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PelagiathePenit
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No one really cares. I do not know this in a bad way. When I think about it sometimes, I stop overthinking.
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christofirst
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The idea that no one really cares can be very relieving if you tend to be overly self-conscious and prone to insecurities, as I sometimes am. I can get so worked up over the most insignificant things, such as how I appear to others, or how something I’ve done is perceived by others; it comes down to fear of failure and fear of rejection. When I actually consider the small stuff, it is true that no one really cares all that much. They may pass judgment one way or another in the moment, but then whatever the situation might be is usually soon forgotten. We all tend to be rather self-absorbed and so usually focus in on whatever directly affects us at any given time.
However, if you mean that no one really cares whether you exist or not, that would be a sad situation indeed. It could never be entirely true either, for even if you feel that no one in this world cares about your well-being, God, our creator and sustainer, truly does care about each and every one of us, and not in the less-than-perfect way which we often care for each other. Our ability to care for each other is too often impeded by our own selfishness and sinfulness - not so with God!
The most relieving truth I’ve come to realize is that so far, based on my 50+ years of living, no negative experience in this life lasts forever. Even chronic pain tends to ebb and flow. I have good days and bad days, and it seems to come and go in a cyclical way like the seasons. So whenever I’m feeling troubled or upset over something, there is always the realization too that whatever it is, it will pass away sooner or later.
However, if you mean that no one really cares whether you exist or not, that would be a sad situation indeed. It could never be entirely true either, for even if you feel that no one in this world cares about your well-being, God, our creator and sustainer, truly does care about each and every one of us, and not in the less-than-perfect way which we often care for each other. Our ability to care for each other is too often impeded by our own selfishness and sinfulness - not so with God!
The most relieving truth I’ve come to realize is that so far, based on my 50+ years of living, no negative experience in this life lasts forever. Even chronic pain tends to ebb and flow. I have good days and bad days, and it seems to come and go in a cyclical way like the seasons. So whenever I’m feeling troubled or upset over something, there is always the realization too that whatever it is, it will pass away sooner or later.
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LilyBernans
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I have a negative experience in my life that will probably be with me until I die. Granted that is not forever, but it seems like it. The sadness of it never leaves me and it’s been years. I guess we all have a different answer to the OP’s question, and that’s fine.
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Isca
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My dear late father used to say “Nothing matters very much and most things don’t matter at all”. I’m quite sure he was being ironic, as he was a man who took his responsibilities extremely seriously (often to his own detriment), but as I have got older and inherited my late mother’s chronic anxiety, I often think about these words.
It’s easy to get “hung up” on things which really don’t matter. I remember reading Alan Bennett’s account of his last conversation with his mum, as she was dying. They were talking about the laundry or something equally prosaic. I was watching a silly TV programme with my mum in her last minutes, she was slipping away but we were still talking about what was on TV.
Maybe we focus on the small stuff (even at big moments) because the big stuff is too much for us to get our heads around? Nowadays, I try to always remember that I am a child of God and that no matter how flawed I am (and I definitely am flawed), He still loves me. I think that’s the most relieving truth, really.
It’s easy to get “hung up” on things which really don’t matter. I remember reading Alan Bennett’s account of his last conversation with his mum, as she was dying. They were talking about the laundry or something equally prosaic. I was watching a silly TV programme with my mum in her last minutes, she was slipping away but we were still talking about what was on TV.
Maybe we focus on the small stuff (even at big moments) because the big stuff is too much for us to get our heads around? Nowadays, I try to always remember that I am a child of God and that no matter how flawed I am (and I definitely am flawed), He still loves me. I think that’s the most relieving truth, really.
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CB_Catholic
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The most relieving truth for me is that God is in control and I don’t have to run around trying to control anybody or anything. This gives me peace.
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Tigre
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Here is my version: All of the time I was worried about what others thought of me, they were worried about what others thought of them. So, in reality, everyone was just thinking about themselves. As a pre-teen, that was incredibly freeing to realize.
More relieving, in the cosmic sense, was the realization in adulthood that God loves me, so much that He came looking for me. And the realization that dwelling on pre-baptismal sins or those already confessed was, in truth, a lack of faith and trust in God. Once I realized that I was light as a feather.
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71326
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Excellent. People want to live without being afraid. The reality is, that confidence which isn’t simply an exterior characteristic must reflect genuine qualities from the spirit. There are some physical matters where one finds themselves rather being brought down and put to an end before facing them, usually a result of past traumatizing experience.
Medical technology has advanced to a point, so people are becoming comfortable taking risks they wouldn’t have taken. For example, when anaesthesiology was in its primitive stage of understanding, you wouldn’t rely on your doctor to the exclusion of having some form of prayer in a Higher Power. This levels the playing field, so to speak, and a young person can ascend to virtues more accustomed to appearing in an older person.
H. Belloc was troubled by man’s ultimate fear of being lonely, without God. He noted on behalf of men that men do not care what the opposite sex thinks unless they have inspired us to, at which, we happen to care very much.
Medical technology has advanced to a point, so people are becoming comfortable taking risks they wouldn’t have taken. For example, when anaesthesiology was in its primitive stage of understanding, you wouldn’t rely on your doctor to the exclusion of having some form of prayer in a Higher Power. This levels the playing field, so to speak, and a young person can ascend to virtues more accustomed to appearing in an older person.
H. Belloc was troubled by man’s ultimate fear of being lonely, without God. He noted on behalf of men that men do not care what the opposite sex thinks unless they have inspired us to, at which, we happen to care very much.
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esieffe
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I realized once that while I have to do my “due diligence,” I can leave the worrying to God. “Worrying” is not our friend.
By “due diligence” I mean fbr example, if I loose my job, I have to keep making efforts to find one, work out plan Bs, and leave the end results and worrying to God.
By “due diligence” I mean fbr example, if I loose my job, I have to keep making efforts to find one, work out plan Bs, and leave the end results and worrying to God.
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Isca
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You’re exactly right. We have to help ourselves, but we don’t walk alone.
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pwlj_christ87
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the most relieving truth for me is that no matter what happens that God uses everything for his greater good.
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Maddie26
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The most relieving thing I have ever realised was that God loves me, that He personally cares about me. Once I realised that I stopped thinking I had to have control over everything or that I had to EARN my reward. As if I ever could!
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tee_eff_em
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I’ve never read it, but I have sometimes taken comfort in the title, and especially the subtitle, of a recent popular self-help book:
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff – And It’s ALL Small Stuff
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Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff – And It’s ALL Small Stuff
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Obsidion
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The idea of predestination. As a huge overthinker myself, I find a lot of relief in the fact that we’re all meant to go down one certain path in our lives, and that path only. I love that God doesn’t change His mind. That way, I’m not constantly playing the game of could’ve, would’ve, should’ve. Everything that happens is meant to happen, as everything is allowed by God.
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littlestsouls2
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Every good comes from God.
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littlestsouls2
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Every good comes from God; “Everything is grace.” (St. Therese)
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Trident_H
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That God cared about a guy like me. Even a guy like me. 
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fisherman_carl
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That life would be meaningless without love. That at the center and reason for existence is love.
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