Hi there,
I’m a new convert so pardon me if I come across too theoretical. But at the same time, it may be helpful to recount the literal meaning of “Catholicism” before talking about it emotionally and approaching it from the practical aspect. Hope you won’t be confused
Liturgically, being Catholic means subscribing to the idea of Catholicism being the “original” doctrine of faith due to its “apostolic” nature - i.e traceable to the apostles of Christ. The other denominations were offshoots. The word “Catholic” itself means “universal” i.e a Greek celebrating mass would be able to celebrate the same service in Colombo even if the language is different. Such is the one-ness of the faith.
What sets Catholics apart from non-Catholics are the traditions and certain beliefs. E.g, Protestant crosses do not carry the image of Jesus. Protestants also believe that faith alone is enough to save us from sin while Catholics believe in both faith and good deeds (James 2: 14-26).
Catholicism DOES have many rituals which puts off many… However, being a child of God means obedience without complaint and fear of being labelled “goody-two-shoes”. If we “choose” which parts we want to believe/adopt, then we are not really living the faith, are we? We are only exercising our free will - choosing what we “feel like” - when we ought to be doing what is asked of us.
[At this point, no Catholic should ask us “But what if these are not rituals God, but Man, wants?” because that would mean the Catholic is not even a believer.]
To be Catholic, therefore, is to observe what Catholics ought to observe - abstinence from fish every Friday, fasting on Ash Wednesday, attendance of obligatory masses. Look at your own family - if eating homemade fruitcake right after Midnight Mass with the extended family is a century-old tradition that makes your family unique, would you drop it just like that?
Equally important, to be Catholic is to fulfill our duty of Mission with the gifts of the Holy Spirit sealed within us at Confirmation because faith would be dead without service to the neighbour.
We therefore have a Mission in regard to cradle Catholics who go astray: to bring them back to the Father. We need to understand with compassion that their apathy points to the role of their parents as “priests” (thus, faith leaders) in the family which is the basic church. And whether (a) they have done their best to imbue the love and peace and life of Christ into their children; and (b) whether untoward circumstances hampered such efforts.
My husband is a cradle Catholic who skipped church for years to play snooker. Yet I have seen the way God works to convert him ever since he joined me in the last few RCIA lessons. Truthfully, I never had to nag him for this to happen. I prayed, not very well, in fact, but I also shared with him what I learnt in class. He had never touched the Bible before but today, reads it daily. In fact, we both teach Sunday School at our parish and he loves bonding with the kids.
God listens and I believe it is to God’s glory that 2 silly sheep returned to His fold, not just one.
The point I’m trying to make is this: I think that your friends are waiting to be reawakened to their faith. And maybe you’ve been called in your own simple way to touch them.
The Bible states that the Father is more eager to find that one lost sheep than to know He still has 99 safe sheep. (Matthew 18;12-14). It also tells us that equipped with knowledge, we can admonish our friends and instruct them (Romans 15:14). Finally, Colossians 3:12-16 tells us how we should behave always - with compassion, humility and patience - because we too are humans and imperfect.
So while I agree one does not need to ‘say anything’ to chastise these people lest one appears self-righteous, I also believe it depends on what one chooses to say and how.
One good way to evangelise without ‘evangelising’ is to pray for them, as you already are. Another is to show them by example of your living. If your life is God’s message, then you are already doing your part as a missionary
God bless you and your family.
Leese, Malaysia.