What should I expect leaving the PCA?

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Hi! I’m currently in RCIA and I’m trying to work up the courage to talk to my parents about it. I’m 20. I grew up Southern Baptist but my family left that and joined a local Presbyterian (PCA) church when I was 12. My parents are not anti-Catholic, but I really have no idea what to expect from my friends in the PCA. I’ve read horror stories about women being counseled to divorce their husbands by the PCA for becoming Catholic. If anybody here has come into the Catholic Church from the PCA or any other conservative, evangelical denomination, would you be willing to tell what it was like for you? I think I’m going to go through with it and become Catholic, but I just need some encouragement. Thank you!
 
I sent my letter of resignation to my former PCA church on Halloween. I stopped attending last May. So here is my experience: once I announced that I was looking for another church a friend of four years stopped communicating with me. I attended last August one Sunday and most people wouldn’t talk to me. There was some attempts last summer to get me to come back to the church. I never told anyone that I was attending a Catholic Church.

A lot of this behavior I assume was because no one particularly cared for me. Their friendship was conditional on my attending that particular church. I have only one other group of Evangelical friends to deal with, and I haven’t told them yet. Those I may well lose them too. 🤷

But it is a small price to pay for going to the Church with the fullness of truth.
 
I think I’m going to go through with it and become Catholic, but I just need some encouragement. Thank you!
The most encouraging thing I can tell you is: this too shall pass. Being persecuted and rejected for following Jesus Christ in the Church is sort of standard. But keep in mind, angels in heaven are rejoicing over your conversion and more friends await you.
 
I am also in RCIA. I was baptized in 2003 in the Assemblies of God, which is a pretty anti-catholic denomination. Most AG folks don’t even consider Catholics to actually be Christians. They would consider “catholic” countries like the Philippines or South American places like Mexico and brazil to be "unsaved’ places needing to be “evangelized” because the indigenous people are not “born agian”, nor “baptized in the Holy spirit with the evidence of speaking tin tongues.” Their misperceptions, to name a few are pretty typical:
  1. Think Catholics worship Mary and the saints, statues, icons being idols, etc.
  2. No room for sacraments; it’s all internal and personal. The only “ordinances” they acknowledge are baptism and communion, neither of which are necessary, in essence, because they are not needed for “salvation.” They acknowledge only that these things are done in obedience to Christ… But no penalty, or separation from Christ, is attached to a failure to observe them.
Early in my conversion to Christ (as a protestant), I became exposed to “Jesus only” teachings and as a result was shown the importance of the early church belief (since they were much closer to the apostles in time) and how the early church councils of 325 and 381AD affirmed the Trinitarian view. The bible, I saw, could legitimately be read a number of ways. I still affirmed sola-scriptura however with the caveat that anyone with the “anointing” from the holy spirit (tying together 1 John 2:27 and 2 Peter1:20-21) would come to the same conclusions about most any subject of biblical interpretation, as long as they were using proper hermeneutical principles, etc… Even with the shortened protestant new testament canon, however, I still came to some catholic conclusions and tendencies, such as not finding purgatory objectionable, works and faith needed for salvation, or that Jesus really is present in the Eucharist, etc.

I was still, however, staunchly anti-Marian, which is a definite trademark of the assemblies of God. Interestingly, AG literature and bible teaching clearly affirms that Jesus is fully God and fully man, a doctrine settled a mere 50 years later at the council of Ephesus in 431AD. Some of their publications and literature even affirm that particular council as support for this belief, although it ramifications are ignored (more on that shortly).

My turning point started when I read the actual text of the Council of Ephesus. I read the actual letters and collected teachings from Nestorius as it was read into the record of the council. Keeping in mind the early date of this council (only 50 years after the 381 council that finalized the “believe” creeds), this had to carry some weight and was not just some “darkened” middle ages superstitions of the “Catholic” church… I was shocked… I was a Nestorian! I believed exactly like he did! His argument was that Mary was the human mother of Jesus, but not the Mother of God. By saying that it was not proper to call Her the Theotokos, The Church decided that he was saying that Jesus was not fully God. He gave various scriptural arguments about the way St Paul uses the Term the Word (logos) or Christ in some places and Jesus in others to denote two separate natures or persons… A man inhabited by God, as it were. Nestorius, like myself and many protestants, was concerned about attributing any of Christ’s divinity to Mary by virtue of her maternity to Christ, even to the point that he could not acknowledge that she “bore God” in an earthly way.

