What is your answer to anti-NFP folks?

[johntkd]

Here is something to try when they start giving you trouble…“Oh, so you have experience with it?” and offer to listen to their story, most probably rejected it without ever having tried it. So when they say…“Uh…no…”, then you can tell them how happy you are with it, and how it “works for you.”

can also tell the women it reduces need to use the old headache excuse for a given amount of time every month
rofl

 

[Sr_Sally]

How do these questions come up? I just don’t seem to have many conversations where I have to defend/explain my birth control (or not) choices.

I do talk about NFP some, usually in the context of health. I have brought it up particularly to friends who have difficult periods as I reccommend the book Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition.

Other than that, I think the goings on in my bedroom between me and my husband are not really a subject for general discussion.

Sally

Hey all …
As a newly minted NFP’er, I’d like to know how you answer those folks that think you’re nuts for following NFP.

Any thoughts?

 

[KCT]

“Empowerment” is a buzz word these days. Say that NFP is empowering to women because we know more about our bodies and refuse to be used as objects for male gratification. —KCT

 

[johntkd]

“Empowerment” is a buzz word these days. Say that NFP is empowering to women because we know more about our bodies and refuse to be used as objects for male gratification. —KCT

OK what does Nfp and male gratification have to do with each other??? or is that just a Dig at males because you are upset about something.

because what you have said can also be turned around against a woman, However i am not currently upset at any women so I wont step up to the plate

 

[Truly_Beloved]

OK what does Nfp and male gratification have to do with each other???

I think KCT was referring to how women are objectified while using artificial contraceptives, because then sex supposedly becomes “safe” and without the “consequence” of pregnancy. If you remove the fear of natural consequences (i.e., the creation of a baby), then people may start to objectify each other and use each other for their own selfish sexual gratification. It can work the other way around, too. Women who use ABC can certainly use men for their own sexual pleasure, without regard to how he feels. Don’t worry, John, we’re not being anti-male.

 

[johntkd]

I think KCT was referring to how women are objectified while using artificial contraceptives, because then sex supposedly becomes “safe” and without the “consequence” of pregnancy. If you remove the fear of natural consequences (i.e., the creation of a baby), then people may start to objectify each other and use each other for their own selfish sexual gratification. It can work the other way around, too. Women who use ABC can certainly use men for their own sexual pleasure, without regard to how he feels. Don’t worry, John, we’re not being anti-male.

OK lol

 

[manualman]

I wish somebody would hassle me on the subject!

I’d just smile and say 7.5 years, no chemicals, nothing between me and my wife, no interrupted foreplay, 2 planned kids, no oops kids and one “what the heck, let’s see what happens” kid on the way!!!

 

[Truly_Beloved]

… and one “what the heck, let’s see what happens” kid on the way!!!

That’s our current pregnancy! “We’re not tryin’, we’re not avoidin’, we’re just not worryin’ about it.” I actually prefer it that way.

 

[johntkd]

That’s our current pregnancy! “We’re not tryin’, we’re not avoidin’, we’re just not worryin’ about it.” I actually prefer it that way.

thats the natural way

 

[8isgr8]

Even with 9 kids, what I do or don’t use for birth control rarely comes up in discussion. Maybe it’s BECAUSE OF the 9 kids-- people assume!

I rarely get any hassle or negative comments about any of it. If I did, I wouldn’t really care. I am accountable to God, not to anyone else.

 

[johntkd]

Even with 9 kids, what I do or don’t use for birth control rarely comes up in discussion. Maybe it’s BECAUSE OF the 9 kids-- people assume!

I rarely get any hassle or negative comments about any of it. If I did, I wouldn’t really care. I am accountable to God, not to anyone else.

9?? does that mean you are gonna change your nickname to 9 is fine or something

j/k

 

[momfirst03]

Hey all …
As a newly minted NFP’er, I’d like to know how you answer those folks that think you’re nuts for following NFP.

Any thoughts?

I’m Very new at NFP myself. I have 2 boys and just now a new litte girl. We just joned the church and thought that NFP was the best way to go. The hard thing about it was I have no one around me that thinks its good or that it works. even some of the moms that I know that are catholic dont use it. When taking the class I learn alot and when tell my mother-in-law after takeing birth control It can age your body and be hard to have a baby What did she come back with " I’v been on it for years and never hurt me from having kids."

People always want to find ways to tell you its not going to work. but we just need to keep useing it to showe them it WORKS~!!!

 

[mlchance]

I really gotta wonder about either how nosey some of y’all’s friends are or how free some of y’all are with private information. What my wife and I do to avoid or not avoid pregnancy is the business of a tiny number of people easily countable on one hand.

I suppose if someone was actually rude enough to ask, I’d tell them, “It’s none of your business.” The inclusion of a few expletives in that statement would be likely.

– Mark L. Chance.

 

[johntkd]

I really gotta wonder about either how nosey some of y’all’s friends are or how free some of y’all are with private information. What my wife and I do to avoid or not avoid pregnancy is the business of a tiny number of people easily countable on one hand.

I suppose if someone was actually rude enough to ask, I’d tell them, “It’s none of your business.” The inclusion of a few expletives in that statement would be likely.

– Mark L. Chance.

actually I feel just the opposite I do not consider a question such as that rude at all. I consider a question such as that an excellent question, and give the people credit for asking about something that without doubt makes them more embarrassed for having to ask, instead of Knowing already, if more people would ask questions and not assume, and others didnt anything regarding human sexuality as rude etc I am very sure things would be much different
its to easy for people to be embarrassed about something that is so natural
I have always sat in amazement at how many adults wont discuss sex lives with parents etc they say Oh we dont want our parents knowing we do that, yet when they find out they are expecting a baby thats the first phone call, sex and preganancy go hand in hand.
and them women wearing the shirts saying baby on board or with the arrow etc, its a bill board for well you get the idea,
human life is sexually transmitted…

Now why on this earth would it be rude to ask a question about controling births,pregnancys,etc take that as an opportunity to express your belief and to actually help someone ( usually newlyweds or young people considering marriage) give them credit for having the courage to ask instead of thinking they are rude.