What should married divorciees do?

[Montie_Claunch]

I was just wondering. I know that a lot of people get divorced and remarry. When that happens and the person finds out about what Jesus says about that, what would be the proper response to that? Should they leave their current family? Should they stay with the family that their with? I find it rather confusing. I am not in that situation nor do I know of anyone in that situation but, my aunt had thought about it outload once or twice. Thanks and God bless.

 

[JezuUfamTobie]

According to Church teaching, they should cease to live as husband and wife with their new “spouses”.

I would recommend that such a person seek information about obtaining a decree of nullity. If the first marriage is found to be null, the second can be blessed. If the first marriage is found to be a real marriage, then the person must lead a celibate life (assuming circumstances prevent the person from returning to his true spouse). He is still, of course, responsible for helping to raise any children from either marriage. While these matters are being investigated, it is acceptable for the person to continue to live as brother and sister with the second “spouse”. In reference to leaving one’s family if the first marriage was not found to be null, long-term solutions should be discussed with a trustworthy and orthodox priest.

 

[StCsDavid]

I doubt there is one pat answer for that. Every situation has its unique complications. I suppose consult with a priest; pray; and don’t profane any of the sacraments would be some first steps. I don’t believe one would have license to walk away from obligations to the new family started by the second marriage.

 

[Jesusismylord]

According to Church teaching, they should cease to live as husband and wife with their new “spouses”.

I would recommend that such a person seek information about obtaining a decree of nullity. If the first marriage is found to be null, the second can be blessed. If the first marriage is found to be a real marriage, then the person must lead a celibate life (assuming circumstances prevent the person from returning to his true spouse). He is still, of course, responsible for helping to raise any children from either marriage. While these matters are being investigated, it is acceptable for the person to continue to live as brother and sister with the second “spouse”. In reference to leaving one’s family if the first marriage was not found to be null, long-term solutions should be discussed with a trustworthy and orthodox priest.

This is an excellent teaching on the subject:
IN TRUTH AND LOVE -A Letter from the Catholic Bishops of Pennsylvania to Their Priests on the Pastoral Care of Divorced and Remarried Catholics

http://www.pacatholic.org/bishops’%20statements/truth.htm