What Should A Girl Do If She Had A Baby Because She Was Raped? Abort It Or Take It?

  • Thread starter Thread starter ericaabdon
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
E

ericaabdon

Guest
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
 
ericaabdon said:
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
Click to expand...
Abortion is NEVER (let me repeat) NEVER an option. She is to carry the baby to term and if she does not want to keep the baby then adoption is an option.
 
ericaabdon said:
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
Click to expand...
Well, being a child that is a result of rape I say please don’t kill us. These cases are not very common and also what has the child done to deserve the death penalty.
 
ericaabdon said:
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
Click to expand...
I’ll give you that this is a tough question!

Consider this - is it the fault of the child (or potential child a some may see it) that the mother was raped? Why should the child be denied life? The child did not cause the rape and indeed, if the mother aborts, becomes another victim of the rape.

The Catholic Church position is that abortion is contrary to the human dignity of the fetus since life begins at conception.

Since there are other options to abortion (adoption, keeping the child) doesn’t it become just a matter of convenience to the mother to abort the child? Is this a legitimate reason to abort?

Subrosa
 
If a life is created, then it must be of God.

Abortion is not an option. If the girl is too young or feels that mentally she can’t raise the baby because of the nature of the pregnancy, then she can always consider adoption.

There is no excuse for the murder of an innocent human being.

Many people use rape as a reason why abortion should remain legal. The extremely sad truth is that 99.9% of abortion is used as birth control and has nothing to do with rape.
 
In my personal opinion (for whatever it’s worth) I would whole-heartedley choose to keep the child, or at least give it up for adoption. We have no way of knowing what God has planned for this new life and we have no right to end it’s life just because it was conceived in a less than favorable way. It’s not the baby’s fault and if someone is to argue that they don’t want to be reminded of this horrible situation, why not at least give the child a chance to be brought up in a loving home?

I know it’s probably easier said than done, and thank God I’ve never been in this situation, but I pray that if I was I would keep the child.
 
Erica,

We may never kill an innocent baby under any circumstance. When a rape results in conception, there are two victims: the woman and the child.

If the woman does not feel emotionally or financially able to care for the child, giving the baby up for adoption would be her alternative.
 
ericaabdon said:
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
Click to expand...
She should be free to do whatever she wants, without any further outside coercion. Keep it or abort it, her call and hers alone.
 
not_a_theist said:
She should be free to do whatever she wants, without any further outside coercion. Keep it or abort it, her call and hers alone.
Click to expand...
What a horrible thought. I am so glad my mom didn’t think so little of me and decide that she would rather have me killed. What a shame that you would put so little emphases on life. The women should not have to suffer more than once, I can guarantee you that killing her child will not help her suffering, in fact it could make matters much worse. Those who think like this is not thinking of the girl in anyway.
 
not_a_theist said:
She should be free to do whatever she wants, without any further outside coercion. Keep it or abort it, her call and hers alone.
Click to expand...
And such would be the opinion of one or has no moral anchor other than themselves. You have not rejected God- you have made yourself god .
 
In 1964 a young girl was Raped and became pregnant. In the State she lived it was legal to have an abortion if you had been raped. but this young girl decided to do the only loving thing she could, she had the baby and gave it up for adoption!

That baby is now grown up, Married and has four beautiful children and a wonderful husband. Her name is Pam Stenzel, she is one of the biggest promoters of Chastity in the US today. She is a wonderful, vibrant woman who is not afraid of who she is or where she comes from. Was she a mistake? Did she deserve the death penalty because of the sin her Father commited?

God has given us the beautiful gift of sex, to be able to join Him in creating more people with souls that will last for all eternity! and with this great gift, comes great responsibility. I believe that God in His mercy respects the marital act, even when people do not. Hence people have been concieved through an act of abuse to the mother. But we cannot forget that the child concieved is still HER child. Her son or daughter, and killing the baby wont make her un-pregnant, it will just make her the mother of a dead son or daughter. No woman deserves to go through that kind of pain, especially when she is still trying to deal with the pain of being raped.
 
ericaabdon said:
i was just pondering so many times if a girl got pregnant because she was raped… i know that many of this kind of situation would have a great impact to the life of the “mother” or victim. and what if she was not ready to have the baby and yet she was bound of their faith?
Click to expand...
the premise is one of selfishness.

you think "a great impact to the life of the “mother” is the concern, but if you really want to talk about an impact… howza’ bout the impact the ‘mothers’ choice is going to have on the little baby? THAT is the real impact of abortion. a baby dies so that we can live as we wish.

