What is the purpose of marriage and romance?

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I am just inquiring as to what the purpose romance and marriage serve? Is it for companionship or is it more for raising a family? I know that in the Evangelical church (especially among the youth), some preach against dating and believe that God has a perfect person for everyone. But I know most evangelicals have no problem with birth control.

I know that the Catholic church forbids birth control. I also know that the Catholics forbid the marriage of clergyman so they can focus more on their church. I also know in 1 Corinthians, Paul says it is better not to marry so one can focus on the Lord.

Thus, I ask, what is the purpose of marriage and companionship if one is better off without earthly attachments? What is the purpose of romance?
 
Catholic priest are celibate for the Lord it is a calling,just like St.Paul.Marriage is for procreation as well as love and should mirror the love Christ has for the Church.That too is a calling. Catholics call it a vocation.Both vocations take graces to live out faithfully and both vocations God calls you to and will give you the grace to live out.There are some people who remain single without going into religious life.I don’t know if I answered your question,but maybe this helps:) God Bless
 
Just a note. The Church does not forbid Birth Control, it just does not allow Artificial birth control for most situations. But it does allow natural BC for some situations but not all.

On to your post. Marriage is a partnership, at the core it is nothin other then a covenentual agreement between a Man and Woman. The romance is part of this in some marriages especially in western societies. But not all, and there are times when the romance is gone in but yet the marriage itself is intact.

Also clregy are not forbiddin to marry, its a promise and disapline for priests, and deacons are considered clergy (I think). But there are married priests in both eastern and western churchs. The only place that it is forbiddin is in religious orders such as brother or nuns.
 
St. Paul does not forbid marriage - he simply says it is better and a higher calling for people to stay single and focus completely on the Lord. It’s necessary for people to marry and raise families; otherwise, the human race would soon die out. And there are many passages in the Bible that speak to the beauty, importance and dignity of marriage. In fact, many times in the Old Testament in particular, God’s love for us is seen as the marital love of spouses. Marriage on earth is seen as an example, and merely a shadow, of the great and all-consuming union we are to have with God. To answer your question about companionship or procreation being more important in marriage, I don’t think you can seperate the two. Marriage, and sex in marriage, is designed for union and procreation. The two cannot be seperated and are both intertwined in the very definition of Christian marriage.
 
I wish I had lived a good Catholic Christian marriage. My late husband and I were married for 14 years. He a fallen away Catholic wanting no part of religion and me an atheist.

Despite that though, we had a solid and wonderful marriage. Totally faithful to our vows to Love Honor and, yes ladies, I encluded this in our marriage promise…OBEY. It worked for us.

Never did figure out the romance part though, my late DH was as romantic as a tree 😛

I enjoyed being married and find that the more time goes by, the more I miss having a wonderful man to share my life with. If I am ever to remarry again, I trust in God that He will tell me when it is the right time. This time, A good solid Catholic man. 👍
 
I posted this elsewhere but I think it fits purpose of marriage because this is how I failed.

My way trying to bring healing of modern marriages comes from my experience.
There is only one great way to save our families, by standing up for our children. I would die to see my son follow The Magisterium of the Catholic Church. Why, because that is the minimum to achieve heaven (from the web site Chastity in San Francisco). Stay with me and I’ll explain exactly why. First my son’s greatest hope for his marriage is the teaching of the Catholic Church. What follows is what happened to me without the guidance of the Catholic Church.

Maybe I’m super sensitive as I have only one son. But, I have only one because I didn’t have the teachings of the church to guide my marriage. My marriage may still fail as we were forced, trapped and fooled into not having children, I now know how important children are to marriage strength and how wrong not having children is. I was forced by homosexual abuse as a child as I was left unprotected in a divorced marriage because my parents started practicing birth control. The other thing that stopped me from having children like being fooled is what I know you also have experienced. You also are now being feed the Culture of Chemical’s rhetoric as it tries to enslave us to sexual freedom (slavery by its proper name, double speak is here).

