What do you do when a stranger grabs your hand during Our Father prayer?

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😃 When a poster comes along who is complaining about the “unfriendly” person who gives him a dirty look when he reaches for their hand at the Our Father, then I will tell him the same thing. 😉
Now we not only have to cope with people reaching for hands but also have to look them in the face when we turn them down? Things can’t get more horizontal than that. :D:D

Beds in church, now there’s a thought. Thanks, Neo. 🙂
 
Now we not only have to cope with people reaching for hands but also have to look them in the face when we turn them down? Things can’t get more horizontal than that. :D:D

Beds in church, now there’s a thought. 🙂
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That’s not the point. I’ve provided the 2002 Latin (post #124) and the rubrics clearly state the hand posture of the priest and lay out who says what. (It’s still a dialogue.) The way I see it, the people have chosen to interject their own feelings and posture into the Mass, undermining the role of the priest among other things. Whether it’s nice or cute or pro-family or not is not an issue liturgical committees were given the power to address IMO. Otherwise the IGMR/GIRM would have addressed those issues and provide the available options for singles, families, and other groups.

Even in the EF, occasionally someone will pray the Pater Noster with the priest. There’s nothing wrong with it per se, but there has to be a boundary there somewhere. The priest has his parts and the people have theirs.
Why do you suppose our U.S. bishops and priests don’t put a stop to it?

Do you think it’s possible that you (and others, including me) don’t have a full understanding of the “rubrics”, and the bishops and priests do have a fuller understanding?

We could become like Protestants–people of “the book.” (Book = church documents about rubrics of Mass).

I wouldn’t like that. I’ve been there and done that, and it leads to controversy and splits.

I would rather rely on and trust those shepherds who spent decades studying the Church and the Mass, and who have also had decades of practical experience working “in the trenches” with parishioners of all varieties.
 
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We could become like Protestants–people of “the book.” (Book = church documents about rubrics of Mass).
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Exactly.
Whether you like the practice or not (I’m ambivalent), we are not people of the book, we are people of the person, Jesus Christ specifically.
 
Not even Smartphones, Kindles, projectors, and other devices they are pushing on us? :D:D
Funny you should mention projectors (food for another long thread).

Our parish is considering a projector at Mass and I am proposing the same line of thinking I proposed earlier in this thread as an alternative to the impersonalism of it all.
 
I’m sorry, but this doesn’t make any sense…

Are you saying that because I find holding hands during Our Father detracts from my focus on prayer, that I should be in favor of things that cause further distraction? :confused:

Give me Mass the way Daily Mass is preformed on ETWN.
  • 6 Candles on the Altar
  • Crucifix on the Altar
  • Kyrie eleison, Christe eleison
  • chant
  • Latin Prayers
  • incense
  • Choir dress
  • etc.
I’m Catholic, Roman Rite. Not a Baptist from Liberty University. :rolleyes:
I’m pretty sure ETWN is better staffed and funded than many parishes.
 
Ok, now we’re just arguing for the sake of arguing.
I’m out.
Don’t bail just because you were rebuffed. It’s a valid point–just because something isn’t absolutely necessary doesn’t mean it has no value.
 
But yeah, it’s going to be an awfully strongminded modern mystic who can have visions today, when you can’t kneel, can’t stay in the pew, can’t hear yourself think. St. Catherine of Siena managed it in her noisy churches, of course, but she also managed to pray when people were beating and poking her, and when she was scrubbing down the whole house.
You know, praying OUTSIDE of Mass is also an option.

The point of church is not just to facilitate private mystical experiences, but to come together as a community. If you want to go on a private vision quest, maybe pick a better time.
 
Funny you should mention projectors (food for another long thread).

Our parish is considering a projector at Mass and I am proposing the same line of thinking I proposed earlier in this thread as an alternative to the impersonalism of it all.
I think you’re missing a point here. It’s not the personalization of such devices but the fact that some text, be that of scripture, of the liturgy, of the music, of the IGMR/GIRM, of the Apostolic Constitutions, of the countless Church documents and of other instructions, is always being followed, whether we choose to read them or ignore them. We don’t make things up on the fly just to suit ourselves. Then it becomes a self-serving argument.
 
I think you’re missing a point here. It’s not the personalization of such devices but the fact that some text, be that of scripture, of the liturgy, of the music, of the IGMR/GIRM, of the Apostolic Constitutions, of the countless Church documents and of other instructions, is always being followed, whether we choose to read them or ignore them. We don’t make things up on the fly just to suit ourselves. Then it becomes a self-serving argument.
And that’s exactly why we need to let the priest (and bishop) run the Mass. They have hopefully spent many years studying the Mass and know a lot more than most of us laypeople. And on top of that, they have the years of experience in “shepherding,” which means taking care of the souls of real people in real-life situations. Most of us don’t have that kind of experience.