It is the mothers ‘choice’ to abort. Its a choice just like she is free to choose to walk up to a random stranger and put a bullet in their head. the only difference is one form of murder is allowed by the state and the other would incur a state penalty. neither is right.
 
Hi,

That is one of the more popular ethical questions involving pro-life.

People argue for the abortion, because they believe that it helps the woman. Does it really?
  1. Whether there is abortion or not, the woman will still suffer from psychological trauma. It does not erase the fact that she was raped.
  2. As a matter of fact, women in denial of what happened, whether it is sexual abuse or rape, have more issues than women who decide to accept what happened and moved on. It is the same scenario as many issues all of us face. When we are in denial, we cannot move on.
  3. Aborting the child would be equivalent to denying it ever happened, although it did. (See point 2) Sweeping the problem under the rug does not erase it, nor does it help deal with it. As a matter of fact, it makes it worse. It makes her womb psychologically barren… that psychologically, she will develop fear of having children because she never overcame that traumatic moment of her life.
  4. If she decides to give birth to the child, it opens her to the possibility of moving on and having children in the future ( she accepts her identity as someone who brings forth life ). She may decide to give the child away for adoption afterwards.
  5. This way, the child does not pay for the father’s sin, and is given a chance of freedom that the father took away from the mother. One mistake does not erase another…
I wrote that quickly, I hope that helps.

God bless!
 
During some contention in Congress some years ago about abortion legislation, one of the legislators introduce some people who were born because their mother was raped. Naturally, these people were happy that their mother did not kill them, and they made it clear too.
 
Absolutely do not have them aborted. All life is precious.

BUT do not make the mistake of marrying the father, even if it is 'just" a date rape. Anyone who forces themselves on a woman will make a terrible husband. These folks are low lifes and creeps, and will make your life miserable (and badly influence your child as well).

I know someone in this situation and the marriage was doomed from the beginning. The resulting marriage and subsequent divorce proved to be very costly in every way possible. Do not feel forced into such a marriage, you are far better off raising the child yourself or giving them up for adoption.

Do not compound one mistake with a far bigger one.
 
It baffles me how society allows for these circumstances. So if a woman is victimized by rape then that gives her the right to victimize her child? Doesn’t make sense. Women who chose to abort often have to deal with the trauma of the rape and then the guilt of the abortion. How does that help her?
 
Mary Visits Elizabeth (Luke 1:39-45)

39At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, 40where she entered Zechariah’s home and greeted Elizabeth. 41When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. 42In a loud voice she exclaimed: “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! 43But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? 44As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. 45Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!”

Here, the not yet born John the Baptist, leaped consciously, and already was a temple of the Holy Spirit.

Some may say, that the mother has the choice to take the babies life, as it is a part of her… it is wrong, right upon conception, it already has become a separate life form of its own, and this becomes more evident as days pass by.

Pro-choice claims the question to be about the deprivation of the Mother’s right to choose, this is a perversion of the truth. The subject is wrong: the real question of abortion is the deprivation of the baby’s right to live.

Pro-life is wrong is when we force people to have no choice, thus depriving people of the God given right to free will. What Pro-lifer’s should really aspire to do is to educate, promote and share in the culture of life.
 
st_lucy said:
Well, being a child that is a result of rape I say please don’t kill us. **These cases are not very common **and also what has the child done to deserve the death penalty.
Click to expand...
St Lucy, thank you for speaking up. I will pray for you and your mother tonight.

I wanted to highlight what you said about pregnancy resulting from rape not being common. This is what I understand from the medical literature I’ve read also. Those of us who are familiar with NFP know that a woman is only fertile for a certain period each month. So the rape would need to occur during the fertile period. Then, it is possible that the adrenaline brought on by the rape would interfer with conception also.

But to answer the OP, I agree, in the unlikely event that a woman does get pregnant from a rape, she should carry the child and then give it up for adoption–unless she choose to keep the child. She should not be forced into the second violent event of aborting the baby.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top