Grandfather, you said “does respect go two ways in a marriage?” Do you mean, do I respect his marriage? Our priest said I must respect his (“Jewish” one, but I’m talking to him this week and telling him the truth). But NO, I do not respect my husband’s “spirituality,” hence all the " ". I think it’s totally bogus.
Thanks for the discussion on this, YES, it has weakened my faith in Christ to be around him. He is totally negative and a bully toward Christ. When I stand up for Christ, I get harassed more. After months, I shirk-- the complaints are less, and he starts whining again about his strange philosophies.
Ok, I will stay away from his dream work. The fact we’re married means I already unfortunately have something to do with it. Maybe I can move in with my mother a while.
Some background-- we have one son, 5 months old. I tried to divorce him while I was pregnant but he hired two high-profile lawyers to constantly harass me, and I couldn’t afford the divorce, and I felt also that my son may be damaged from a split household (my parent’s divorce was quite traumatic on me). I was scared. So I’m back here. Pretty sad, but that’s the way it is right now. I don’t have family support. My parents are both re-married and their spouses refuse to help, and I was also out of work. Anyway, I will leave/separate if it will be best for my son and I. My husband already says he will take half custody though in a divorce, so that leaves my son to totally defend for himself in this weird spiritual place. I’m not ready to leave my son in a place like that. BUT… if I’m also not in a good place by living with my husband, now, that’s something to consider as well.
THANK YOU for explaining the Enneagram and Eco-Psychology-- this is EXACTLY what he’s into!!! The words are new to me so I don’t know they are sac-religious, but I’ve always felt they are a lie.
I just don’t know where the Lord wants me-- Christ feels a bit closer this week, but still far away.
