What information on our children can we hide to a godparent?

[F_Marturana]

Maybe this was common years ago in Europe? I remember my mother explaining to me when I was a little girl that my Godparents would care for me if they couldn’t. My parents were from Italy.

 

[Anicette]

yes, @F_Marturana, i think that the idea of a goparent taking care of the child after the parents die is still a common idea in Europe and something that was done before.

@Tis_Bearself, yes, i agree that a goparent don’t need to know of the physical health of the child… and happy to find some people think so!

I also agree with @Allegra that I should not make the child ashamed of himself as he is not at fault, and protect his privacy (that is a point of real anxiety for me!).

yet one point of discernement is, like @Allegra would face it in a more imperative need than me, if a godparent want to take the child, to a pilgrimmage or a trip for exemple, he may be confront to the health condition and may be hurtfull if he isn’t respectfull enough. So maybe the time to a discussion with me for explanations or a refusal of the proposition, if he would’nt know before.

@Allegra, I don’t want to “invade” your private life, but in the absolute would you be" confortable" enough to hire a godparent without any explanation of the consequences physical health before? Or maybe this is not a necessity because the godparents are assigned, in your perspective, to a spiritual role only?

 

[Allegra]

I think that I would probably not choose a person for a Godparent that I would not feel comfortable telling about this. In my daughter’s case, her Godparents are her aunt and uncle. They are both close enough that I would consider leaving her in their care, so they are away of some of her disability. I haven’t told them all the details though.