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Based on my experience of monasticism, and adapting some of its core concepts to my private life as an oblate, I’d like to address your three points:Friends,
Holy Benedictines have suggested that my personality is well-suited to the life of St. Benedict. I have tremendous doubts, however.
What is it about the monastic life that makes monks uniquely beneficial to the Church, alongside active religious orders, secular clergy, and the laity?
When I look at the cenobitic community life, I see three things:
I often try to overcome each of these. I think that perhaps the rhythm of psalms wouldn’t drive me mad. Perhaps the fellow Brothers in the monastery could be “my poor” to serve. Perhaps the disconnection from the secular world would allow me to touch the truly real world of Heaven.
- the same psalms at the Office every week, over and over and over again,
- the inability to go and be with the poor and embrace them personally,
- the sense of being disconnected from the “real world”.
None of these help, though. I fear that somehow it’s less Christian to not be around the poor, or that it’s a waste of time to chant psalms for hours on end. I love the Mass and Office, but it seems a lot.
Does anyone know good resources about the monastic life - theologically, deeply, and spiritually? What is its purpose? Does it please God?
1. the same psalms at the Office every week, over and over and over again,
Not entirely. The calendar is dotted with memorials, feasts and solemnities; then there are the seasons. Most Benedictines sing the Offices or at least part of them; for most memorials the psalms are the same but different hymns and Gospel canticle antiphons; for feasts or solemnities, the festive psalms are used; for the season, there are seasonal antiphons for the Gospel canticles and for the Sunday Offices. It’s not as repetitive as one may think and in fact some monks I know well would rather it be more repetitive as they often have to sing many of the hymns and antiphons for some Offices only rarely, which makes doing it well rather more difficult. As one says, he has a great devotion to St. Feria

2. the inability to go and be with the poor and embrace them personally,
The poor come to you and you embrace them personally. The Benedictine charism of hospitality means that it isn’t just the well-off professional that shows up at the door for a weekend retreat to decompress. Through the portals of the monastery come the sick, the broken, the addicted, criminal, the homosexual, the divorced, in short, all of humanity’s ills. All will be welcomed as Christ himself, and all will, if desired, have a monk sit and engage with them. Monks have a powerful ability to truly listen; it’s the first word of the Rule, after all! Countless lives have been saved or put back on the right track by monks. A celibate Benedictine monk has given me the best marital advice of anybody including married marriage therapists; my spiritual director literally saved my marriage by speaking, or rather listening, to myself and my wife independently.
3. the sense of being disconnected from the “real world”.
The monks are in the real world. They are in the world, but not of the world. Monks are not blind to what goes on in the world; they read/listen/watch the news; the Abbot keeps them informed, and through their relationships with oblates, their eyes beyond the cloister walls, they are extremely informed of the world and hardly disconnected from it. Use the words “real world” to describe the world outside the walls to a Benedictine and you may get your head bitten off!

Hope this helps a bit. Best suggestion is to spend time in a monastery; most have some sort of vocations program that allows you to get a taste of monastic life.