What do you like about being married?

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NOT Dating!!!

I was never a big into the dating scene. My husband and I went on a few dates and that was it. We were married later that same year. I cannot imagine trying to date again.
 
GraceDK said:
I am 25… hope its not too late. I write some letters for my yet unknown husband hoping that God sees it also and thinks: “aww, I can’t dissapoint her” 🙂
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I didn’t meet my husband until I was 28, 6 months later we married. 6 years later we’ve 3 kids and going strong! The funny thing is, at the first of the year before we met, we BOTH gave up looking. I remember telling God that I wasn’t looking anymore and that if He had someone for me then He was going to have to drop him in my lap! He did!

I felt the same way you do now. My best advice is to enjoy your single life, grow in your faith, volunteer to help in the church nursery or help a new family in some way. Keep yourself involved in your parish. You’ve heard it all before I’m sure but don’t give up hope!
 
Married for over 35 years.

Best thing about marriage? Eating alone, as my daughter might put it, sucks doggy do-do. You don’t have to eat alone anymore.

Next best? Happily married people live longer and better lives. You look after him and he looks after you. Great division of responsibilities. Works so well that my in-laws lived into their mid-ninetyies.

Matthew
 
Knowing that there is someone that loves me more than anyone (except God, of course).
Knowing that he is thinking about me when I am thinking of him.
No matter what problems there are, that it doesn’t change the love we have.
My husband took me out for our anniversary the other night; Lovely restaurant, silver service, beautiful food. We laughed all night and it was perfect! It was like we had just met.
He bought me a dress and earrings and a matching necklace.
Later we went home, he lit some candles, before I got in and we sat and watched a movie together.
He bought my favourite chocolates, and also cooked me breakfast the next day. He went to so much effort, it was so wonderful!
It was a perfect night.
I also love the way he loves our son. He just adores him. He is a sweet, kind and loving Father. I think it is amazing that you can love someone so much and show that love by having a child. God is Great!
 
Having someone to be silly with. Sleeping beside someone who will fight off the night zombies for me. 😃 And fill out forms. Being united in faith with my best friend, the man who understands and supports me completely. Sharing all of life together.

Not having to date, too. Watching people who ‘don’t want to get married because it’s so difficult’- their dating lives make both of us profoundly grateful to be settled.

Not having to explain everything, because we share most of the same presuppositions, reading tastes, history.

I love being married.
 
I think the challenges of marriage are also something to be thankful for. We’re in a sort of transition stage–still so in love but dealing with the fact that our love is changing right now. Even in the midst of annoyance, frustration, uncertainty, we both now that the other would lay down our life. That trust is extremely edifying and all in all the challenge of having to lay down for the other (and actually wanting to) is defintely a very spiritual exercise. It isn’t easy or chocolate and roses all the time, but it is good–it is amazing and it is from God!
 
I second (or third or whatever) the Everything comment.

There are oh so many things!!! I won’t even attempt to summarize/ highlight/ etc. I’ll just mention a couple that come to mind right now:

Knowing dh is aaaaaaaall mine 🙂 (I know he is God’s, but ya know what I mean).
All the neat things the sacrament of Marriage includes and entails.
Knowing this is my vocation and loving God for making such a wonderful vocation.
Being a good setting to grow as a family (marriage).
Seeing him (when he comes home from work, when I wake up in the morning, etc) always brightens my day, regardless of what has been going on.
Having someone that shares my faith and shares my trying to live it.
Hopefully we will help each other reach Heaven.
Having a partner for life, one that I love like crazy, love being around, trust with my life, and know I can love without reservations.
I could go on and on…
 
the best thing about being married is if you are lucky enough to get married young you can hopefully have your kids young. And raising them is really fun and really tough too. you start off just you and him then the kids. and there never seems to be enough time for you and him. but then over night that all disapears and the kids leave. and you find your self (for myself and my husband) in your mid forties. and guess what. the kids are gone and its like you start your life all over again. but it so much better now. you appreciate eachother more. love eachother more. And are still young enough to have fun still. and when you were young you couldnt go anywhere anyway because you never had the money now you do. Now that the children are gone in this summer was great. We like to ride a motercycle. he comes home at 4 im done at 4 and we take off especially during the week. it hot muggy we go out to eat and take a great ride. its like we really are dating again. and guess what no supper, no school clothes, no baths, homework. just us. See thats Gods way of showing us that the hard times were worth it. becasue without them we wouldnt be who we are. and would never have this to share with anyone else in the world. and there is never a problem of my kids his kids. my ex his ex. its just us. so hang in there and when GOd sends you the right one stay in the game. work hard together you will NEVER EVER REGRET IT.
 
