What do Adult Women Wear For Their Confirmations?

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I wore a light blue short sleeve cotton/rayon dress, ankle length. It was not snug, so it was comfortable for kneeling and getting up and stuff, and the material was heavy enough that I could feel whether or not it had gotten caught up in my slip or something embarrassing like that. Really just Sunday best, only the most comfortable thing I had in that category, to make up for the nervousness and all.

One thought–if you wore it to the grocery store, would people wonder what you were up to, or would they figure you just stopped by to pick something up on the say home from work or a nice dinner out?

We did have one poor lady show up once in a strapless black dress. That was difficult for all concerned.
 
TrueLight said:
I have no idea what one is supposed to wear or how dressy one is supposed to be. 🤷

What colors?

Something simple?

Something fancy?

I know it should be something modest.

Any pictures would be very helpful.
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Dressy Sunday best covers it pretty well. I wore a beige dress with a matching long jacket over it. Very conservative. Wear your best color because it will make you glow. I would stick to simple lines, nothing flashy.

Congratulations!
 
domandcarols said:
:eek: Not to be judgemental but what would posses someone to wear something like that?
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Well, I really think, based on how people show up for baptisms and stuff, that a lot of the US culture seems to think that dressing up means to cover less skin. And then they make a profound bow before the Eucharist and totally flash the poor priest/deacon/EMHC.

Note: if you are doing a reading at a funeral or baptism, and have to hold the back hem of your dress down while you bow to the altar, there is a problem.

I think they just don’t get it. I also can’t imagine how uncomfortable some of these immodest clothes must be, since they need to be tugged on constantly.
 
EvelynEVF said:
Well, I really think, based on how people show up for baptisms and stuff, that a lot of the US culture seems to think that dressing up means to cover less skin.
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My pastor always tells people on special occasions, “Dress as if for Church.” 🙂
 
domandcarols said:
:eek: Not to be judgemental but what would posses someone to wear something like that?
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People have forgotten how to dress appropriately for their age and the occasion, to put it simply.

And I don’t mean the whole “church modesty” thing, either. I mean people who think it’s Okay to come to school in their pajamas, attend professional development seminars and trainings in workout attire, or go to a funeral in board shorts and flip flops.

My husband’s 99-year-old great-aunt died last January. To her funeral I wore a simple black jumper over a charcoal grey turtleneck and my husband had on a pressed pair of black trousers with a white dress shirt and black tie. When my mother-in-law saw us she remarked, “You guys didn’t have to get all dressed up.”

Huh? We certainly weren’t in full formal mourning. A black twill jumper and a white dress shirt with a tie are “all dressed up”? Were we not at a funeral? But when everyone else is in jeans, tennis shoes, sweatshirts, or (my favorite) board shorts and hiking boots, I guess we were pretty dressed up.

As a people we’re so inured to the over-casualization of our dress codes that we have no sense of how to dress well for more formal occasions. Hence you get adult women showing up to religious services dressed as if they’re going to their senior prom, or to a night club, or to a cocktail party. Or men chosen to be pall bearers who wear jeans and sneakers to carry the casket of the family’s beloved matriarch to it’s final resting place. Or people who show up at a job interview in what is clearly a modified wedding dress (my husband witnessed this once).

It’s appalling. That’s all I’ve got to say about it. Rant over. 😛

Luna
 
jmcrae said:
My pastor always tells people on special occasions, “Dress as if for Church.” 🙂
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Yeah, and that would not work where I am. Maybe “Dress for Church as if your grandmother were sitting next to you holding knitting needles and not afraid to use them.”
 
Luna_Lovecraft said:
People have forgotten how to dress appropriately for their age and the occasion, to put it simply.

And I don’t mean the whole “church modesty” thing, either. I mean people who think it’s Okay to come to school in their pajamas, attend professional development seminars and trainings in workout attire, or go to a funeral in board shorts and flip flops.

My husband’s 99-year-old great-aunt died last January. To her funeral I wore a simple black jumper over a charcoal grey turtleneck and my husband had on a pressed pair of black trousers with a white dress shirt and black tie. When my mother-in-law saw us she remarked, “You guys didn’t have to get all dressed up.”

Huh? We certainly weren’t in full formal mourning. A black twill jumper and a white dress shirt with a tie are “all dressed up”? Were we not at a funeral? But when everyone else is in jeans, tennis shoes, sweatshirts, or (my favorite) board shorts and hiking boots, I guess we were pretty dressed up.

As a people we’re so inured to the over-casualization of our dress codes that we have no sense of how to dress well for more formal occasions. Hence you get adult women showing up to religious services dressed as if they’re going to their senior prom, or to a night club, or to a cocktail party. Or men chosen to be pall bearers who wear jeans and sneakers to carry the casket of the family’s beloved matriarch to it’s final resting place. Or people who show up at a job interview in what is clearly a modified wedding dress (my husband witnessed this once).

