I’m a young adult in college as well as leader of the altar servers at my parish (all of whom besides me are in high school, middle school, or elementary school). I’ll speak on behalf of what I’ve seen with this age group since these are the people I work with. Before I begin writing this, I believe many issues are at play and I am not arguing that this is the only or even the biggest issue, but that this is one of the many.
A lot of it has to do with the parents and young children. I’ve noticed that if the parents don’t participate in the faith by attending Mass every Sunday and teaching their children about their faith and prayer, then their children will never learn the importance of Mass and prayer, and hence never join the Church. Even if the children are sent to Catholic schools and there is some education about the faith, it won’t matter if the parents don’t attend Mass and encourage prayer at home.
Another issue is a lack of catechesis for adults. If parents can’t understand their own faith, then how can they teach their children. There needs to be more catechesis not only for children but for adults as well. Working with children and teenagers in the Church, I can attest to the fact that they have a lot of questions about the Mass and why particular things are done and what they mean. I did my very best to explain all the parts of the Easter Triduum to them so that they could understand the importance of this sacred time. Their parents couldn’t answer most of their questions.
I know I am far too old to be an altar server at my parish, as I’m the only college-aged server but I feel like a role model for these children. I can remain at my post as leader and trainer without continuing to serve, but I feel like it wouldn’t be the same for them. I had two teenagers tell me that they would not be this religious if it wasn’t for me. I try to lead by example of what it means to fully participate in our faith. I could preach and instruct them, but I feel like I do a better job by being a living example of what I teach these children. Thus, this is why I’m hesitant to give up serving (at least until I finish my degree). So in short, I think that children need more role models, younger role models, who are just a few years older than them and can connect with them better than anyone over 30 can.