What do you guys think of hair extensions?

[Bezant]

If you were looking for a spouse, would you be not be attracted to a girl because she has hair extensions? I’m thinking of getting some but I don’t want to appear “fake”.

I’d probably notice extensions and want to see her real hair at some point, otherwise, I couldn’t care less. For me the turn off isn’t fakery but when she makes a big fuss about me seeing her dressed down.

 

[RACJ]

I’m a guy who’s all about long hair on women. BUT, short hair is not a deal breaker. All it takes is one haircut on a whim, and you’ve got to live with the result for a long time. Whether you regret it or not, it’s gone.
Now, what I would personally prefer to extensions is a synthetic long hairpiece for fun from time to time while your own locks are growing. Remember, eventually the extensions must be cut out, and along with the fake hair, some of your own hair must be cut as well.
It should be noted that many men regard women’s hairstyles as irrelevant, while a good number of guys prefer short hair. Moreover, I’ve known men who may LOVE long hair, but they still fell for the gal with closer-cropped hair. No rational formula exists for understnding what ultimately attracts, but only personality compatability can make it last. Rob

P.S. Are hair extensions any more “fake” than hair dye, make-up or nail polish? I think not. If they make you feel great about yourself, why not? “Fake” is presenting a personality that is not you. Nothing is duller to observe than a woman who cares nothing about her appearance. It’s normal for one to do things which stir the imagination of the opposite sex.

 

[cheezey]

…P.S. Are hair extensions any more “fake” than hair dye, make-up or nail polish? I think not. If they make you feel great about yourself, why not? “Fake” is presenting a personality that is not you. Nothing is duller to observe than a woman who cares nothing about her appearance. It’s normal for one to do things which stir the imagination of the opposite sex.

thanks for the idea; I might buy a wig…

 

[Xantippe]

“I have a full scholarship that pays for my undergrad years and will also pay for my medical school so the money that I make from my job I get to keep. I only came home this Summer because I decided not to do any internships and so I had no choice but to come home. Starting in December, I will start my stay at Cambridge for a year and I will not be returning home so therefore, I will not have to worry about finding a safe place to live. Let’s not be so quick to judge situations.”

That all sounds great. You didn’t mention that in your initial post, though, and many of us read your previous post about your nightmarish summer living situation and were getting whiplash.

Please try to come up with some savings this year so that if any part of your plan malfunctions, that you will be able to live in a safe, clean home and not have to spend even 5 minutes in any place where you don’t feel safe. One month of living expenses would be a good start to aim for.

 

[legitbrit]

“I have a full scholarship that pays for my undergrad years and will also pay for my medical school so the money that I make from my job I get to keep. I only came home this Summer because I decided not to do any internships and so I had no choice but to come home. Starting in December, I will start my stay at Cambridge for a year and I will not be returning home so therefore, I will not have to worry about finding a safe place to live. Let’s not be so quick to judge situations.”

That all sounds great. You didn’t mention that in your initial post, though, and many of us read your previous post about your nightmarish summer living situation and were getting whiplash.

Please try to come up with some savings this year so that if any part of your plan malfunctions, that you will be able to live in a safe, clean home and not have to spend even 5 minutes in any place where you don’t feel safe. One month of living expenses would be a good start to aim for.

Thanks. My situation is bad now and if I had to repeat this, hair extensions would be the last thing on my mind. However, I was thinking of extensions if I chose to get them, for around December. I do appreciate all of the help and advice that I received on the last thread because I was feeling down but because of the support, I feel better. However, when people act rude on a Catholic forum and mention Jesus in the very same breath (err keystroke), it seems hypocritical and it’s off putting.

 

[Xantippe]

To your question–just as with a lot of female grooming, I think a lot of men would be attracted by the finished look, but would be horrified when they realize how expensive and time-consuming it is. As a true and sad example, I once witnessed the slow death of a relationship between an Italian man and an African-American woman. They were soooo in love and then they started living together. He was so peeved by her hair stuff being littered all over the apartment and how time-consuming the process was. Similarly, in my family there’s an older couple where the wife primps and primps and primps. She looks great for her age, but it takes a long time, she’s always late, and it drives her husband nuts. My husband would like me to curl my hair (I did it when we were courting and lived separately), but going to bed in curlers is something I am not willing to do (I think he would also dislike it if I were to abandon the household for however long it would take to do hot rollers or whatever women are using these days).

This is a real dilemma. On the one hand, men often appreciate the high-maintenance look, but on the other hand, they often HATE living with the process. In marriage, they also often hate how expensive the high-maintenance look is.

