What should I do since I am married to a narcissist?

[Lily_Valley]

The Catholic church teaches that in order for a marriage to be valid certain things must be present, for ex: a person must enter into the (marriage)relationship freely and without coercion, and they must be emotionally mature enough to enter into a reciprocal loving relationship with the other person (their spouse)-so…
What happens when you find yourself married to a severely narcissistic person who sees you as an object to constantly fulfill their own needs, not as a seperate and individual person. And when they are too emotionally immature to be capable of any healthy “reciprocal” loving relationship with another adult?
What if your marriage does not resemble any kind of adult partnership, but instead looks like one of a parent raising a perpetual, needy, demanding and insecure six year old?

 

[Fr.Vincent_Serpa]

Dear friend,

First of all I would examine my own motivation for marrying him. There is a context here and you are a part of it. There could well have been some immaturity on your part as well.

If you should divorce and seek an annulment, there must be people available who witnessed immaturity in either of you at the time of the wedding and can vouch for this. You are in my prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.