Knowing what I know now in my marriage, I should have started Standing up for my wife. Indoctrinated by the culture of chemicals and the lustful training from sexual abuse, I didn’t stop them from giving her Birth Control pills. I traded free sex for my wife health. Now I know that was a terrible trade. What I would do now is if they tried to give my wife birth control pills, I would drive my car into the nearest vacant pharmacy. Double if they did this to my daughter.

Who is a modern man who can battle the Lord of the Culture of Chemicals who has enslaved our wives and daughters. Why are few of our women following the teaching of the Catholic Church against the deadly chemicals and having children? Because they are blinded, Blinded by our example, forgive us. By our weakness, we have said nothing and also by our deadness we have been too busy to see our daughters being slowly enslaved by the culture of chemical death. Who will be a real husband protecting his wife’s health and life and then his daughters?

Now I don’t advocate violent overthrow, I say that to get your attention. What we may soon need is civil disobedience. They must understand that any organization that will allow long term health of our women to be jeopardized for profit, we will stop. We will stop buying from them and if they don’t withdraw from our families we will stop them with non violent protest.

So you ask me what am I doing about all these mistakes I made. First I joined the Catholic Church who has the true safe teaching on protecting marriage, for us and our children. Ninety percent of non contracepting Catholic marriages stay together vs 50 percent of others. I have confessed to a priest my contraception. I continue to lobby for having children and against contraception and abortion, whenever I can. I tell everyone I can, that I was healed of sex without true Love from the Eucharist and try now to practice true Christian Love.

That is my testimony

John Buttrey

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here’s hoping the romance comes before the marriage… that said, you date to find a mate… that’s it my friend… you marry who you fall in love with, and you fall in love with whom you date, and you date the ones you run with…

so increase your chances in a sucessful life partner by being choosey with whom you hang-out with…

oh, and no cart before the horses stuff…

translation: NO SHACKING…

Peace 👍
 
again with no the no shacking SG! j/k. i believe that romance and marriage in the biblical sense is to procreate, go forth and be fruitful and all that jazz, but for human needs i believe it is for companionship. my husband and i have no children and dont plan on any for a while, however i couldnt imagine my life without him. it is a blessing to fall in love and should be treated as such. we have a love and dignity and respect for each other that is each others alone. my husband is my first priority and i his. we lean on each other a lot for support and comfort. i am prone to nightmares and have been since i was a child but nothing comforts me more than him being next to me. so to answer your question it depends. biblically: procreation. humanly:companionship. romance has a major importance as well, but little things can be romantic. when hubby sets the coffee pot for me when he goes to work, thats romantic. when he walks the dog when its raining or cold or dark out; thats romantic. when he cooks because im too tired or dont feel well, again thats romantic. romance isnt always flowers and poems keep that in mind. also the most IMPORTANT part of marriage is to ensure the others spiritual health and well being. This builds a HUGE bond that is unbreakable.
 
I don’t think you can seperate procreation and unity/companionship. One is not “biblical” and the other is not “human”. They are both intertwined just as we are humans with a physical body and a spiritual soul. God wants us to have love and pleasure in marriage just as much as procreation. If there are any doubts about this, read Song of Songs in the Bible. It speaks supremely to the beauty and splendor of love, and delighting in one’s love - as God designed. A great book I’d recommend for you to read is “First Comes Love” by Scott Hahn.
 
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again with no the no shacking SG! j/k. i believe that romance and marriage in the biblical sense is to procreate, go forth and be fruitful and all that jazz, but for human needs i believe it is for companionship.
my husband and i have no children and dont plan on any for a while
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ah yes… i remember those words… 😃

in love, yes your in love… you will soon (hopefully) discover a love you never thought possible when you hold that first baby. That first real true gift of love to and for each other… here’s hoping you don’t wait too long… 👍
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