What constitutes an impure thought and when does it turn into sin?

[Lynn123]

So I am struggling with this issue as a whole, and I thought maybe some of you could help me.

I have been in a serious relationship for about a year a half. We are very close to getting engaged. As things have progressed between us and we’ve become more serious and fallen more in love, our desire to have sex has increased. However, both of us are very committed to waiting until marriage.

But my question has to do with impure thoughts: is a thought about having sex with someone (after you are married), impure? Is it wrong to be looking forward to that and to sometimes think about how wonderful it’s going to be?

Also, when does an impure thought become sinful? Sometimes I will have the thoughts described above, and it will be about 10 seconds before I catch myself and will myself to think about something else because it might be sinful. Or, I might notice myself becoming aroused and then I will think about something else.

Any thoughts would be most appreciated!

 

[Michael1985]

It is wonderful to see that you are willing to give each other the beautiful gift of your virginity when you are married.

Thinking about sex is not wrong in itself. If we consider that God made sex, that it is a giving of ones self totally to the other then this is not bad.

In the garden of Edan, we are told that God said it was good. This also means the tree that Adam and Eve ate from was good. It was the misuse of it that made it evil.

You have to ask yourself what are you desiring an intense relationship which will come from sex or an intimate relationship with that person, this is romantic love. Do your thoughts about sex turn your attention to the other person or yourself. If your thoughts are just about your pleasure then maybe it is wrong.

Whne you think about sex do you hope that it will lead to children, if not then it may not be good.

A thought only becomes sinful when we consent to it. If you are plauged by impur thoughts then there is nothing sinful about this, only when you entertain these thoughts do they become sinful, a great passage on this is from the devoute life, have a look at part four chapter 3 onwars. They are short and easy to read.
God bless