What must I do when friend is giving bad example?

[Saintlucy]

I have a friend who was divorced. She is very devout. I don’t know if her marriage was annulled. I don’t think so because she told me she couldn’t get married in church. She has married another man outside of the Church. He is an unbeliever. However, she is carrying on in her ministries of chorister and catechist. She is receiving Holy Communion. I did bring this up with my priest and I did say that I didn’t know the circumstances and that maybe they were living chastely. I didn’t name her and I said that it was probably not my business and he agreed but…I don’t know the facts. All I know is that they are not sacramentally married. They are both too old to have children. Should I accept the status quo? It does disturb me if the Blessed Sacrament is defiled.

 

[Bon_Croix]

You could say…

“So-n-so, did you know that if you have had your past marriage annulled that you can have your current marriage blessed in the church?” Or, allude to it if you know someone who has had theirs blessed by bringing it up in conversation.

 

[SacredHeartBassist]

It’s not your business at all. Take the log out of your eye

 

[Saintlucy]

I’ve only just finished editing my post. Take the log out of our own eye. In charity.

 

[SacredHeartBassist]

It’s none of your business. You don’t know the state of her soul when she receives. Even Christ allowed Judas to eat his body at the last supper. Even if she is in a state of mortal sin, that’s between her and her confessor and God, not you.

 

[ConfusedLucy]

It usually does more harm than good when you confront someone like this.

 

[Bon_Croix]

In reality, if she is doing wrong, she is doing harm to the “Body of Christ”.

It is concern for her and the Church.

 

[BlackFriar]

Your priest in your parish where she is said:

I did bring this up with my priest and I did say that I didn’t know the circumstances and that maybe they were living chastely. I didn’t name her and I said that it was probably not my business and he agreed …

So let it go.
The only thing you “must” do is leave it up to the PP and not follow her example.