Apparently the remark came about from a Curriculum program called GFI.
Focus on the Family had a response to questions about this curriculum. While they found some positive aspects they chose not to recommend the program and also addressed this idea of ‘not attending to babies’ crying’ thus:
**Focus on the Family statement **
Date: Wed, 13 Jan 1999 09:36:24 -0700
From:
CORRDPT@fotf.org
To:
srein@calpoly.edu Thanks for your note, Mr. Rein. In response to your question, we would like to re-state our position on Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo’s materials on parenting. The following is the result of an extensive evaluation by our staff.
We are aware that many parents have implemented the Ezzos’ materials in their homes with great success. We have heard positive testimony from a number of sources, including members of our own staff, about the many ways in which God has used Growing Families International (GFI) to help young families achieve greater harmony and stability. Dr. Dobson has no reason to doubt that this is true; he is, in fact, pleased to know that so many families have found the Ezzos’ materials helpful.
On the other hand, we do have some concerns and reservations about the Ezzos’ work, including the updated editions of
Preparation for Parenting and
Growing Kids God’s Way. First, it seems to us that their philosophy of childrearing is far too rigid. The very title of program,
Growing Kids God’s Way has an unnecessarily exclusivistic sound about it, as if there were only one “correct” and godly way to raise children and that all other methods were “unbiblical.” In contrast to this, Dr. Dobson believes that there are many different approaches to raising children which are both healthy and consistent with the teaching of Scripture.
Speaking of Scripture, the Ezzo’s use of biblical texts is, in our view, a second cause for serious concern. They have, for example, cited Matthew 27:46 – “. . . My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” – in support of their teaching that mothers should refuse to attend to crying infants who have already been fed, changed, and had their basic needs met. “Praise God,” writes Mr. Gary Ezzo in
Preparation for Parenting, “that the Father did not intervene when His son cried out on the cross.” We see no way to make such an application of this verse without completely disregarding its original context and purpose.
Also, we are aware that the authors’ proposals regarding controlled feeding schedules for infants are highly controversial. Some critics have suggested that they might possibly result in child abuse if applied legalistically, inflexibly, and without regard for circumstance and the special needs of individual children. In fact, our ministry has received numerous letters from parents, pastors, midwives, physicians, and lactation professionals regarding cases of failure-to-thrive in infants subjected to the Ezzos’ program. We don’t believe their experience should be ignored.
For these reasons we have chosen not to recommend the Ezzos’ material to Focus on the Family’s constituents. In the final analysis, we would suggest that, if a parent decides to use the GFI curriculum, its principles should be implemented only in conjunction with generous measures of common sense, intuition, and natural parental affection.
We hope these thoughts prove helpful. Thanks again for taking a moment to write.
Grey Gunn
Focus on the Family