The question loomed in my mind for several years and over that time, I shared this finding with a few of my AG friends. Another factor was a conviction that Jesus was really present in the Eucharist, although my understanding was more “Consubstantial” or spiritual than literal and “transubstantial”. But I definitely appreciated the importance that the Catholic church showed towards the Eucharist… something that was definitely lacking where I was at. Once a month with a crumb and grape juice just did not seem to cut it. I guess I can also say that early on, even to the very first day I confessed Christ in 2003, I saw the value that a personal, verbal, confession of sins had towards making effective repentance (as opposed to confessing them only nebulously to the unseen “God”).

However, it took several years and many little seeds planted here and there by catholic friends and acquaintances before I really gave myself over to investigating the possibility that these “institutions” of Christianity (Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox) could possibly be the valid teachers of Christianity. Once I was open to the possibility, I found it actually made more sense than any of the other competing ideas. Lots of formerly strange passages of scripture made more sense. Things like Jesus giving care of his mother to John the Apostle makes much more sense if Jesus has no other biological siblings, for instance. Also, the allegorical meaning of John representing the church also makes more sense not only out of “behold your mother”, but also out of phrases with respect to John like “the disciple whom Jesus loved” of whom he said “if I will that he remain until I come…” (as the church will indeed, even though John pointed out that that did not necessarily pertain to him personally)… And I could go on and on and on…

I would expect that you can probably expect people to want to argue with you based on their misconceptions of Catholic theology. Since I am in much the same position as yourself, I can only say that the best thing is to study scripture, the church councils, early church fathers, and learn your faith and The Catechism well. On YouTube this guy has a great channel where he explains different Catholic Dogmas in a very concise, easy to understand way:

youtube.com/user/seanwithjesus

Peace be with you.
 
I find it interesting that within Presbyterianism that the the more socially conservative denominations such as the PCA are also the most hostile or at very least suspicious of the RCC. The RCC, not necessarily all its members, takes quite a conservative view on many of the same social issues the PCA does, yet the animosity from the PCA. On the other hand, take the PC USA whose stance on various social issues is far more liberal, in the scenario the OP explains, would be far more forgiving and less hostile the concept of one becoming a RCC.
Those are just my thoughts on the kinda dissonance that seems to go on there and its just based on reading up on whats been going on over in the Presbyterian world, so if I am wrong on this, please let me know. But, if I am right, why? Is it just the PCUSA whole emphasis on tolerance and maybe a more post modern world view or something else. I have heard Methodists tend to be rather ecumenical and warm towards Catholics so at least some Protestants choose to emphasis what we have in common rather than the disagreements.

Prayers
 
Thank you all for your replies! Waxwing, what I meant was that they are a very theology-based church (also very socially conservative though), and don’t take well to different teachings. Sorry for the confusion. The church I come from takes the writings of John Piper, Tim Keller, Charles Spurgeon, and Jonathan Edwards as canon, more or less. Let’s just say that I’ve NEVER heard anyone ever disagree with anything these men ever said. They are very into sola fide and sola scriptura and focus heavily on having a strong personal relationship with Christ. Now I’ve been reading a lot of Scott Hahn and Karl Keating, and I feel like I could hold my own in a purely intellectual discussion. However, I realize that that is only a small piece of the pie. As someone who in high school was SUPER involved in the youth group I’m really worried about what the reaction will be to me basically telling them that I believe that a lot of what they spent years teaching me is false. A lot of these people are my friends and I really don’t want them to think that I’m betraying them or think they’re going to hell or anything like that.
 
You should read, “Rome Sweet Home” by Scott and Kimberly Hahn. Scott was a an up and coming PCA minister who decided to become Catholic. The book is about their faith journey together and the problems they faced and solved, from their church, families and friends and even their marriage. (Kimberly was advised at one point to divorce Scott.) As you will see there were many roadblocks, but the Holy Spirit lead the way, as usual!
 
Hi! I’m currently in RCIA and I’m trying to work up the courage to talk to my parents about it. I’m 20. I grew up Southern Baptist but my family left that and joined a local Presbyterian (PCA) church when I was 12. My parents are not anti-Catholic, but I really have no idea what to expect from my friends in the PCA. I’ve read horror stories about women being counseled to divorce their husbands by the PCA for becoming Catholic. If anybody here has come into the Catholic Church from the PCA or any other conservative, evangelical denomination, would you be willing to tell what it was like for you? I think I’m going to go through with it and become Catholic, but I just need some encouragement. Thank you!
I think it depends on the church. I am ex-PCA, I had a hard time with my dad because he is a PCA minister. When I visited the church where I was baptized in search of a certificate, the pastor was very courteous and wished me well on my journey of faith. PCA does tend to be more anti-catholic since it is so conservative, and calvinists tend to think that they ahve a a hold on all divine truth (no offnese to any calvinists reading this).
 
smp501: Perhaps if you explain to your friends you are in search of historic or authentic Christianity they make take it okay. You don’t have to tell them flat out that everything they believe is false. My particular PCA was using lines from the Catholic liturgy for some reason, I guess to put ritual back into the Evangelical church? :confused: So if asked, you could say that you need a connection with the ancient church.