It’s appalling. That’s all I’ve got to say about it. Rant over. 😛

Luna
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I agree, dressing modestly and appropriately doesn’t need to mean expensive. I think sometimes people of modest means might feel intimidated by some of the CAF modesty threads. But, just nice and appropriate. By the way, your outfit sounded lovely! 🙂
 
TrueLight said:
I have no idea what one is supposed to wear or how dressy one is supposed to be. 🤷

What colors?

Something simple?

Something fancy?

I know it should be something modest.

Any pictures would be very helpful.
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Don’t forget that you will be getting wet, so don’t wear something that will be revealing or clingy when wet.

DGBV
 
LilyM said:
That’s baptism, you don’t get wet if you’re just being confirmed.
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You are correct. I sponsored someone last year who celebrated all three sacraments of initiation at the Easter Vigil, so that is what I had on my mind.

DGB
 
I would wear something that you would be proud for God and others to see, and something comfortable so you will spend time praying and not worrying about if your outfit is right…color, style, is up to you.👍
 
Luna_Lovecraft said:
People have forgotten how to dress appropriately for their age and the occasion, to put it simply.

And I don’t mean the whole “church modesty” thing, either. I mean people who think it’s Okay to come to school in their pajamas, attend professional development seminars and trainings in workout attire, or go to a funeral in board shorts and flip flops.

My husband’s 99-year-old great-aunt died last January. To her funeral I wore a simple black jumper over a charcoal grey turtleneck and my husband had on a pressed pair of black trousers with a white dress shirt and black tie. When my mother-in-law saw us she remarked, “You guys didn’t have to get all dressed up.”

Huh? We certainly weren’t in full formal mourning. A black twill jumper and a white dress shirt with a tie are “all dressed up”? Were we not at a funeral? But when everyone else is in jeans, tennis shoes, sweatshirts, or (my favorite) board shorts and hiking boots, I guess we were pretty dressed up.

As a people we’re so inured to the over-casualization of our dress codes that we have no sense of how to dress well for more formal occasions. Hence you get adult women showing up to religious services dressed as if they’re going to their senior prom, or to a night club, or to a cocktail party. Or men chosen to be pall bearers who wear jeans and sneakers to carry the casket of the family’s beloved matriarch to it’s final resting place. Or people who show up at a job interview in what is clearly a modified wedding dress (my husband witnessed this once).

It’s appalling. That’s all I’ve got to say about it. Rant over. 😛

Luna
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Yup. Good post.
 
Several years ago I was the RCIA sponsor to a former coworker of mine, and was her confirmation sponsor. It was an unusually cold spring. Since Roz was being baptized as well, she didn’t wear a mantilla. Baptism was by pouring (she held her head over the baptismal font sideways as the bishop poured water over her forehead.) She had her hair up in a tight bun so she didn’t have to worry about wet hair hanging around. I recall she wore a nicely tailored light grey wool skirt suit with a peach colored, fairly high cut silk blouse, and a pair of mid-height pumps (about two inches.) She looked modest, reverent, and very classically stylish, and the suit in particular was something she’d be able to wear for years to come to any occasion demanding a conservative yet attractive look.

A word of warning: If you are being confirmed at a large diocesan Mass, lock your valuables in the trunk of your car, or have a friend or relative watch your purse while you are away from the pew. Don’t take them in to the church, because you will not be in the pew continuously. Sadly, there are thieves in churches, and an unattended purse is an attractive target.
 
odile53 said:
Several years ago I was the RCIA sponsor to a former coworker of mine, and was her confirmation sponsor. It was an unusually cold spring. Since Roz was being baptized as well, she didn’t wear a mantilla. Baptism was by pouring (she held her head over the baptismal font sideways as the bishop poured water over her forehead.) She had her hair up in a tight bun so she didn’t have to worry about wet hair hanging around. I recall she wore a nicely tailored light grey wool skirt suit with a peach colored, fairly high cut silk blouse, and a pair of mid-height pumps (about two inches.) She looked modest, reverent, and very classically stylish, and the suit in particular was something she’d be able to wear for years to come to any occasion demanding a conservative yet attractive look.
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Sounds wonderful!
A word of warning: If you are being confirmed at a large diocesan Mass, lock your valuables in the trunk of your car, or have a friend or relative watch your purse while you are away from the pew. Don’t take them in to the church, because you will not be in the pew continuously. Sadly, there are thieves in churches, and an unattended purse is an attractive target.
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Good point. I didn’t think about this. Normally, we ladies take our purses with us when we go to communion.

I’m not sure yet if we will be sitting separately from everyone else, so I have to think about what I will do with my bag.
 
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