What is Emotional Indifelity and is it a sin?

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My husband maintains a relationship with an ex-wife. He lies to me about all aspects of their relationship, and every has denied that there is one. On occasion he has said that they are “just friends”. I, however, know better and have proof that they are maintaining a relationship. I think that it is platonic, but emotionally is another story.

I feel that this is morally corrupt and a sin. Tell me if I am wrong. If not, how do I convince him that he is sinning?

I am a cradle Catholic and he came into the Church at Easter. He loves our priest, but won’t go sit with us because he know what I am going to say. I have spoken to my priest in confession and his take on the situation is stern. However, my husband is afraid our priest will think badly of him and he isn’t one to take any type of criticism.
 
I’m so sorry to hear this. You have my sympathy.

First off, I’m not sure you can convince anyone of anything they’re not open to hearing.

That said, the sheer fact that your husband is lying to you about contact with his ex-wife, no matter the emotional connection behind it, is a sin. No guessing about what’s going on in his heart is needed- he is lying about a relationship (no matter the nature of the relationship) with another woman.

Are you two Catholic? I would suggest consulting your priest as a couple as soon as possible.
 
Well, if there are children involved he has to maintain a certain amount of relationship with her. However, if he is telling her things that he only ought to be telling you, then that could be a problem and even sinful.
He really only has to be civil with her, but that probably is sometimes hard to maintain also where children are involved.
I would imagine this is a problem simply because you are having a problem with it and that alone ought to make him sit up and take notice that you are unhappy about it, which in my mind, ought to make him change some aspect of his dealings with her, for your sake.
Without much more to go on, I will keep you all in my prayers and would hope that he would address this with you and you can resolve this.
If there are no children involved, what is his purpose in maintaining any kind of a relationship with her??
 
There were no children of the marraige. We are in our 50’s, and there is no REASON to have any kind of relationship at all.
 
I second that. He should have no relationship whatsoever with his ex. Why did he get divorced from her, in the first place? I think you need to lay down some serious law.
 
I honestly don’t know but I personally believe emotional infidelity to be at least a venial sin.
 
I think it is a mortal sin because he is putting himself in an occasion for sin.

Either the break is radical or he is going to fall into big time infidelity if he has not already.

Speaking to him and the pastor will help, but the person you really need to speak to is Our Lady.

She will take care of you and your family if you have a real deep devotion to Her and the Blessed Sacrament.
 
I have to disagree with most of you on this one.

Aime, if your husband is maintaining a relationship with his ex-wife, that’s his decision. You state that you believe the relationship is platonic. He’s committing no sin, at least that you can tell. His thoughts and feelings are his own. I mean, a person can’t control how they feel about someone. Your husband obviously loved this woman at one point in time, and perhaps to a certain extent, he still does. That’s certainly a possibility, but he’s married to you, and unless he tells you otherwise, he loves you. Whether or not he loves her still isn’t something you can control, or that he can control. Stop being jealous and insecure, and trust your husband.
 
Is this poll really supposed to read the way it does? Or do you mean “Emotional INfidelity”? 'cause if you go and read what it actually says, it’s a pretty funny question. And the fact that most people said that “Emotional FIDELITY” was a sin is even funnier.
 
I think emotional fidelity can be a sin, that it can be as devastating to a relationship, if not more, than sexual infidelity.

To me emotional infidelity involves allowing someone to become closer to you than those to whom you are committed. It can also include sharing your feelings or getting your main support from someone other than those to whom you have the strongest links.

It can also involve not telling someone close to you how you really feel or playing with with another’s feeling.
 
Tic_Toc said:
I have to disagree with most of you on this one.

Aime, if your husband is maintaining a relationship with his ex-wife, that’s his decision. You state that you believe the relationship is platonic. He’s committing no sin, at least that you can tell. His thoughts and feelings are his own. I mean, a person can’t control how they feel about someone. Your husband obviously loved this woman at one point in time, and perhaps to a certain extent, he still does. That’s certainly a possibility, but he’s married to you, and unless he tells you otherwise, he loves you. Whether or not he loves her still isn’t something you can control, or that he can control. Stop being jealous and insecure, and trust your husband.
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I have to wonder if this poster is married?

Your husband does NOT belong contacting his ex-wife, especially with no children involved. Your husband does NOT belong lying to you about this relationship. That is a HUGE red flag.

A husband should respect his wife. He has FORSAKEN all others for HER.

Try a Retrouvaille weekend. Don’t let this continue.

retrouvaille.org
 
Feedmysheep said:
Is this poll really supposed to read the way it does? Or do you mean “Emotional INfidelity”? 'cause if you go and read what it actually says, it’s a pretty funny question. And the fact that most people said that “Emotional FIDELITY” was a sin is even funnier.
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Hahaha. I just noticed that. Oh, my, I’m one of those who thinks that emotional fidelity is a sin!😛

In Christ,
Rand
 
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