I realize that some laypeople have made a hobby out of studying the various Church documents and could probably give a priest or even a bishop a run for the money if they were playing, “Trivial Pursuit–Mass Rubrics.”

And there are some laypeople who hold positions as “Liturgy Directors” in their parishes, and ideally, these people should have a better knowledge of the rubrics than their peers (although many of those “Liturgy Directors” are volunteers in smaller parishes, and they’re trying to do their parish work on top of a full time job and caring for a family–I can’t imagine that they can put in as many hours studying the Church documents as a bishop has spent).

Most of us only know the rubrics piecemeal. I really think we need to trust those who have put in the study time and earned the degree(s). And when it comes to the hand-holding during the Our Father, it seems that most priests and bishops have decided to not make an issue out of it. Since they are our shepherds, we need to follow their lead. :yup:
 
And that’s exactly why we need to let the priest (and bishop) run the Mass. They have hopefully spent many years studying the Mass and know a lot more than most of us laypeople. And on top of that, they have the years of experience in “shepherding,” which means taking care of the souls of real people in real-life situations. Most of us don’t have that kind of experience.

I realize that some laypeople have made a hobby out of studying the various Church documents and could probably give a priest or even a bishop a run for the money if they were playing, “Trivial Pursuit–Mass Rubrics.”

And there are some laypeople who hold positions as “Liturgy Directors” in their parishes, and ideally, these people should have a better knowledge of the rubrics than their peers (although many of those “Liturgy Directors” are volunteers in smaller parishes, and they’re trying to do their parish work on top of a full time job and caring for a family–I can’t imagine that they can put in as many hours studying the Church documents as a bishop has spent).

Most of us only know the rubrics piecemeal. I really think we need to trust those who have put in the study time and earned the degree(s). And when it comes to the hand-holding during the Our Father, it seems that most priests and bishops have decided to not make an issue out of it. Since they are our shepherds, we need to follow their lead. :yup:
The sad thing is that when priests and bishops have addressed, people get upset. The bishops don’t want to make this a fight. So they are actually thinking about ending the priest doing the Orans Posture during the Our Father.

Listen to what Archbishop Sample says about it. The real issue is the idea that people want to add thing to the mass, but then don’t do the things the rubrics call for, i.e. Profound bow during creed, tapping of chest during Penitential Act A, slight bow of head at mention of the names of Christ, the names of the Trinity and the Blessed Virgin.

I still think a good solution is if a parish has at least two Masses on Sunday, at least one is an orthodox Mass, while a 2nd can be a Charismatic Mass. Let the people choose which they like better.
 
You know, praying OUTSIDE of Mass is also an option.

The point of church is not just to facilitate private mystical experiences, but to come together as a community. If you want to go on a private vision quest, maybe pick a better time.
Wait, it’s all about community? OK, so then, exactly what is the **community **there for? Worshiping God, right? Not each other. . .

You know, Mass (in church) can be said by the priest alone (no other ‘community’ there). . .so it seems that the point of Church (i.e. Mass) might include coming together as a community but does not have to include it. . .

Plus, isn’t there room for people to be both ‘part of the community’ and to be ‘individuals’ as well? We aren’t lemmings, are we? “One person does X as a personal preference, therefore all others must do X as well, even if it is not their personal preference”. . .seems a bit totalitarian to me, not Christ-like.
 
Wait, it’s all about community? OK, so then, exactly what is the **community **there for? Worshiping God, right? Not each other. . .

You know, Mass (in church) can be said by the priest alone (no other ‘community’ there). . .so it seems that the point of Church (i.e. Mass) might include coming together as a community but does not have to include it. . .

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You do realize that point is very easily debatable.
 
The real issue is the idea that people want to add thing to the mass, but then don’t do the things the rubrics call for, i.e. Profound bow during creed, tapping of chest during Penitential Act A, slight bow of head at mention of the names of Christ, the names of the Trinity and the Blessed Virgin.
I think the real issue may be that people get fixated over whether or not everyone perfectly performs every act and forget that God looks on the heart.
 
Wait, it’s all about community? OK, so then, exactly what is the **community **there for? Worshiping God, right? Not each other. . .

You know, Mass (in church) can be said by the priest alone (no other ‘community’ there). . .so it seems that the point of Church (i.e. Mass) might include coming together as a community but does not have to include it. . .

Plus, isn’t there room for people to be both ‘part of the community’ and to be ‘individuals’ as well? We aren’t lemmings, are we? “One person does X as a personal preference, therefore all others must do X as well, even if it is not their personal preference”. . .seems a bit totalitarian to me, not Christ-like.
If you can show me an example of what you described–totalitarian demands based on private personal preference–from the above thread, I would have a much better idea of what you mean. It sounds like you are being considerably uncharitable, but I’ve probably misunderstood you.

