Ours is a society where people are easily offended over even the hint of a slight and are always ready to assume the mantle of victimhood
No, some people are just easily hurt. The OP is possibly a very decent and beloved man in his circle of relatives and friends, and he is not used to getting castigated for asking a simple question and using a folk phrase. Some people move only in loving circles, where people are kind and polite to each other, and no one yells or uses insulting language or has ulterior motives. This kind of life leaves a person totally unprepared for the “real world,” where people are rude, conniving, loud, and critical of everything and everyone.
The OP shouldn’t be criticized for having soft…heart.
We also don’t know what is in the OPs past that may have been upset by some of the responses. **Just yesterday on this board, someone used the exact same phrase to criticize me that one of the pastors who threw me out of my Protestant church used about me during the Tribunal trial. **
It left me shaken and upset for the entire day, and I’ll admit that I still haven’t recovered from that post. I have been on the edge of tears for over 24 hours now.
A simple phrase–but to me, it was like having an old wound cut open and seeded with salt and dung. The poster meant well and probably has no idea that he has reduced me to a tearful lump that doesn’t even want to leave my house. I am forcing myself to get through this incident, knowing that he posted the phrase in innocence, although a part of me is terrified that the pastor found his way to this board, figured out who I am, and is stalking me–fantastic, I know, but after the ousting, I suffered from graphic, bloody nightmares for over a year. It’s not surprising that I should have such a gutwrenching reaction to a phrase that recalls the worst time in my life.