What is HE saying to me?

[mariam1976]

I realise that when something is difficult to do, then it is probably God telling you not to do it.

I recently was not able to sleep at all at night - wednesday and was asking God what HE wanted me to do about my marriage.

I tried to delete my husband from my IM and just could not do it. The connection died on me twice. It made me think that HE did not want me to break the connection yet.

This threw me into a loop and I asked Jesus to show me a sign the next day and went to sleep saying the rosary again and again…

The next day one of my colleagues(who is a pastor of a christian church) was talking to me about work and suddenly started telling me about how we should let go and move on no matter what it is about - relationships and everything… gave me examples of his wife too…

I am wondering what Jesus is trying to tell me here???
why these 2 msgs - holding on and yet letting go…??? can someone help me out here?

 

[Spirithound]

I realise that when something is difficult to do, then it is probably God telling you not to do it.

I recently was not able to sleep at all at night - wednesday and was asking God what HE wanted me to do about my marriage.

I tried to delete my husband from my IM and just could not do it. The connection died on me twice. It made me think that HE did not want me to break the connection yet.

This threw me into a loop and I asked Jesus to show me a sign the next day and went to sleep saying the rosary again and again…

The next day one of my colleagues(who is a pastor of a Christian church) was talking to me about work and suddenly started telling me about how we should let go and move on no matter what it is about - relationships and everything… gave me examples of his wife too…

I am wondering what Jesus is trying to tell me here???
why these 2 msgs - holding on and yet letting go…??? can someone help me out here?

Just because something is difficult, does not necessarily mean that God doesn’t want you to do it. Often, it’s quite the opposite. That being said, God most likely wants you to work on your marriage. Where are you at right now? What’s your story?
As for your Christian pastor friend, try to remember exactly what he said. Was he talking about letting go of the relationship, or letting go of the pain?

Sts. Rita and Raphael, pray for us

 

[mariam1976]

the pastor was definitely talking about moving on from the marriage…
i agree that when things are hard, it is not necessary that it is not what HE wants…

i am just trusting him at this point and will not be trying to delete him from my IM.

 

[InLight247]

the pastor was definitely talking about moving on from the marriage…
i agree that when things are hard, it is not necessary that it is not what HE wants…

i am just trusting him at this point and will not be trying to delete him from my IM.

As your motto says “Let go and let God”, though it is easier to be said than done, that is exactly needs to be done. Your Protestant pastor friend is right.

The important thing is to face the reality that the milk has been spilled. There is no use to continue crying over it. There is a time to mourn, there is a time to pick up oneself and move forward.

You can pray and ask God to restore the marriage, but at the same time, try hard to forgive and move on, however hard it is. To forgive is for your own benefit. You have to treat yourself better – not allow his behavior to ruin your happiness from now on.

Send all your petitions to God and trust He always have a plan for your good, a plan to give you hope and future. God bless!

 

[Spirithound]

As your motto says “Let go and let God”, though it is easier to be said than done, that is exactly needs to be done. Your Protestant pastor friend is right.

You can pray and ask God to restore the marriage, but at the same time, try hard to forgive and move on, however hard it is. To forgive is for your own benefit. You have to treat yourself better – not allow his behavior to ruin your happiness from now on.

It is important to “Let go and let God,” but we must always ask ourselves “Is this what God would want?” It seems pretty certain (and by that, i mean absolutely certain) that God wants us to forgive those who have hurt us, but it is less clear to me that God wants you to abandon a relationship, especially one that was as close as your husband. Now, of course there are circumstances where even the most orthodox priest will tell you to leave him and cut him out of your life, but since you are hesitant to delete him from your IM, that tells me that he hasn’t been beating you.
Check out the stats on married couples who stay together through a rough patch. the vast majority are “very happy” several years on.

 

[mariam1976]

It is important to “Let go and let God,” but we must always ask ourselves “Is this what God would want?” It seems pretty certain (and by that, i mean absolutely certain) that God wants us to forgive those who have hurt us, but it is less clear to me that God wants you to abandon a relationship, especially one that was as close as your husband. Now, of course there are circumstances where even the most orthodox priest will tell you to leave him and cut him out of your life, but since you are hesitant to delete him from your IM, that tells me that he hasn’t been beating you.
Check out the stats on married couples who stay together through a rough patch. the vast majority are “very happy” several years on.

no… he hasnt been beating me… we have been separated for 9 months… and are going through the divorce process now… i am still in the process of discernment… i have been praying the rosary for almost a month now… it is very powerful!! just asking HER to show me the right way…

 

[Superstar905]

no… he hasnt been beating me… we have been separated for 9 months… and are going through the divorce process now… i am still in the process of discernment… i have been praying the rosary for almost a month now… it is very powerful!! just asking HER to show me the right way…

my heart goes out to you, and you have my prayers. Something tells me though you will end up doing the right thing. When we give it up to God, he never lets us down. I know this first hand.