What parents can do about the sexualization of girls

[CarrieH]

Note: It’s been suggested to me by at least one female that women sometimes wear sexualised or, well, daring/revealing/clingy/whatever outfits not for the men but for other women. Some kind of competition. Something might be true in it.

This is so true, especially among teenagers. If the popular girls at school are wearing such things, the wanna-be-popular girls will copy them. They aren’t thinking about modesty or the image they might be presenting to the world by wearing such trashy outfits. They are more concerned with looking “fashionable” than anything else. And then they wonder why the boys don’t treat them like ladies…while they are dressed like streetwalkers! :tsktsk:

 

[chevalier]

This is so true, especially among teenagers. If the popular girls at school are wearing such things, the wanna-be-popular girls will copy them. They aren’t thinking about modesty or the image they might be presenting to the world by wearing such trashy outfits. They are more concerned with looking “fashionable” than anything else. And then they wonder why the boys don’t treat them like ladies…while they are dressed like streetwalkers! :tsktsk:

Yeah, that’s the thing. What’s a big problem is that sometimes there’s just no talking, no convincing, it just needs therapy. This is what I meant in my first, admittedly quite jaded and not very mild, post. In my contacts with non-Catholic environments, I’ve seen where insecurities about guys or about looks or the feminine changes can lead girls. I’m afraid decided and decisive reactions such as trowing away all the trashy outfits can’t help but can only deepen the disorders a girl already has, making her feel negated, misunderstood and whatnot. There are so many kinds of depression caused by a negative self-image, which often revolves around attractiveness, “expressing” one’s sex or indeed sexuality and the like. It’s a sensitive area. The fact that I rigorously believe that sexuality is not for public flauting, that to “express” sexuality is neither needed nor licit, doesn’t help all the damage I could cause by just putting my foot down and starting to preach in so far as I’m in the position to react.

Sometimes it’s like with other secularist ideas. You will defeat all the arguments the person has, but you cannot still change his positions. That is because arguments are secondary, as are all justifications, and they serve the aprioric purpose of justification, so in plain normal language, it’s just excuses that have nothing to do with why it actually happens.

 

[Jay2]

There is an equal obligation to explain that if a celibate life is chosen, you will have to suppress the natural internal urges of sex.

Substitute “suppress” to divert (?)

I think it’s Abercrombie that chooses where people poop for their billboards