What should I know about marrying into a Catholic family?

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TC apparently believes he is mistreated by the Catholic Church because he is not Catholic.
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I would say mistreatment is a very strong word, I personally would go with unwelcoming and/or strange. All I have done is tell my experiences and that of my neighbor who is also in a mixed marriage at the parish… ¯_(ツ)_/¯ If you deem that mistreatment, so be it.

It’s gotten to the point that my wife is looking at parish hopping (again) because she’s about done with it as well. A homily with the just that non-Catholic men look at women as toys and don’t respect them was pretty much the last straw for her…
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What he talks about is something I’ve never experienced as a non-Catholic attending Mass, nor have I ever seen anyone treated the way he says he is. Many others have also never seen a non-Catholic spouse treated poorly by a parish and it is certainly not the way any Catholic community should treat anyone.
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That’s awesome, truly is. I’ve always welcomed stories about how other parishes welcome non-Catholics and non-Catholic spouses specifically…gives me a ray of hope. I hope I’m not detecting a tinge of sarcasm there where you may not believe the experiences that I have shared across the board.

Anywho OP – what I was getting at is: Once you say that you’re going to raise the children in both faiths, the usual posters will swoop in and say A) You can’t do that, they need to be raised Catholic and nothing else (your spouse will need to promise that) and B) Rail against mixed marriages.
 
I have known many “mixed” couples over the years and have not seen the negatives so often mentioned here. Usually they have it planned out better ahead of time and have good, open communication. This is a benefit in marriage. I have seen many Catholic couples run into problems because one’s “brand” of Catholicism changes over time, or one loses faith, or one grows deeper in faith, etc. Mixed marriages often are more open to faith evolutions than singular faith marriages. The key is forming your own unique unit that talks things through, shields one another from outsider’s criticisms, and defends one another when necessary. Don’t go looking for fights and learn the power of walking away when possible. Look for the best in others and avoid conversations that revolve around religion. Often it is easier to find morals and values that can be agreed upon versus styles of worship or specifics about beliefs. Being open to understanding your future in laws is really good. It will help you see their good intentions. Even if you don’t quite get it, you will be able to tell when their hearts are in the right place. By showing you truly appreciate that, they will begin to see the good intentions behind your ways as well. May God bless you all and your future marriage!
 
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Thanks. I’m very open two others’ beliefs and I respect them. I may not agree with everything, but I have faith that God will guide this marriage.
 
No, the Catholic spouse is required to try to raise the children Catholic.

The bigger issue is that LDS and Catholicism are polar opposites when it comes to thelology that you will have to teach your children that there is no truth, that it is all relative.

The basic concept of God is as different as night and day.

Eternal progression is contrary to Catholic Dogma.

This list could go on and on, but, two opposing things cannot both be true. Kids are smart. They won’t buy it.
 
As has already been mentioned the Catholic will be required to attempt to raise their children Catholic.

Catholics see contraception as a sin so that may cause issues.

Were you baptized before you joined the LDS Church? If you were I think it will be a mixed marriage. If not I think you will be seen as non Christian for the purposes of Canon Law. It may not be relevant (I’d expect the Priest will sort it out), but in case it is mentioned. Don’t take it personally.

You and any other non Catholics should not received Holy Communion.
 
I was baptized in a Baptist church before I became LDS, and was baptized again.
 
Maybe someone e.g. @acanonlawyer can confirm but I’m pretty sure you’ll be seen as a Christian for the purposes of Canon Law then.
 
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