Hi JillianRose - as you can see some folks have strong feelings about this topic!
I’m someone who left the Church for over 20 yrs. and have now been back about 10.
I’ve defined traditional Catholics as those who support the teachings of the Church and the Magisterium and the Pope. I know there is a lot of unhappiness on the part of some folks about Vatican II, and believe me I understand some of it for reasons that would take another page to explain. But when it boils down to it I think IF you are Catholic, and you want to be Catholic you should either chose to agree with Church teaching and authority or why stay in the Church? So I would consider a “cafeteria Catholic” - either liberal (i.e. along the lines of some Catholic politicians), OR conservative folks, who take what they want only, and ignore, disobey, or even mock the rest of Church doctrine or teaching. To me that is not traditional Catholic. And yes, sadly, that can seem to be a lot of folks.
My family has been blessed by being in our current parish, with a priest who genuinely loves his faith and vocation, and a congregation that has experienced a renewal of love for the sacraments, Church tradition, Scripture study and prayer. I am very grateful to the Lord for this - in my own personal experience it is not very common, though, again, thank the Lord it seems to be becoming more so.