 

[legitbrit]

To your question–just as with a lot of female grooming, I think a lot of men would be attracted by the finished look, but would be horrified when they realize how expensive and time-consuming it is. As a true and sad example, I once witnessed the slow death of a relationship between an Italian man and an African-American woman. They were soooo in love and then they started living together. He was so peeved by her hair stuff being littered all over the apartment and how time-consuming the process was. Similarly, in my family there’s an older couple where the wife primps and primps and primps. She looks great for her age, but it takes a long time, she’s always late, and it drives her husband nuts. My husband would like me to curl my hair (I did it when we were courting and lived separately), but going to bed in curlers is something I am not willing to do (I think he would also dislike it if I were to abandon the household for however long it would take to do hot rollers or whatever women are using these days).

This is a real dilemma. On the one hand, men often appreciate the high-maintenance look, but on the other hand, they often HATE living with the process. In marriage, they also often hate how expensive the high-maintenance look is.

Oh…wow. This is an eye-opener. Thanks

 

[madelynn]

As a true and sad example, I once witnessed the slow death of a relationship between an Italian man and an African-American woman. They were soooo in love and then they started living together. He was so peeved by her hair stuff being littered all over the apartment and how time-consuming the process was.

Did they break up because of her hairstyles, or because of conflicts with cleanliness? You mentioned “littered,” which suggests to me that there were some housekeeping issues.

Not all men have issue with women’s primping, by the way. There are men who get used to it-like some women get used to certain men’s habits. In fact, there are men who like to primp also.

 

[Catholic_Wife]

And the fact that you’re implying that I’m a sinner and need to see the error of my ways is absolutely wrong

. I’m a sinner for being abused? Okay, let me go confess for nearly being killed when I was younger. How dare I commit such a sin.
We are all sinners, and we are all called to help each other through life and to counsel others when we feel they may be making poor decisions (like talking about hair extensions when all we know is that you are presently in a bad living situation). I think that Xantippe and h(name removed by moderator)forlife were saying that - based on other threads and posts you have made in those threads - you seem to have a lot more pressing issues to deal with right now than hair extensions and finding a spouse. I don’t think they meant to be rude in any way or were “hitting below the belt”, but were concerned for your well-being instead.

It was below the belt and if you read it, my situation is concerning Summer. I’m here with my family on break but when I return to school, I won’t have to worry about funds for living

. And I’ll start saving up when I return to school, because I have a job there. I have a full scholarship that pays for my undergrad years and will also pay for my medical school so the money that I make from my job I get to keep. I only came home this Summer because I decided not to do any internships and so I had no choice but to come home. Starting in December, I will start my stay at Cambridge for a year and I will not be returning home so therefore, I will not have to worry about finding a safe place to live. Let’s not be so quick to judge situations.
It’s good that your living situation will improve. One thing to think about is that a “wash and wear” hairstyle will be more practical during medical school. You will be (should be) spending a lot of time focusing on the massive amounts of information you will have to cram into your brain in such a little time that you probably won’t have time to bother with the upkeep of extensions. From talking to lots of doctors, your premed studies will most likely be just as rigorous as medical school. I would suggest not worrying about extensions until after you have finished your residency, but that’s just my opinion based on the interactions I’ve had with interns and residents, who say they barely have time to eat, sleep, or shower, let alone make their hair look good.

If you were looking for a spouse, would you be not be attracted to a girl because she has hair extensions?

I’m thinking of getting some but I don’t want to appear “fake”.
Here’s how my husband answered this. He liked my hair when it was above the shoulders, and he likes my hair now that it’s mid-back length. He likes it however I wear it because it’s me. He likes the “natural look”. Some men won’t mind extensions, but some will. Yes, your future spouse will like the way you look, but he should care more about your inner beauty instead of your outer beauty (which will fade over time).

 

[Xantippe]

Madelynn said:

“Did they break up because of her hairstyles, or because of conflicts with cleanliness? You mentioned “littered,” which suggests to me that there were some housekeeping issues.”

I never saw their place, I just heard the Italian griping about her hair stuff and how much time it took her. I’m sure she had her gripes too, but it was him that I saw daily (he was griping to English school classmates).

“Not all men have issue with women’s primping, by the way. There are men who get used to it-like some women get used to certain men’s habits.”

I know they must exist, but I’ve never met one.

Catholic_Wife said:

“One thing to think about is that a “wash and wear” hairstyle will be more practical during medical school.”

Oooooh, that is a very good point.

Also, I’ve never done extensions, but it occurs to me that there may be some hygiene concerns with them in a medical setting. It might be worth doing some research, first–hospitals may even have official guidelines on that sort of thing, as well as nails.

Best wishes to legit_brit!

 

[Catholic_Wife]

Catholic_Wife said:

“One thing to think about is that a “wash and wear” hairstyle will be more practical during medical school.”

Oooooh, that is a very good point.

