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Frosty
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It is indeed a shame that your son was not properly prepared for the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Someone most assuredly abrogated his or her responsibility. However, if you are insinuating that this is the norm everywhere, I disagree strongly. In the Catholic School System where I taught for thirty five years of my life, the teachers responsible for those children and the local pastors went out of their way to ensure that the kids were prepared. How much of that preparation really sinks into the individual child’s conciousness and continues to mature with the child is another issue.Well, I will tell you that my eight year old who celebrated first Holy Communion a few months ago was not instructed on how to confess or examine his conscience at all. He only knows the Hail Mary because I taught him, not because any in the Church tried to. He only knows what a sin is because I told him, not because he was ever instructed about it. He was also not instructed on how to actually confess, and the first time he went he had no idea what a confessional was or where to go or what to say. Did those children in the pre-Vatican II Church know so little?
It seems to me that if something changed in the sacrament to achieve what you are now experiencing it had no effect on my child. My boy would be at least as ignorant and lost as any preconciliar child would have been if not for the interference of his parents.
Oh, and by the way, at least there were apparently confession lines back then. Right now at our local churches there are just bunches of people sitting around, with no apparent way of knowing who is next. I sat for an hour one time in a small chapel next to the reconciliation rooms in a Church here locally, and I was the third or fourth person there. People just jumped up and ran into the room when the door opened, and nobody had any idea when it was their “turn” to go. About forty minutes in a rather nasty argument broke out between a couple of little old ladies about cutting. I guess there was more to confess after that.But, all in all, I wonder if any positive change has really been effected in confession over the last few decades.
I’ve never belonged to a parish with a reconciliation room. There have always been the same old confessional boxes that were around when I was young. Once in awhile, a line might form [especially during lent], but usually people wait in the pews. I have never noticed a problem with anyone jumping up or arguing about who geys to go next. In my city, we have four-way stop signs all over the place so perhaps we are simply used to waitng our turn?