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Theodora
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Dear Mass4Life,
I know what you’re saying. I have three children. However, I have a daughter with 6 children, and a sister-in-law with 9 children.
When I hear from anyone comments about “When will they stop to have children?” or “How could they possibly not go crazy raising so many?” and so on, I will try to engage these people in a conversation. I donot get rude or angry with them.
Try formulate your answers using the third person singular or first and/or third plural. This way you’ll not sound too confrontational.
For example, the point of: “Of what concern is it to you?” You could respond, with a smile: “Why are some people always so concerned how many children others have?”
The point of “Aren’t you judging them according to your own
shortcomings?” (They just told you they couldn’t handle more than 1) - “Well, there are people, you know, who are fortunate and know how to discipline their children.”
Overpopulation: “Why is it OK for us to be here on earth and why would we deny others to be here on earth?” or “Why do people think there’s an overpopulation?” (There’s no overpopulation. Try to be ready with facts.)
I don’t get “religious” in my answers. I hold my daughter up as the perfect mom - which she is. I could have learned a lot from her were I younger.
I know each situation is different. Think about the questions people have asked you and/or will be asking and try to visualize how you will deflect peoples rude comments. Call your children “Blessings” and ask the other person how many they have.
These are just examples of how I have answered some of those questions. Ogten the questions are posed with a lot of hilarity in the presence of many people. You definitely get the impression is it’s being asked to embarrass.
I like to refer you to Luke 23, 23-31: For behold, days are coming in which men will say, ‘Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bore, and breasts that never nursed.’ Then they will begin to say to the mountains, ‘Fall upon us!’ and to the hills, ‘Cover us!’ (What do you think Mass4Life, are we living in …days that are coming…? - I think we have arrived.)
Please keep in mind 1 Tim. 2:15: Yet women will be saved by childbearing, if they continue in faith and love and holiness with modesty.
May God Bless You and Your Family.
Theodora
I know what you’re saying. I have three children. However, I have a daughter with 6 children, and a sister-in-law with 9 children.
When I hear from anyone comments about “When will they stop to have children?” or “How could they possibly not go crazy raising so many?” and so on, I will try to engage these people in a conversation. I donot get rude or angry with them.
Try formulate your answers using the third person singular or first and/or third plural. This way you’ll not sound too confrontational.
For example, the point of: “Of what concern is it to you?” You could respond, with a smile: “Why are some people always so concerned how many children others have?”
The point of “Aren’t you judging them according to your own
shortcomings?” (They just told you they couldn’t handle more than 1) - “Well, there are people, you know, who are fortunate and know how to discipline their children.”
Overpopulation: “Why is it OK for us to be here on earth and why would we deny others to be here on earth?” or “Why do people think there’s an overpopulation?” (There’s no overpopulation. Try to be ready with facts.)
I don’t get “religious” in my answers. I hold my daughter up as the perfect mom - which she is. I could have learned a lot from her were I younger.
I know each situation is different. Think about the questions people have asked you and/or will be asking and try to visualize how you will deflect peoples rude comments. Call your children “Blessings” and ask the other person how many they have.
These are just examples of how I have answered some of those questions. Ogten the questions are posed with a lot of hilarity in the presence of many people. You definitely get the impression is it’s being asked to embarrass.
I like to refer you to Luke 23, 23-31: For behold, days are coming in which men will say, ‘Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bore, and breasts that never nursed.’ Then they will begin to say to the mountains, ‘Fall upon us!’ and to the hills, ‘Cover us!’ (What do you think Mass4Life, are we living in …days that are coming…? - I think we have arrived.)
Please keep in mind 1 Tim. 2:15: Yet women will be saved by childbearing, if they continue in faith and love and holiness with modesty.
May God Bless You and Your Family.
Theodora
). In certain regions of China to have more than one will assure you will be taken care of. In certain tribes of Africa when a woman can have more than one child is a good omen for the tribe. In a lot of these countries poverty is a way of life , many will agree that they have so many kids due to lack of family planning even ignorance and so on forth or that if they know they are poor and cannot provide why continue having kids? When I see this , is telling me these people are truly living their faith. They are sure God will provide one way or another. I salute people on this forum who are truly living their faith:clapping: may God bless you always.