How could we be mad that we have to make very minor sacrifices for our brethren (and sistren) at church and at the same time call ourselves disciples of Jesus? If we cannot forgive our fellow Christians their very minor trespasses against us at church, how can we expect God to forgive our real transgressions when we are out in the world? And yet we believe that he does, and he is our example.

Hold hands or don’t hold hands, it’s fine with me–but freaking out because we have to deal with other people at church? We could just stay home and watch the service on EWTN if we don’t want to be troubled by the basic levels of human contact taking place at Mass.
 
The sad thing is that when priests and bishops have addressed, people get upset. The bishops don’t want to make this a fight. So they are actually thinking about ending the priest doing the Orans Posture during the Our Father.

Listen to what Archbishop Sample says about it. The real issue is the idea that people want to add thing to the mass, but then don’t do the things the rubrics call for, i.e. Profound bow during creed, tapping of chest during Penitential Act A, slight bow of head at mention of the names of Christ, the names of the Trinity and the Blessed Virgin.

I still think a good solution is if a parish has at least two Masses on Sunday, at least one is an orthodox Mass, while a 2nd can be a Charismatic Mass. Let the people choose which they like better.
A “charismatic Mass” should still be orthodox. I can’t imagine a parish priest allowing, with full knowledge, a “Mass” that is “unorthodox.”

And all Masses should be liturgically correct and done according to the rubrics.

And I don’t understand what you are suggesting–as far as I know, there are TWO forms of the Mass approved by the Church–the Extraordinary Form and the Ordinary Form. There is no such thing as “orthodox Mass” and “charismatic Mass.”

Are you talking about the music? Even the most contemporary of Mass music should still be done in a Mass form that is done according to the rubrics.

The problem with the hand-holding is that it is NOT spelled out in the rubrics one way or another, and so the people continue to do it. Until it is spelled out, the priests can’t really “forbid it,” because it isn’t forbidden.

I know that some people were taught that certain postures, gestures, clothings, etc. were “forbidden,” but most of these are not spelled out in the rubrics. Frankly, I would be dismayed (and I think many others would be dismayed and even angry) if the Church spelled out every single posture that the laypeople are allowed to have during the OF of the Mass.

E.g., I think it would be horrible if the rubrics spelled out such things as, “A woman may not cross her legs,” or “A man may not drape his arm over the back of the pew,” or "a child may not play with a toy but they may read a church-approved book about the saints, " etc.

This is going too far. Thankfully, the Church has not done this.

Raising the hands during the Our Father is also not specifically forbidden, although some of the documents that ProVobis has posted imply that only the priest is allowed to pray this way. But as far as I can see, there is no written statement in any of the rubrics commonly available to the laypeople that “it is forbidden for the laypeople to raise their hands during the Lords’ Prayer.” (I think that it would be important for this to be in American English rather than using the Latin phrase, because most of us don’t understand Latin).

As for those things that you mentioned–the bow during the Creed’s mention of the Incarnation, striking the breast during the Confiteor, etc.–these are written on the pew cards. Here’s the problem, and it’s very practical–the print size in those pew cards is way too small for most of us to read.

When it comes to younger people who are able to read the print on the pew card, I think it’s a question of the priest himself reminding people, during the Mass while they are all gathered (not in the bulletin which most people never read), to do these things. When the young people and children do not see the older people do these things, they get the idea that they are not required. That’s how things get to be habitual.

The whole situation could be solved if the print in the pew cards was LARGE ENOUGH TO READ WITHOUT READING GLASSES! and if the parish priest would speak up and gently remind people of what they are supposed to be doing!

The bow of the head at the mention of Christ, the Trinity, and the Blessed Virgin is NOT a required gesture. There was a thread about this a few weeks ago here on CAF. It was prescribed in the older form of the Mass, but not in the OF.

I personally think that everyone should be required to SING the hymns and responses during the Mass, but that also is not required, and I’m sure many of the laypeople are greatly relieved that it isn’t required. But I wish it was! 🙂 I think it’s the only way we’ll ever get Catholics to sing out!
 
^^^ Should be required reading for anyone posting a subsequent opinion on this thread.
 
Raising the hands during the Our Father is also not specifically forbidden, although some of the documents that ProVobis has posted imply that only the priest is allowed to pray this way.
Although there is no licet, oportet, decuit, placet there, it is generally acknowledged that the priest MUST pray this way. I merely pointed out that if people also follow this way, they are undermining the actions of the priest and/or taking it upon themselves to insert their own rubrics. The 2002 Missal (the PDF file) has already like 800 pages filled with text instructions. You don’t really think it has space required to list everything that isn’t allowed, do you?

At one parish I frequented, the congregation took it upon themselves to follow the priest in saying “Through Him and with Him and in Him…” When the bishop heard this, he was not impressed and put an immediate halt to the practice. He made his point about what people aren’t supposed to do. I don’t see when people try to imitate the priest at other times to be any different.
 
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