Also, I’ve never done extensions, but it occurs to me that there may be some hygiene concerns with them in a medical setting. It might be worth doing some research, first–hospitals may even have official guidelines on that sort of thing, as well as nails.

None of the hospitals I’ve worked in have rules against them; just rules that hair has to be pulled back/up while doing patient care. The last thing you want is for you hair to end up in someone else’s body fluid. :nope:

The reason I mentioned a wash and wear style is, from what I’ve seen of interns and residents (at least in the US), during their 24 hours of being on call, they don’t have time to primp if they are awakened in the middle of the night. When the attending or the ER doctors want you, they want you NOW. You will barely have enough time to throw your hair into a ponytail (which could kill extensions) or a messy bun.

 

[Ridgerunner]

Are hair extensions any more “fake” than hair dye, make-up or nail polish? I think not. If they make you feel great about yourself, why not? “Fake” is presenting a personality that is not you. Nothing is duller to observe than a woman who cares nothing about her appearance. It’s normal for one to do things which stir the imagination of the opposite sex.

I agree. I think anything that a woman wants to do to enhance her appearance and isn’t potentially harmful to her (liposuction can be deadly or deforming) is fine for her to do. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Oh wait! I HATE tatoos on a woman. Hate 'em. I hate them on men too unless it’s one of those U.S. Marine eagle/anchor ones on the arm. So many former Marines have those and won them the hard way, so it’s hard to take offense at them.

 

[McMcMe]

I think it is all about balance. I stopped coloring my hair a while back because it was taking a lot of money and time from the people I love and was simply about my vanity. Now, I’m not saying that everyone should refrain from hair treatments, but for me it was a non-essential. Grooming is one thing but pursuing glamour and earthly beauty to the detriment of other things is another. There are some scholars who say the reason St. Paul instructed some women to cover or not braid their hair elaborately was because it was to excess and distracting them from their Christian calling.

Here are some questions: Am I spending more on haircare products and services than I give to the poor? How do I feel about that? Do I spend more time and effort on my appearance each morning than I do in prayer? What would Jesus say about that if he were he with me now? If all my time and money is a gift from God, am I using these gifts wisely?

I’m not saying do or don’t get extensions, or that I’ll never color my hair again; just that to walk the way of Jesus, we need to be vigilant about where we put our time, treasure and talents.

 

[RACJ]

I agree. I think anything that a woman wants to do to enhance her appearance and isn’t potentially harmful to her (liposuction can be deadly or deforming) is fine for her to do. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Oh wait! I HATE tatoos on a woman. Hate 'em. I hate them on men too unless it’s one of those U.S. Marine eagle/anchor ones on the arm. So many former Marines have those and won them the hard way, so it’s hard to take offense at them.

Wow, we think too much alike. I’d flip if my wife ever allowed herself to be sliced with a scalpel for purely aesthetic reasons. And I’m definitely with you that guys love to see women who try to make themselves look nice. Luckily, my wife has worn very long, natural hair for the past dozen years or more. She’s in her mid-50’s and it looks awesome on her! Rob

 

[Catholic_Wife]

Oh wait! I HATE tatoos on a woman. Hate 'em. I hate them on men too unless it’s one of those U.S. Marine eagle/anchor ones on the arm. So many former Marines have those and won them the hard way, so it’s hard to take offense at them.

Not to derail the thread, but what about WOMEN who earned that eagle/globe/anchor the hard way ???

Here are some questions: Am I spending more on haircare products and services than I give to the poor? How do I feel about that? Do I spend more time and effort on my appearance each morning than I do in prayer? What would Jesus say about that if he were he with me now? If all my time and money is a gift from God, am I using these gifts wisely?

Excellent questions!!!

 

[legitbrit]

From talking to lots of doctors, your premed studies will most likely be just as rigorous as medical school. I would suggest not worrying about extensions until after you have finished your residency, but that’s just my opinion based on the interactions I’ve had with interns and residents, who say they barely have time to eat, sleep, or shower, let alone make their hair look good.

Thanks. I’ve done lots of clinicals and hair extensions are not that big of a fuss that it will hinder my studies in any way. My friend had some and really, they just braided her hair and attached the hair to the braids. It’s treated like normal hair. Hair extensions are not so difficult to take care of that I’d have to wait until I was done with residency. And if they barely have time to shower, perhaps they are not planning their time so well.

 

[legitbrit]

Hair extensions are okay in a medical setting as it’s treated as the individuals hair. My nails just have to be trimmed but hair extensions are not considered to be a hygiene issue

 

[Havard]

Hair extensions are okay in a medical setting as it’s treated as the individuals hair. My nails just have to be trimmed but hair extensions are not considered to be a hygiene issue

Sorry if I missed it, but what’s your hair like naturally? I think afros are really cute, short or long. I don’t know if that works with your hair though.