What should I do with this friend

[Eric_Peter]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things like “f# you, go die please, your whole family die please, your mother is a prostitute and hope she die from HIV, your father die from car accident etc etc” whenever she’s not happy with me,
calling me selfish when her demand is not met, pestering me to buy stuff for her,
and consistently call me most night when i’m trying to sleep (the call sometimes disturbs me from having peaceful sleeping unless i’m really tired then i wont notice the phone vibration in silent mode or a very soft ringtone)

what do you think I should do with her? continue to being kind with her or just walk away and say goodbye to our friendship forever and block her from my cellphone and Live Windows Messenger?

I would love to walk away from her very much because I really hate her attitude but I do not know if this is the right thing to do.

 

[Edward_H]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things like “f# you, go die please, your whole family die please, your mother is a prostitute and hope she die from HIV, your father die from car accident etc etc” whenever she’s not happy with me,
calling me selfish when her demand is not met,
and consistently call me most night when i’m trying to sleep (the call sometimes disturbs me from having peaceful sleeping unless i’m really tired then i wont notice the phone vibration in silent mode or a very soft ringtone)

what do you think I should do with her? continue to being kind with her or just walk away and say goodbye to our friendship forever and block her from my cellphone and Live Windows Messenger?

I would like to walk away from her very much but I do not know if this is the right thing to do.

Wow…sounds like you’ve been plenty giving with her so far. What’s the best thing for her long term? Maybe a conversation that goes like this:

Look, . I may not be as smart as you and you may not like me as much as I am trying to be your friend. I want the best thing for you, but I can’t keep taking your verbal assaults. Call me weak, call me stupid, but I am honest and I mean well. If you can’t treat me with some reasonable level of dignity, I need to go my own way. So please - for a moment - listen to me. I will be happy to be your friend, but it’s a two way street.

And if she continues, pray for her, and then end firmly the relationship.

And watch out for short term changes - you need to see signs of long term changes.

God Bless.

 

[DCNBILL]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things like “f# you, go die please, your whole family die please, your mother is a prostitute and hope she die from HIV, your father die from car accident etc etc” whenever she’s not happy with me,
calling me selfish when her demand is not met, pestering me to buy stuff for her,
and consistently call me most night when i’m trying to sleep (the call sometimes disturbs me from having peaceful sleeping unless i’m really tired then i wont notice the phone vibration in silent mode or a very soft ringtone)

what do you think I should do with her? continue to being kind with her or just walk away and say goodbye to our friendship forever and block her from my cellphone and Live Windows Messenger?

I would love to walk away from her very much because I really hate her attitude but I do not know if this is the right thing to do.

This is a friend? Read your post back to yourself in the context of someone asking you the same thing. I think that you will know what to do.

 

[Trishie]

She needs prayers.

However you would be wise to withdraw from this unloving destructive friendship. By remaining friends with a person who believes it’s okay to treat anyone so rudely and unkindly, you are only confirming her in the belief that it is okay to treat others like this. It isn’t. And it’s not okay for people to manipulate others, exercising power over them. By continuing such a “friendship” you would be confirming that it’s okay for her to exercise selfish power over any other person.
God bless you.
And God bless her, and may God protect others from such treatment.

 

[Scoobyshme]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things like “f# you, go die please, your whole family die please, your mother is a prostitute and hope she die from HIV, your father die from car accident etc etc” whenever she’s not happy with me,
calling me selfish when her demand is not met, pestering me to buy stuff for her,
and consistently call me most night when i’m trying to sleep (the call sometimes disturbs me from having peaceful sleeping unless i’m really tired then i wont notice the phone vibration in silent mode or a very soft ringtone)

what do you think I should do with her? continue to being kind with her or just walk away and say goodbye to our friendship forever and block her from my cellphone and Live Windows Messenger?

I would love to walk away from her very much because I really hate her attitude but I do not know if this is the right thing to do.

I would shake the dust off of my sandals where she was concerned. Pray for her, but by all means, move on. Tell her that you will pray for her, but you are moving on and wish the best for her. Otherwise, you are an occasion to sin for her by enabling her to abuse you.

 

[Catholic1954]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things like “f# you, go die please, your whole family die please, your mother is a prostitute and hope she die from HIV, your father die from car accident etc etc” whenever she’s not happy with me,
calling me selfish when her demand is not met, pestering me to buy stuff for her,
and consistently call me most night when i’m trying to sleep (the call sometimes disturbs me from having peaceful sleeping unless i’m really tired then i wont notice the phone vibration in silent mode or a very soft ringtone)

what do you think I should do with her? continue to being kind with her or just walk away and say goodbye to our friendship forever and block her from my cellphone and Live Windows Messenger?

I would love to walk away from her very much because I really hate her attitude but I do not know if this is the right thing to do.

Please explain why you think walking away from such a disagreeable, uncharitable person would not be the right thing to do? Is it really ok with you for her to insult your family and demand that you purchase for her whatever she wants? Are you willing to put with sleepless nights for the rest of your life to be at her beck and call? If this is your idea of “friendship” then you need to seek counceling and find out why you have such low self esteem. Come on, you deserve better! With friends like this, who needs enemies?

 

[stringbeanduck]

It’s real simple man. Tell her that you care for her and love her as your sister in Christ. But be clear that you will not tolerate any more rude behavior. So next time when she tells you to flip off or whatever, cut off contact. Then she’ll do one of two things. Stop talking to you or apologize and begin to be more nice.

When you put up with bad attitude, you enable it. You’re basically saying " Okay go ahead and walk over me." Kind of like a pair of rich grandparents who naively give their young adult granddaughter money, that get’s used for drugs instead of the food and clothes she promised she would buy.

Again, stop putting up with her attitude. When you say enough and cut off contact. Then she’ll learn.

 

[agnes_therese]

Eric, this person is NOT your friend. A friend wouldn’t say things like that to you. Yes, you should walk away. Pray for her, but walk away.

 

[puzzleannie]

I have a friend who constantly call me stupid, low intelligent level, not smart etc just because she doesn’t agree with me on most of the things, saying hurtful things o.

you are mistaken, this person is not a friend. Do some study on the real nature of friendship, for instance by St. Augustine. Surround yourself with people who share your beliefs, world view and are capable of caring for each other and being Christian witnesses to each other and the world. There is no need to accept abusive behavior from anyone, much less to invite it by allowing such persons on social networks, virtual or real. You may do her much good by telling her frankly, but kindly, that you can keep up contact with her while such behavior is going on.

 

[Musician]

She doesn’t sound much like a friend. I would drop her, and quickly.