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JCServant01
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On male intimacy such as ( hugging or cuddling)?
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michael-kaw
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As long as it’s not in a sexual way then it is fine
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Lee1
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I shake hands with males and never presume to hug or cuddle male or female parishioners. Perhaps if they were good friends as well it would be ok.
I’ve never found it necessary to research Church teaching on it myself I must be honest.
I’ve never found it necessary to research Church teaching on it myself I must be honest.
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Roseeurekacross
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Pope Benedict is? Don’t we have another Pope since him?
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Dovekin
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Shhh!
Dont let him know that Pope Francis agrees with Benedict on those things.
Dont let him know that Pope Francis agrees with Benedict on those things.
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Roseeurekacross
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Stuck in a time warp…
I suggest reading the Jesus of Nazareth series. It’s a good read.
I suggest reading the Jesus of Nazareth series. It’s a good read.
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adamhovey1988
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Most of my friends are female, I hug them, because that’s what they want. The only time I really hug my male friends, is if I’m kind of upset. To the best of my knowledge, there is no Church teaching on it, as long as it’s non-sexual. that being said, Don’t Force It if they’re not comfortable with it. Keep in mind though, I consider close friends to be family, so to me it’s like hugging my siblings.
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Mintaka
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Given that Jesus came up with the parable of the Prodigal Son, and given that he depicted the father in the story embracing his son, obviously Jesus is not against it. Same thing with Jesus having his cousin John leaning on him at the Last Supper.
If men are embracing in a friendly or family way, it is quite different from men doing it in a romantic or sexual way. Intent makes a big difference.
If you have trouble telling the difference, either you are having trouble reading signals (such as the social conventions of another culture or family), or someone is deliberately confusing you (as in seduction or grooming).
If you feel uneasy about something, avoid it until you can decide what is going on. If you are not sure if people are understanding your own signals, feel free to talk to them about it and get clarification.
And remember – one answer to “What would Jesus do?” is “Charcoal grill some fish for breakfast.”
If men are embracing in a friendly or family way, it is quite different from men doing it in a romantic or sexual way. Intent makes a big difference.
If you have trouble telling the difference, either you are having trouble reading signals (such as the social conventions of another culture or family), or someone is deliberately confusing you (as in seduction or grooming).
If you feel uneasy about something, avoid it until you can decide what is going on. If you are not sure if people are understanding your own signals, feel free to talk to them about it and get clarification.
And remember – one answer to “What would Jesus do?” is “Charcoal grill some fish for breakfast.”
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Francis
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Titus 2: 2 Tell the older men to be temperate, serious, prudent, and sound in faith, in love, and in endurance.
6 Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. 7 Show yourself in all respects a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, gravity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be censured; then any opponent will be put to shame, having nothing evil to say of us.
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a9.htm#2523
*2521 modesty , an integral part of temperance. Modesty protects the intimate center of the person. It means refusing to unveil what should remain hidden. It is ordered to chastity to whose sensitivity it bears witness. It guides how one looks at others and behaves toward them in conformity with the dignity of persons and their solidarity.
**[2522 Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.
**[2523 There is a modesty of the feelings as well as of the body. It protests, for example, against the voyeuristic explorations of the human body in certain advertisements, or against the solicitations of certain media that go too far in the exhibition of intimate things. Modesty inspires a way of life which makes it possible to resist the allurements of fashion and the pressures of prevailing ideologies.
2524 The forms taken by modesty vary from one culture to another. Everywhere, however, modesty exists as an intuition of the spiritual dignity proper to man. It is born with the awakening consciousness of being a subject. Teaching modesty to children and adolescents means awakening in them respect for the human person.
**[2525 Christian purity requires a purification of the social climate . It requires of the communications media that their presentations show concern for respect and restraint. Purity of heart brings freedom from widespread eroticism and avoids entertainment inclined to voyeurism and illusion.
**[2526] So called moral permissiveness rests on an erroneous conception of human freedom; the necessary precondition for the development of true freedom is to let oneself be educated in the moral law. Those in charge of education can reasonably be expected to give young people instruction respectful of the truth, the qualities of the heart, and the moral and spiritual dignity of man.
**[2527] "The Good News of Christ continually renews the life and culture of fallen man; it combats and removes the error and evil which flow from the ever-present attraction of sin. It never ceases to purify and elevate the morality of peoples. It takes the spiritual qualities and endowments of every age and nation, and with supernatural riches it causes them to blossom, as it were, from within; it fortifies, completes, and restores them in Christ."316
6 Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. 7 Show yourself in all respects a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, gravity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be censured; then any opponent will be put to shame, having nothing evil to say of us.
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a9.htm#2523
*2521 modesty , an integral part of temperance. Modesty protects the intimate center of the person. It means refusing to unveil what should remain hidden. It is ordered to chastity to whose sensitivity it bears witness. It guides how one looks at others and behaves toward them in conformity with the dignity of persons and their solidarity.
**[2522 Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.
**[2523 There is a modesty of the feelings as well as of the body. It protests, for example, against the voyeuristic explorations of the human body in certain advertisements, or against the solicitations of certain media that go too far in the exhibition of intimate things. Modesty inspires a way of life which makes it possible to resist the allurements of fashion and the pressures of prevailing ideologies.
2524 The forms taken by modesty vary from one culture to another. Everywhere, however, modesty exists as an intuition of the spiritual dignity proper to man. It is born with the awakening consciousness of being a subject. Teaching modesty to children and adolescents means awakening in them respect for the human person.
**[2525 Christian purity requires a purification of the social climate . It requires of the communications media that their presentations show concern for respect and restraint. Purity of heart brings freedom from widespread eroticism and avoids entertainment inclined to voyeurism and illusion.
**[2526] So called moral permissiveness rests on an erroneous conception of human freedom; the necessary precondition for the development of true freedom is to let oneself be educated in the moral law. Those in charge of education can reasonably be expected to give young people instruction respectful of the truth, the qualities of the heart, and the moral and spiritual dignity of man.
**[2527] "The Good News of Christ continually renews the life and culture of fallen man; it combats and removes the error and evil which flow from the ever-present attraction of sin. It never ceases to purify and elevate the morality of peoples. It takes the spiritual qualities and endowments of every age and nation, and with supernatural riches it causes them to blossom, as it were, from within; it fortifies, completes, and restores them in Christ."316
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Crocus
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Good way to look at it. I don’t hug them a lot, only greeting and saying bye. No cuddling since about 7 years old at latest.I consider close friends to be family, so to me it’s like hugging my siblings.
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AngelusDomini
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Cultural norms should also be considered. In many parts of Europe it is common to embrace friends of the same sex and in some parts a kiss to the side is also common place. It does not have any sexual meaning.
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Dan_Defender
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From what I have seen, males kissing on the cheek is common for Italians, French and Greeks. I believe Russians too and most Muslim cultures.
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Sophie111
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What is the difficulty?
Do you have these tendencies and are unsure of your own limits?
Do you have these tendencies and are unsure of your own limits?
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