What Do I Do? I Think What I Am Doing Is Helping Me, But My Parents Don't Want Me To Do It

[iluvmusic2013]

I am a 17-year old senior in high school. For the past six years, I have struggled with impurity with myself and impure thoughts. I suppose this was because, after school, I was always home with my mom, with no one to really talk to. (i have siblings but they work most of the day, and my parents? I don’t like talking too much about my personal life with them, only out of fear that they will get upset or something) Well, for the first time in a VERY long time, I have just passed a whole week WITHOUT FALLING (thanks be to God!!!) I believe that, partially, the reason that this has happened is because, about a week ago I got a girl’s number from school, a beautiful, innocent girl that I really, really like.

She is from Mexico, and the day I met her, I felt a deep longing in my heart to get to know her as a person. Since she only knows Spanish and I only know English, the only time I really get to “talk” to her is after school, when I text her (through the Google Translator) while I am working on homework in my room. Before I got her number, I had all these emotions (hormones and stuff) inside of me that were building up, and stupidly I believed that the best way to get rid of the stress was to be impure with myself…Well, now, whenever I feel I am getting stressed again, I just send her a text and we talk about things that are going on in our lives at the moment, and after the conversation ends, I feel much better. THE PROBLEM IS that my parents don’t know I am texting her, and I know they would be mad if they found out, only because I don’t exactly have the cleanest of pasts, to put it mildly…They have explicitly told me in the past not to text girls or I would be in trouble. However, ever since I got her number, this girl has helped me to stay in grace just by being there to talk We don’t know each other too well, but regardless, she is helping me…She is not crazy, she is a good girl. SO MY QUESTION IS THIS: WHAT DO I DO??? I don’t want to tell my parents I am texting her (not because there is anything bad going on, it is just normal talk), but I feel like I’m doing something wrong every time I text her, even though I feel like it’s helping me a lot. Responses from wiser people than me would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

[crystal_waters]

Why not invite the girl to your house to hang out, explain to your parents you arent boyfriend and girlfriend, she is just a friend, once they meet her and realise theres nothing romantic going on then maybe they wont mind letting you text her

 

[1ke]

Talk to your priest about your struggles with purity.

Find male friends to talk to about the weather, sports, or whatever your intersts are. Why must it be this girl you text with?

 

[RadRomCath]

You “don’t exactly have the cleanest of pasts?” Do you mean there’s more than just being impure with yourself? That statement and the fact that you’re 17 and your parents apparently don’t want you to have anything whatsoever to do with a girl (presumably based on your past conduct) raises concerns. I get the impression that your parents are trying to prevent you from harming somebody and to protect you from getting in serious trouble. Does this sound about right? If so, I think you should tell your parents that you’re talking to this girl and see what they want you to do.

At 17, you’re going to be beginning to figure out whether and how you’re going to have a relationship. If you have done something to give your parents as serious concerns as they apparently have, then perhaps you need some professional counseling before having any sort of relationship with a girl. If you went through counseling previously, then perhaps you should go back now that you’re at an age to hopefully begin to have a more healthy mature interactions with girls and address how to best to keep such interactions healthy.