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For the life of me, I cannot understand why it creates so much angst, and on bot sides. I have heard repeatedly of people who prefer to not hold hands, and have had everything from a dirty look to someone actually trying to pry their hand open. That, in short, is a rather obvious lack of charity.As there may be cultures which actually call for holding hands during Mass (but I don’t know this for a fact), or dancing or other “acts,” for that matter, I don’t see where this is an issue the Vatican even wants to address in the more universal IGMR.
The GIRM, as I understand it, has been interpreted by the bishop’s conferences from the IGMR for their own countries. It seems if the issue were that important or it can’t be resolved at the parish level, it would be up to the bishops to revise those rules, I would think.
But as you have pointed out, it’s a practice around since the 60’s. If there is a problem with it, there’s certainly not a matter of urgency to fix it.
And on the other side, there has been more electrons disturbed from their orbits and more electronic “ink” spent over the matter by those who seem to somehow abhor the matter, including dismissive and outright rude comments about those who do wish to hold hands. The whole matter started long, long ago as a sign of unity - coming from the “Our” Father, not “My” Father, as several priests said early on. I can’t trace it to any of our Protestant brethren, although in about '71 and subsequently, I observed it in cross denominational groups.
It is a bit like whack a mole - it seems to keep popping up. And it is more or less seen in parishes all over. Some do, some don’t, and some do more than others.
And it is not like there are not seriously more significant issues on the table; one might think that with over 54,000 abortions, for example, we might have more on our minds when we go to Mass than whether or not the person next to us makes a gesture we don’t like, or fails to make one we do like. Or Obamacare, forcing Catholic and other religious and business entities to support abortion (and I hear that California has decided to make the issue as a state mandate, no exclusions). Or businesses being forced to participate in gay “weddings”. And the list goes on…