TEPO,
You seem to be sincerely seeking ways to better align you life with God. Here are a few thoughts from an LDS perspective.
Scripture tells us that perfection is possible in this life. Matthew 5:48 (KJV) states "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” It would seem cruel to give a commandment that is utterly impossible to keep. Also, James 3:2 (KJV) states “If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.”
The Bible identifies two individuals as perfect, Noah (Genesis 6:9) and Job (Job 1:1). (Note that just because scripture identifies them as perfect, it doesn’t mean that they didn’t sin at some point. All have sinned as the Bible states. They must have overcome their evil tendencies.) Studying Job’s and Noah’s lives helps in one’s quest for perfection in this life. And it goes without saying that studying and following Christ’s life helps also.
Although I’m not Catholic, I believe that a practice of comparing one’s own behavior to the ideal God provides, and then aligning one’s own behavior more closely to God’s (as I believe the RCC encourages) is a step in the right direction to perfection in mortality.
The above verses are taken a little out of context. One of the big problems when quoting scripture.
Matthew 5:43-48 “You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your heavenly Father, for he makes his sun rise on the bad and the good, and causes rain to fall on the just and the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what recompense will you have? Do not the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet your brothers only, what is unusual about that? Do not the pagans do the same? 48 So be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
This is part of the Sermon on the Mount where Jesus is teaching his followers. The use of the word “perfect” is most likely not translated well. In Luke 6:36 the word used is “merciful”.
James 3:1-18 1 Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you realize that we will be judged more strictly, 2 for we all fall short in many respects. If anyone does not fall short in speech, he is a perfect man, able to bridle his whole body also. 3 If we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we also guide their whole bodies. 4 It is the same with ships: even though they are so large and driven by fierce winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot’s inclination wishes. 5 In the same way the tongue is a small member and yet has great pretensions. Consider how small a fire can set a huge forest ablaze. 6 The tongue is also a fire. It exists among our members as a world of malice, defiling the whole body and setting the entire course of our lives on fire, itself set on fire by Gehenna. 7 For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by the human species, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings who are made in the likeness of God. 10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. This need not be so, my brothers. 11 Does a spring gush forth from the same opening both pure and brackish water? 12 Can a fig tree, my brothers, produce olives, or a grapevine figs? Neither can salt water yield fresh. 13 Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show his works by a good life in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. 15 Wisdom of this kind does not come down from above but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every foul practice. 17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure, then peaceable, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, without inconstancy or insincerity. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace for those who cultivate peace.
1 [1-12] The use and abuse of the important role of teaching in the church (⇒ James 3:1) are here related to the good and bad use of the tongue (⇒ James 3:9-12), the instrument through which teaching was chiefly conveyed (see ⇒ Sirach 5:11-⇒ 6:1; ⇒ 28:12-26).
2 [13-18] This discussion of true wisdom is related to the previous reflection on the role of the teacher as one who is in control of his speech. The qualities of the wise man endowed from above are detailed (⇒ James 3:17-18; cf ⇒ Gal 5:22-23), in contrast to the qualities of earthbound wisdom (⇒ James 3:14-16; cf ⇒ 2 Cor 12:20).
See how much difference there is in the meaning of those two verses once the context is know. Taken from the New American Bible.