What Should A Girl Do If She Had A Baby Because She Was Raped? Abort It Or Take It?

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not_a_theist said:
She should be free to do whatever she wants, without any further outside coercion. Keep it or abort it, her call and hers alone.
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I would agree. It is hopeful that she would choose to be generous or to obey her religion’s rules against abortion if her religion forbids it. But, ultimately, the decision must reside with her. The women who choose to bear a child of rape are great heroines that we should all look up to, but even that choice (at least post 1973) was a choice. If it were not a choice, what would be the heroism?
 
The unborn child is as much a victim of that rape as the mother. Rape is the only crime that carries a death penalty for the victim – who doesn’t even get a trial.
 
MSParrott said:
In my personal opinion (for whatever it’s worth) I would whole-heartedley choose to keep the child, or at least give it up for adoption. We have no way of knowing what God has planned for this new life and we have no right to end it’s life just because it was conceived in a less than favorable way. It’s not the baby’s fault and if someone is to argue that they don’t want to be reminded of this horrible situation, why not at least give the child a chance to be brought up in a loving home?

I know it’s probably easier said than done, and thank God I’ve never been in this situation, but I pray that if I was I would keep the child.
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bad things can happen to anyone. what if this rape victim had her arm or leg cut off instead? They would have to live with that reminder for the rest of their lives. But a baby is a 9 month project if you decide to adopt it out. Abortion can cause problems that can result in emotional crippling forever or could result in injury and being sterile! Abortion is not the solution. Only another bigger problem. “I was raped so I should have the right to murder”??? I don’t think so! Maybe the baby is God’s way of showing love and blessings and making the the horrible situation better? Maybe the baby is a divine gift in reparation for the pain of the ordeal?
thank God my mother was not aborted because she was the rape baby of a gangster!
 
Many years ago, I directed a pro-life program for young women. At any given time, there were two or three women in residence who were pregnant as a result of a rape. (The time was the early 1980s; the two or three women, in each case, were there among a much larger group of 40+ women.) Most of the rape victims placed their babies for adoption. Because all residents made use of regular counseling sessions, individual and group, each mama who chose adoption was well-prepared for that separation when the time came. The real issue is who lends support to women in crisis pregnancy, not should they abort? As long as people say “oh, she’s free to do what she wants” those same people stay outside the equation of giving life in any situation. The more important question is “what might I do to provide help?”
 
catharina said:
Many years ago, I directed a pro-life program for young women. At any given time, there were two or three women in residence who were pregnant as a result of a rape. (The time was the early 1980s; the two or three women, in each case, were there among a much larger group of 40+ women.) Most of the rape victims placed their babies for adoption. Because all residents made use of regular counseling sessions, individual and group, each mama who chose adoption was well-prepared for that separation when the time came. The real issue is who lends support to women in crisis pregnancy, not should they abort? As long as people say “oh, she’s free to do what she wants” those same people stay outside the equation of giving life in any situation. The more important question is “what might I do to provide help?”
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The best way to help is to volunteer at you local Crisis Pregnancy Center and/or give them financial support.
 
By all means, she should have the child and give it up for adoption if keeping it is not possible. 28 years ago I had an abortion for different reasons and my heart and soul has been aching ever since. I have confessed the abortion and I know God has forgiven me but I still live with the sorrow of loss of a beautiful life.
 
notatheist needs to learn the difference between license and freedom.
 
Having the baby turns the terrible misfortune of being raped into an immeasurable good of bringing a child into the world. Tough on the mother no doubt but how much would the pain be lessened after holding the child? Even if the child was given up for adoption, the good brought about could no doubt only bring about earnest healing. Having said that, as a father of a daughter, I can’t imagine how difficult the road would be for both mother and child. But I believe bringing the child into the world is the only way to create good from bad in that situation. Abortion, it seems to me, would only compound a terrbile act with additional feelings of guilt. :highprayer:
 
goodcatholicman said:
Having the baby turns the terrible misfortune of being raped into an immeasurable good of bringing a child into the world. Tough on the mother no doubt but how much would the pain be lessened after holding the child? Even if the child was given up for adoption, the good brought about could no doubt only bring about earnest healing. Having said that, as a father of a daughter, I can’t imagine how difficult the road would be for both mother and child. But I believe bringing the child into the world is the only way to create good from bad in that situation. Abortion, it seems to me, would only compound a terrbile act with additional feelings of guilt. :highprayer:
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In addition it turns an innocent party into a guilty one.
 
mikew262 said:
Because the law says so, like it or not.
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I bet many of us remember when the law did NOT say so - ever. For the history of the nation, for the history of mankind, laws have stood against abortion until very recently. Laws of the land, medical ethics, religious law have stood united against abortion until one generation ago.
 
mikew262 said:
Because the law says so, like it or not.
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Are you saying that “doing whatever she wants” is absolute. So I can do whatever I so desire as well?

Think about what absolute means before answering.
 
She most certainly should not abort. I would recommend adoption or raising the child themselves.
 
mikew262 said:
Because the law says so, like it or not.
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Legal does not necessarily equal moral. My 4th graders understand this. I wonder what happens to so many adults along the way to adulthood that causes them to ignore this very obvious fact?

– Mark L. Chance.
 
mlchance said:
Legal does not necessarily equal moral. My 4th graders understand this. I wonder what happens to so many adults along the way to adulthood that causes them to ignore this very obvious fact?

– Mark L. Chance.
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Agree. I wonder the same.
 
mlchance said:
Legal does not necessarily equal moral. My 4th graders understand this. I wonder what happens to so many adults along the way to adulthood that causes them to ignore this very obvious fact?

– Mark L. Chance.
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People who would be outraged if the bank legally foreclosed on a poor widow woman will stand up and tell you it’s legal – and moral – for that widow woman’s grand-daughter to “choose” to murder her great grand-daughter.
 
The law does not, even now, say the woman can do ‘whatever she wants’. Currently the state and/or government law does NOT state, “Her body–she can choose what she wants to do with it”. . .ask anybody who has been arrested for illegal drug taking, or prostitution, or mutilation, or public nudity/lewd behavior, etc.
 
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