😃 I love this thread!

I love knowing that the man I share my life with is out there working his butt off all day to support us, and then is eager to get home to us at the end of the day. I love knowing that I live with a man who worships me. I love having so many opportunities to serve (DH and my kids) built into my every day life, because I am not sure I would be good at finding them on my own. I love the fact that my own personal incarnation of the Good Shepherd holds me every night while I sleep. (DH led me back to the Church, and I have been much happier ever since.) I love the wonderful little people we have created through our love, and watching his character and example mold and teach them. I love the security of having that person to lean on every day, and I love being that person for him. I love knowing that when my house finally calms down and rings empty for the lack of children’s voices, he and I will still have each other. And I love knowing that at least one nice guy didn’t finish last, and got the wife and family he deserves, cuz I work hard taking really good care of my man.

And I, too, like that I never have to face the “dating scene” again. I was bad at it, and I would be worse if I ever tried again. Of course, I would be REALLY old when and if I did, because I would finish raising my kids first!
 
:hmmm: **Where do I start? 😃 **
I can’t name just one thing I like, but I will mention what I like best.
**My husband and I are best friends. I’m his best friend, and he is my best friend. We get to spend the rest of our lives living with our very best friends! First here on earth, and then later in heaven. Life can’t get much sweeter than that! :heaven: **
 
Being in south FL, it’s nice having someone to catch the lizards and put them outside.

Squishing bugs…

But most importantly…

Need a spouse to have babies. More babies. Cute babies. Sweet smellin smooth skinned toothless grin babies.👍
 
I agree with all the posters here :D…

Having my best friend by my side all the time. Seriously, he always has a smile on his face when he comes home from work and sees me. That smile makes my day, especially if I’m having a horrible day!

Having cute babies together ;)!!!

Being silly, sharing memories, being able to be myself 24/7 and knowing he’ll always love me.

Having someone to make meals for, do laundry, vacuum, make little surprises for :).

Getting neck massages (that’s where I hold my tension).

Getting excited about small things together (like watching our son smile or giggle, a new state quarter, thunderstorms, etc.)

Having his arms always open for me to be in whether it’s because I need a shoulder to cry on, to be comforted, to rest, or just to love.

SO many more…the list is endless. 🙂
 
holly_potter said:
wow…that sounds great!
i’m still totally single (never dated) so I’m curious about how the relationships work. Books aren’t a good substitute :rolleyes: I hope I find a husband who doesn’t mind my deafness 🙂

That’s something to look forward to!
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With that wonderful attitude of yours, my dear, I don’t think you’ll have any problem! :hug1:
 
Not to discredit the other posters… but my wife isn’t my “best friend”. She’s my wife!
(One of my pet-peeves is the statement “Today I marry my best friend…”, If that was the case I’d be married to “Fred”!)

My best friend is someone “outside” my immediate family - that one person who has no blood ties/obligations - but is held as having such, but holds the exemptions of not having blood ties.

What I like about being married is:
  • Being somehow bonded to someone - in an inexplicable way.
  • Knowing that I have total trust in another person.
  • Knowing that if I screw up in galactic magnitude, there’s at least one person who will help me pick up the pieces.
  • Sharing my dreams & goals, and having help achieving them.
  • Having an unconditional “shoulder to cry upon” when I need it.
  • Being accepted (all faults inclusive) by someone/something that is tangible.
  • Creating and nurturing another life (s), due to the love, understanding, and Grace between us.
  • Knowing that I’ll not grow old bitter and alone.
 
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