What is your opinion on the use of birth control in ANTICIPATION of being raped?

[Betterave]

Unfortunately, boys/men can be raped as easily as girls/women. I don’t have full statistics but here is some information from the rape, abuse and incest national network:

rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

Your site says that 9 out of 10 rape victims in 2003 were women (not that I see any reason to have any faith in that statistic). Yet you claim…?

 

[JaneGrey]

But I do think the victim’s behaviour is important. I have no idea what you are referring to in your second sentence above, about my “subsequent posts.” What you state is the opposite of what I have been arguing.

Why is the victim’s behaviour important? Who should it be important to?
Of course neither of us can simply claim to speak the gospel truth. But I very clearly indicated what was irrational about your reply to me. If you go back and see where I first used that term, you should be able to see this easily. If there is any further/future confusion about such a point, please just ask, “Why did you use the term “irrational” to describe my post in post #such-and-such?” and I will be glad to explain. Please don’t accuse me of insulting you.

Then dont be insulting, and so defensive to the point that you miss what others are saying. Like I said, I m over it now. I still however do not get your overall point. Is behaviour important, not important?

 

[JaneGrey]

Betterave;8029713:

Unfortunately, boys/men can be raped as easily as girls/women. I don’t have full statistics but here is some information from the rape, abuse and incest national network:

rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

Many boys are sexually abused at young ages, when they can’t defend themselves, as young as under the age of 5. This does not make older boys responsible in any way, but very young boys are no more capable of fighting off an attacker than very young girls.

Grown men are no more able to defend against the use of a weapon and being taken by surprise than grown women or children, and no one has eyes in the back of their head. I don’t know what the statistics are about rape of grown men outside of prison but I would think it happens more often than people believe it does. Also a man will not be able to defend himself against a group of people. I think too many men don’t talk about it b/c they are afraid of being judged that they should have been able to defend themselves, which is not true.

As it is, a significant amount of rapes on women go unreported either because of stigma, embarrassment or the idea that reporting will not be useful, taken seriously. I can only imagine how embarrassed a man would feel reporting a rape on himself.

 

[Betterave]

Then dont be insulting, and so defensive to the point that you miss what others are saying. Like I said, I m over it now. I still however do not get your overall point. Is behaviour important, not important?

But if you are insulted by my pointing out facts, that is not my problem - okay? If I point out that you are being irrational, this is intended as a constructive criticism, since we can’t have a useful conversation if we don’t care about being irrational. It has nothing to do with being insulting or defensive (unlike your response). If you disagree with this point, please explain yourself.

Again, I don’t see why you’re confused. Please explain if you think I’m mistaken, but I think I’ve been clear and consistent about this: behaviour is important. Where have I been inconsistent or unclear about this (please be specific)?