But you still may get negative reactions. I have heard fairly young people state that Catholics are legalistic and not Christians but I find that older Protestants hold the strongest anti-Catholic beliefs.
 
You should read, “Rome Sweet Home” by Scott and Kimberly Hahn. Scott was a an up and coming PCA minister who decided to become Catholic. The book is about their faith journey together and the problems they faced and solved, from their church, families and friends and even their marriage. (Kimberly was advised at one point to divorce Scott.) As you will see there were many roadblocks, but the Holy Spirit lead the way, as usual!
I aboslutely LOVED that book. It almost brings tears to my eyes, when I think about thier journey. It is so well explained. I highly reccomended this book, weather you are considering the Catholic faith, or you are a lifetime passionate Catholic!👍
 
Hi! I’m currently in RCIA and I’m trying to work up the courage to talk to my parents about it. I’m 20. I grew up Southern Baptist but my family left that and joined a local Presbyterian (PCA) church when I was 12. My parents are not anti-Catholic, but I really have no idea what to expect from my friends in the PCA. I’ve read horror stories about women being counseled to divorce their husbands by the PCA for becoming Catholic. If anybody here has come into the Catholic Church from the PCA or any other conservative, evangelical denomination, would you be willing to tell what it was like for you? I think I’m going to go through with it and become Catholic, but I just need some encouragement. Thank you!
Read everything you can by Scott Hahn. He did what you are doing.
 
wait so do we have to send a letter of resignation to our former church because i have a family member who owns the house me and my grandmother live in and if i sent my former church a letter he might kick us out he almost did earlier this year and he has never been fond of Catholics or me and my grandma for that matter
also my uncle is also a member of a PCA church
 
wait so do we have to send a letter of resignation to our former church because i have a family member who owns the house me and my grandmother live in and if i sent my former church a letter he might kick us out he almost did earlier this year and he has never been fond of Catholics or me and my grandma for that matter
also my uncle is also a member of a PCA church
Sometimes doing the right thing requires thoughtful prayer. A letter may be in order someday…when???
 
around January he sent us a fax that he wanted us to move out he lives right next door and his second kid was getting married then one day my grandma had a talk with him and he alof the sudden change his mind we think his son didnt want us to be kicked out dont get me wrong i love him my grandma hit a hard time and had to sell the house to him and i thank him for letting us live in the house all these years with out having to pay but we are going to start paying the taxs on the house and we have been having work done on the house. but wht worries me is he is a very judgmental person and even tho he is family i can see him kicking me and my grandma out of our home because im becoming a catholic btw just to clarify this uncle is my grandmas nefew so her brothers son
 
Hi! I’m currently in RCIA and I’m trying to work up the courage to talk to my parents about it. I’m 20. I grew up Southern Baptist but my family left that and joined a local Presbyterian (PCA) church when I was 12. My parents are not anti-Catholic, but I really have no idea what to expect from my friends in the PCA. I’ve read horror stories about women being counseled to divorce their husbands by the PCA for becoming Catholic. If anybody here has come into the Catholic Church from the PCA or any other conservative, evangelical denomination, would you be willing to tell what it was like for you? I think I’m going to go through with it and become Catholic, but I just need some encouragement. Thank you!
Well, just for the record to encourage you. The coming home network asked me to sponsor a former 24 year veteran Presbyterian Minister. He came into the Church with his wife this past Easter Vigil.
 
FutureCatholic1: I sent the letter mainly because I wanted to clarify that I wasn’t coming back and not to send me requests for money. I wasn’t quite sure who to address it to and I actually had to get a church bulletin to find the church office address (they meet at a school and another church.) I am not sure whether they will accept it or not. The Book of Church Order has something about counseling someone who is joining an unacceptable church. Other than that they would in theory need to drop me after a year, but with them who knows.🤷

So you don’t have to do anything, if you think that would help. But someone will find out eventually. My mother is busy telling all my relatives. She actually guessed I was becoming Catholic.
 
i know people will find out some people already do i just don’t want my bad judgmental uncle who owns the house me and my grandmother live in to find out and my grandmother to have to be punished for me joining the catholic church its one thing if people attack me its another when they take it out on my family of course i am still going to join the RCC but i was worried that i would be required to send a letter i know they will find out but im hoping that wont be until later on in the future tho
 
talked to my my pastor uncle not the judgmental one and he told me that i shouldn’t worrie about it that he thinks he would just make snide comments
 
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