they’ve got you right where they want you.

I’ve rehearsed it enough so that I’m not off guard now. We have every right to stand up for ourselves and reprimand their rude comments.

A stern “That was rude” or “It’s really none of your business” while looking them sharply in the eye often clarifies the situation. We are rightly mamma bears and these are our beautiful children. And the world is so lonely these days to not mercifully reprimand these foolish comments.

 

[Carmel]

Shortly after my second baby was born I was advised by a nurse to begin contracepting as I "seemed to be quite fertile “. Ten months later when I presented at the surgery , pregnant with no. 3, the doctor ( a practising Catholic ) asked me if I wished to go through with the pregnancy. (apparently here in the UK they are told to ’ inquire ’ ) I was asked the same question when expecting no.4. Its highly insulting to be asked such a question.
After my fourth baby was born and I had occasion to see a doctor about something else, he said to me " And what are you going to do Mrs. … to make sure that you don’t have any more babies ?”